Dumped by text ( part 2)

[RunningInRain]

Hi, it’s been suggested I start a new thread as last one nearly full.
My previous name was user1471427667 and in the early hours of one morning nearly 6 weeks ago, my seemingly wonderful boyfriend of two years sent me this text message:
“Hey I’ve been thinking about us and it’s just not working out so best to end it. No need to reply. All the best.”
I was completely blindsided at being dumped when there seemed to be no reason, but mostly at the cold, dismissive way he did it. The words “no need to reply” were particularly cruel. I started a thread on here and was overwhelmed by the support. It’s no exaggeration to say, I was on the floor crying a lot of the first few days (and a few since) .
Even though I was, at first, desperate to talk to him, I didn’t. I knew there could be no ‘good’ outcome of me contacting him. It’s now been 6 weeks and he has sent a few messages - nothing substantial and no apology.
I’m slowly feeling stronger, helped by my friends, this thread, my new found love of running, especially in storms (hence my new name) and by choosing everyday not to reply to him.
I’m not over him yet, so hopefully this thread will continue to help me keep on the right path and help others going through something similar.
Can hear the rain lashing against my windows so I’m off for a run!

Also just read both threads. OP you are quite simply amazing! I hope you are still doing well.
Total admiration for how you handled that.

Gosh, when I posted on this thread yesterday I had no idea it was over six months old. It came up in my 'active' list so I thought it was current.
Having said that, I'm still thrilled I came across it as I am so in awe of the poster's dignified response to the ae who dumped her in such a callous way.
I hope she is thriving in her new life.

Just looking at this thread for old times sake and can’t believe all the lovely supportive messages that have been added for both me and others .
Am feeling really reflective today, plus am enjoying an unexpected day off, so found myself here ;-)
I still run, and If it’s raining I do sometimes get ‘flashbacks’ of what I went through last year. Only, I don’t cry now because I know I somehow got through it and got stronger. I mentally thank my ex for that and run harder!
I know ( through mutual friends and through letters) that my ex regrets ending things . I would have jumped at the chance at one time to get back with him, but not anymore. For me, there came a point - well more of a gradual realisation- that I deserved more.
I met someone late last year and despite me putting on my best ice queen act, we have become closer and closer and Im starting to realise how special he is to me. I’m not trying to make this sound like a ‘happy ever after’ but it feels somehow just.....right.
No contact worked for me. It didn’t stop the initial pain, but it was my way of coming through this with my dignity and integrity in tact.
To anyone going through anything similar, my heart goes out to you. Take a deep breath, believe in yourself and your strength to get through this.
Xx

Very happy life is turning out so lovely for you! I’ve seen your thread posted a few time’s in relationships- to inspire other women about how to handle this type of scenario. So you’ve helped a lot of people

@RunningInRain you're amazing, so happy for you 😊😘 xxxx

Fabulous update! Glad to hear all is going well for you.

Thank you for the update, your Tesco moment is coming soon, I can feel it! xx

There were times I actually dreamed of getting my Tesco car park moment haha! I’d toss my hair and click my heels and walk past him feeling fabulous!
I don’t really have that desire anymore - maybe it’s just been so long now
There is a part of me that feels a bit sorry for him. He is the one that has to live knowing he treated someone so badly.

Op
This is a happy ending story regardless what ever happens with your new partner. You rediscovered your self worth after he thrashed it in an instant. That's priceless💐

Wonderful update x

I always point people to this thread @RunningInRain whenever they need a masterclass in dignified silence. Congratulations on your wonderful life without that weapons grade wanker.

Have just found this and your earlier thread after looking for advice for my daughter who was dumped recently. Just wondering if you are still about OP and how you are doing?

Hi OP
I, too, feel your pain and applaud you for blocking him and doing the running. However, Im unable to run and it doesn't rain much here. I wish I had that but the blocking part was helpful to me. Whether he knows it or not it keeps me from wondering if hes contacting me and keeps me from contacting him. Keep posting

I've been on mumsnet since the very start and this is one of my favourite ever threads. Total masterclass.

ZOMBIE

Just read this as it was linked in another thread (where someone got dumped by text after 6 years!) - hope things are still good for you
Your thread reminded me of that Beautiful South song, 'A little time'

Just reading this thread after I saw it linked @RunningInRain I'd love to know how you are these days? x

@MNHQ - can’t we put this and the previous thread in classics?? It’s been so helpful!!

Would love to know how you are now @RunningInRain

And also @Newtothis5643

I hope life has been good to you since your last posts

I love this thread

@RunningInRain

I’ve just read through your threads after they were referenced to in another one.

It really has been an interesting read. You could write a book! You have a really good writing style.

I believe he is a narcissist, and as painful as it was for you to experience, I am glad you didn’t block him so that you could see his behaviour pan out over the longer period of time. That can often be helpful to better understand something that doesn’t make sense.

I’m glad you channelled your pain into something constructive too.

Wishing you well!

Just read this thread after it was linked in a current thread. Would love to know how things are now?