Can't believe it

[mugoverandover]

Sitting acrosss the front room from my "DP",
I've been suspicious for a while, last night when he was asleep I linked his Facebook to my phone, right this second I am on it and so is he, messaging another girl,
I'm furious our 8 year old DS is sat in between us I want to lose my fucking shit! He asked her if her daughter is sleeping out this weekend, she said no and he said ok babe!
I'm shaking, I don't know if to tell him I know or to keep watching for a day or so to see what they say 😭😭😭😭

I mean message her from your own account obviously x

I have messaged her but she's not read it even though she's been online

Arggh it has probably gone into the 'others' inbox

If you're not friends she'll probably not see it.

We're here for you, kind of going through the same thing at the moment. He will belittle it but while you talk to him have in your mind how he would react if it was you cheating on him.

Also how you will feel in a years time if he starts being secretive. It's really hard I know and you might even stay with him for a while but only you know if you can trust him again. I'm so sorry it's such a fucking shit thing for him to do to you.

Massive hand hold here. We are all behind you. He’s clearly hiding something. Then to delete the messages too!

You’ve done nothing wrong. Be proud of yourself for being a bloomin decent human being. Be kind to yourself. We all have bits about ourselves we’d rather change but as soon as you remind yourself what an amazing lady you are, those bits will soon seem smaller.
Cheaters don’t cheat because you’re not good enough. They cheat because their sad minds think they can get better. It rarely works out. Slot of cheaters are actually insecure themselves.

Oh OP I'm so sorry. Has she messaged him to say you've messaged her? She'll off seen it.

It's obviously not innocent and you deserve better. Hand hold from me as well x

So sorry to read this x

Don’t let him wriggle out of it. Tell him to pack his bags and leave. He’s in your house, messaging another woman. Vile

you can get through this OP... you have mumsnet to support you night and day someone is always here my lovely

Why does he have to have slept with her? He was asking if she was gonna be on her own so he could come over. So he was planning it. He's a pug op. And it isn't your fault. You could be a supermodel and he'd still never be happy.

Good luck getting shot of the dickhead.

*pig

@Pandamoore
What have you got against pugs...

Ooooh join the conversation.

(Don’t listen to me really I’m petty, best wishes whatever you do ❤️)

What a dick, I’m sorry

So sorry OP x

I meant pig. But actually, pigs are lovely too. He's more of a mosquito. No one loves those

Change the locks and leave his stuff outside whilst he's out.

THEN join the conversation to inform him he no longer lives with you.

Well done on having a house in your own name and no marriage to muddy that water. Total game changer for you now.

You have all the power here. Ask him to leave.

I wouldn’t do nothing at this time of the night and with children in the house.

Tomorrow would be another story. Be strong!

I'd wait a while. Drama is hard with a child around

What more do you need?

Lol no chance would I sleep next to a cheating scumball (who might be expecting sex) as if nothing has happened just because I didn't want any drama. It'd be 'I know. Pack your bag and get out.' Ot 'sleep in the sofa and pack tomorrow'.

Isn’t that why the headache excuse was invented though panda children need minimal drama and disruption

I wouldn’t message her. She’s tell him, hel know you know, and that’s any info you may have wanted to gather gone

Ltb

I’m sorry