Can't believe it

[mugoverandover]

Sitting acrosss the front room from my "DP",
I've been suspicious for a while, last night when he was asleep I linked his Facebook to my phone, right this second I am on it and so is he, messaging another girl,
I'm furious our 8 year old DS is sat in between us I want to lose my fucking shit! He asked her if her daughter is sleeping out this weekend, she said no and he said ok babe!
I'm shaking, I don't know if to tell him I know or to keep watching for a day or so to see what they say 😭😭😭😭

I know it's so bad, DS will be upset,
I wouldn't mind but it's not like I don't give him anything we have sex every night, I do everything around the house, he's not in work he's on the sick for mental health issues which no doubt this will be blamed on

@Missarad I would if I had any confidence but it's been knocked to an all time low, I'm a big girl and he was the only one I've ever felt comfortable with I've been with him for 9 years 😭

You didn't tell him nothing ?

I'm so sorry OP. Personally I wouldn't be able to keep quiet knowing he was sat next me messing another girl with my DC also present. He has zero respect, was a pathetic excuse of a man! I know you love him, but he clearly doesn't has the same love for you.

I will be telling him when DS is asleep

Why does OP need more evidence Missarad ?

Sending you strength OP.

Thank you, he's in the bath now, I won't be able to help but tell him as soon as DS is asleep but in the meantime I'm kind of praying that he messaged her again so I can find out more because if I confront him before that I will get no details out of him and I want to know if he's actually slept with someone else or not

I'd see how it plays out. Read cheating husband 1 and 2 she was really good with how she handled it. I'd still go and have a bit of fun anyways x

It's not
You!!!!

Make you keep reminding yourself that because my ex was up to the same thing and after speaking to his ex he did the same to her. They don't believe it will be over and then when it is and months have gone by they realise but it's too late.

You poor thing, I remember how much I was shaking especially as the pictures were disgusting. But it's been months now and I am so
Much happier. I have no contact with him and when it come to ds, I get others to be I have to cut him all the way off for now.

I just wish he did this when I'd lost all my weight, I've lost a stone and a half but if I was skinny I wouldn't be bothered because I'd be like look what you've missed but right now I feel like I'm going to sink into a fully depressed state and start not eating or something🤦🏼‍♀️

Get as much evidence as you can. I would not mention it to him. The flat is in your name. I'd wait until he leaves the house get a locksmith in, pack his stuff and leave it outside. Then message him to say you know and his stuff is outside.
Ignore his begging and pleading he's not worth your time. It's probably his fault you have no confidence
Don't let him talk you around.
Start going out even to a little evening glass and you will make friends. X
Sending hugs.

Literally under your nose.

Patch his shit up while he's in the bath (preferably every single item of clothing he has and throw out on the street) and get him the hell out. He has zero respect for you and your son.

You have sex every single night?

I had this with my ex, was reading his emails whilst I was at work about him arranging to meet another woman. I knew where and when he met her, I even rang whilst I knew he was with her. He ignored my call.

I gave him several chances to tell me the truth otherwise I'd finish it. He didn't tell me the truth so I kicked him out. Hardest and most worth while thing I ever did

Can you join in the conversation on Facebook too? The blood would drain from his face 😬

Of course you're right about the child being there @Rebellenny

But not about the part about him having nowhere to go and it not being that simple. That's his tough shit. Not OP's problem.

I like @Linzi237 idea. Are you able to join the chat from your phone as the FB is linked? Your message would come up as him I assume? You could pretend to be him and say something ridiculous to OW and confuse everyone or you could say "Hello this is DP, I know what's going on etc etc"

He has got somewhere to go, I could join in the convo if I wanted 🙈

This must be awful for you but I'd investigate a bit before you confront him so he can't worm his way out of it. Look at her profile to make sure she isn't a relative or just a friend. I know it's most likely not innocent BUT theres a small chance it could be. What else was said in the messages?

I would

Definitely not a friend I've been with him for 9 years, I know that she knows my "brother in laws" girlfriend so it's quite close to home, I'm thinking if I don't hear more soon I'm going to tell him his girl has messaged me back and said she has slept with him, by his reaction I will know if he has or not he isn't a good liar

I'd be messaging her 1st! Then when she sends him a panic stricken message you'll be able to see what they're discussing/planning to do to get out of what ever is going on. You'll have the truth in front of your eyes then!