Dating Thread 185. Rule 6 reminder - People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.

[bangheadhere40]

The Rules: 1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating. 2. Develop a thick skin. 3. Do not invest emotionally too soon. 4. It's all BS until it actually happens. 5. Trust your gut instinct. 6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault. 7. Know your worth. 8. If it's not fun, stop. 9. Loo update is mandatory. 10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy. Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps click here ** Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

On tinder I would swipe anyone you do not find unattractive rather than just those you find attractive. You can always unmatched later

Agree with not being particularly choosy at the swiping stage. I probably swiped right 50-60% of the time. If I found myself swiping left a lot I stopped for a while as I was clearly just being ratty.

What, swipe right just to get good results on the algorithm?

And then unmatch immediately?

I find about 95% unattractive though @Jane1978xx

No, not at all, like Jane if I don’t find them actively and deeply UNattractive (because of pic or written profile) I swipe right. I base this on the fact that two of my fave irons looked 20 times better in real life than in their frankly awful pictures and were also 20 times more fun and better in bed than I could possibly have imagined.

@unambiguousbeard You get better ranking by swipes back from better ranked swipees. When you swipe on someone you pop up sooner in their feed, and while they may not swipe positively as they make their way through their daily pile, you will linger longer in the likes pile of those that pay for the app, and then you a have a better chance of swipes back from those - it helps sometimes to decide positively if you can see someone already likes you. So that's how I think more indiscriminate swiping helps you. But if you swipe on everyone, you reduce the ratio of your swipes to the reciprocal swipes and your ranking will go down.

I'm going to have to read that about 3 times to understand it!

No don’t unmatch immediately and still make an assessment that they are reasonably attractive and/or interesting. And there is a difference to me between attractive and attraction. So attractive is like Tom Hardy , just off the looks he looks amazing. But someone average looking you can be attracted too in real life I’d they have the personality and something about them. So it’s not just swipe everyone but give people a chance there could be a spark

You can also reduce the distance to 1km and there’s a bug that gives you people who swiped you or bite the bullet And pay the £25 to see who liked you. But let it build up a good amount first

I’ve read it three times and still don’t understand it 😂

I think he means if people who have had a lot of swipes themselves swipe you then you go to the top 🤦‍♀️

Shit, that was my 3rd draft

This is why I preferred pof , I found mr g as he was the least weird looking person in a 3 mile radius 😂😂 and I’ve told him that

I've always swiped on about 1 in 100/200.

Ok so now I have 8 new matches and 4 new chats with men I don't really want to engage with!

@unambiguousbeard Yet ...

Oh glad it wasn't just me! The algorithm is complicated! But I can tell by looking at their style or the background or their bio that we won't get on! I'm difficult. I'm arsey, I have quite set politic views, I loathe cars and sport. I'll go and have a peek now and see what they're like...

I hold you @hairyarsedman @Jane1978xx and @TigerDater responsible if I get in a mess 😆😆

@Jane1978xx Least weird, hahaha 😂

It’s a conversation we had a while ago, MrNN didn’t like the written profile the agency gave him, but he thought I looked like Alvise Rigo (a rugby player he fancies), so he agreed out of curiosity to see if I looked like my photo. So that back fired for him 😂

I’ll catch up with the thread properly when the sproglet is in bed.

Ok you lot win. This is quite fun. I'm laid up in bed with a vague lurgy. Mr U has offered to come over and make soup. I'm trying to say no. I've told him no sex but he still wants to come over.

Just so long as you also hold us responsible unambiguous when you find the love of your life 😃

I found MrM on Tinder! I'd wiped on loads and was cleansing my match queue when I messaged him and he pinged a message straight back - the rest is history

Ha you're all right. I have a potential date later but I'm feeling a bit rough. How's that for speed? And I think he might be a foot fetishist.

Is he Quentin Tarantino ? He seems to like dirty feet ...

QT feet

Is that a good thing for you @unambiguousbeard ? Does it trump soup ?