Dating Thread 185. Rule 6 reminder - People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.

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The Rules: 1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating. 2. Develop a thick skin. 3. Do not invest emotionally too soon. 4. It's all BS until it actually happens. 5. Trust your gut instinct. 6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault. 7. Know your worth. 8. If it's not fun, stop. 9. Loo update is mandatory. 10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy. Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps click here ** Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Lovely update @Sunshineandflipflops glad to hear it's going so well.

@Dazedandconfused10 unless you have spoken about being exclusive I've always assumed we are both still dating. So I'd meet the second date. Or speak to the first. If you are both still on the apps I'd assume that means talking to and being open to meet others.

shitwith hope you are home soon, sounds really scary.

@shitwithsugaron hope you are feeling better soon and they let you come home x

@shitwithsugaron, hope you get home soon
After a chat with Mr Photography on Sunday night it's confirmed my feelings that it's only going to be a FWB scenario there. I just need to decide if that's what I want. Probably it would suit me for the next month or so as I am so busy with the play that I am doing. Hoping to see Mr Cocky on Friday and we're even talking about going out together next week. We've met at other times but this would be only our second evening drinking date in the almost 6 years that I have known him ! Chatting a lot to one other iron, Mr Property who I intend to meet out of curiosity. And my ex Mr Print still persevering in asking me to do things with him. In my most f**k OLD moments I am deeply tempted to give things another go.

@shitwithsugaron 🌻🌷 You poor thing, hope you start feeling better soon and you get home today. MrL sounds like a good 'un. x

@shitwithsugaron sounds very scary but hope you feel better soon and glad and Mr List is being so supportive.

@Notcoolmum no chats about exclusivity. In fact not really any discussion around that side of things at all. Maybe it's too soon though. This whole thing has made me regress into being a teenager.

@Dazedandconfused10 is usually had the how are you finding tinder (or other app) conversation and it happened from there. My last 2 told me quite early on they were just dating me. With Mr S he knew I was dating others but didn't ask me to stop, just said he wasn't going to. Once I'd slept with my last 2 irons I knew at that point I didn't want to be dating other people so had the conversation then.

@shitwithsugaron I think frustrated is the right word to describe it at the moment. The surgeon went through an old scar that had a small amount of nerve damage on it and now I have a bigger patch of numbness and tingling which goes down my index finger. My wrist is still in the odd position that he was going to correct and I will just have to see how much movement comes back. I don't know what other options there are when no surgeon has been able to work out why it's stuck in an odd position.

Iron wise none of them are really making an effort to either plan a date or set a day. I seem to get plenty of interest on bumble and pof but then it all fizzles out before meeting or they just want casual sex.

Thank you for thinking about me and asking how I am.

@dancerinthemoonlight I’m sorry you’re experiencing frustration about your op, it does sound very strange.

@tigerdater thank you. It is odd. It was misdiagnosed for 6 years and the last 2 operations were meant to put it back in a correct position. The position is really difficult to explain, it's stuck over towards the thumb as far as the wrist can stretch. At the moment it's just wait until April and discuss it with the surgeon but even he doesn't know why it's stuck like that

@shitwithsugaron, glad to hear that you are improving. Just waiting for ward round no doubt !
@dancerinthemoonlight, must be somewhat frustrating to build up to having more surgery and still feel there's an issue afterwards. Early days though, hopefully the healing process brings improvement.

I joined Fab last night and my mind is boggled by the array of people on there, who messaged me based on absolutely nothing apart from a username and my age !
Just looking for tips from those of you who have successfully used it . May sound a silly question but am I only going to find casual /FWB on there ? And are most of them going to be married or in a relationship? I made contact and moved onto kik with one local guy. Not sure how to get the most out of the site so any experiences /information gladly received. 😁

@onesmallstep67 for this one it is because every other surgery was discussed and planned when the current surgeon diagnosed it in January 2018. Because I'm still having problems with pain, movement and position he is forced to go into the 'and then we will see' portion of the plan to fix my wrist. I'd like to say I injured it doing something really adventurous but I just fell on the tube when it jolted. Hopefully I will be pleasently surprised during the healing process.

Ive never used FAB as I found it too bewildering. But we do have some actual relationships as a result on this thread. I think Kik is generally favoured by married men?

I used FAB a long time ago, only met up with one person on there and he was lovely, we had a great time. People on there are more honest about what they are looking for.

I have my date today, he’s brought it forward a couple hours which is great as I need to get home for when dc get back from school, so we are now meeting for lunch and I hate eating when I’m nervous. Also I’m feeling a bit fragile today after over doing it at the gym and work yesterday. I haven’t got a clue what to wear, we are meeting at a pub which is slightly posh (foodie pub).

The guy I met on FAB was not married, he had just come out of a relationship and was planning on moving abroad so didn’t want a relationship.

@Onesmallstep67 i haven't used FAB but there have been a few successful relationships via there on here so I wouldn't write it off. A male friend of mine says there are a lot of people chancing it there, ie just an ego boost thing without actually meeting but I think you can get that on any site. Good luck!!!

Hope your date goes well today @Lovemusic33 sounds like you'll have a nice lunch at the very least 😉

@Lovemusic33 have a lovely date...hope it goes well.

@Onesmallstep67 I use Fab. I've generally found the men on there most honest.
There are lot of chancers just looking for a quick hookup. But there are also some looking for FWB, although there are different definitions of what that might mean.

My profile is very clear that I want a FWB who is prepared to go out for meals, drinks etc with me. I say that the first meet has to be a social meet. They must provide a face pic before I will reply.
My profile is quite negative - no married, no dick pics, no bisexuals etc

I'm happy to PM you what I've written in my profile. Or answer any other questions

@EchoElephant, thank you. I will pm you later if that's okay. I am about to go out.

Thank you, leaving soon, went to apply make up and realised I have burst a blood vessel in my eye, I look awful. Of well, too late to back out, hopefully I won’t scare him off with the zombie look.