I think H has or is about to put tracker on my car

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I went in to Hs bedroom to put son's new Fitbit type watch on charge. Out of the cables I didn't know which but saw one had a label which said Trackisafe and a code.
I googled it. It's a mini tracking device. It needs two apps, the Trackisafe one and a V for Vodafone app.
We have Apple so I can see he has purchased both apps. I managed to get hold of his phone very briefly and he has downloaded and set up both apps. I couldn't get on there long enough to see maps.
I also found the box, opened it and the tracker isn't in the box.
I went out to the car while he was out saying I needed to get all the rubbish out if there. Lots of dc so easy to be true. I couldn't find anything.
It's half term and we are both at home.
From the date of app purchase a coupe of weeks ago, I'm guessing he either removed it before half term or will put it in after school starts again.
I cannot confront him as I don't have firm evidence. Plus I don't want him to know I can get on his phone.
Background is before Christmas in 2018 he hit me, I called police. He has a caution for assault. I now know I have been living in a controlling coercive marriage. (Not trying to down play. It's utterly shit. Just being factual to keep post as short as possible)
In Sept when I told him I was serious about divorce he cut me out of his bank account. Apparently we haven't needed a joint account I could just access his but no more.
At Christmas I told him I would endure it with him and then start divorce proceedings.
The Friday before I know he purchased the apps and most likely took delivery of the tracker I told him we have to draw this to a close. No one is happy etc. It is going to end up in divorce.
He is in COMPLETE denial.
I think he is a narcissist in the true clinical definition, I'm not just calling names.
I have a solicitor appointment booked for next week.
What do I do? What should I do? What is likely to happen to him because if I do find a tracker I won't touch it but will drive to the nearest police station. What if I never find a tracker I just strongly suspect it?
Please be kind. I know this is not right and needs to be over but because of the way he is have been doing baby steps trying to do things gently and safely rather than full on. I do not live in fear day to day but am concerned he could be volatile. He had had mental health issues too.

How do you sabotage a cable. Pins through it? Anyone?

Here are some ideas. God I love google.

www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1482565

Track him back and then you'll be able to see him coming!

My worry, OP is the timing you have stated. You seem very clear that this tracker arrived after you once again made it clear that the relationship had ended.

I wonder what else he is doing in preparation for your exit? Please be on your guard. Be ready to run, if it turns out that you need to.

I truly hope that you get through to legal and DA advice asap.

I think you should worry less about the tracker and concentrate on making your plans to leave.
You know it's there, you know not to visit anywhere unusual in your car for now. Just leave it be. If he thinks you're completey unaware he'll be happy his current plan, whatever it is, is working and he won't feel the need to try anything else. Hiding the cable or messing with it is just going to make him suspicious. Keep things calm and make your plans.

You will be free of this, your day will come.

I bet you are right that he believes you must be having an affair and is trying to catch you. Quite the sign of how little he cares about how he treats you. You've told him so many times yet he thinks the you must be having an affair to want to leave him. Selfish egotistical wanker.

Sorry to see this is still an ongoing problem for the OP:(

If you want to damage most anything electronic then put it in the microwave oven for aroud 10 seconds thats before it starts to smoke!

Time it right and It'll never work again and no external marks!

If you think a keylogger has bneen insytalled ot anythigd to do with a tracker if its a normal Windows PC running WIN 7 ,8 or 120 then usually thers a search box just above the start box type "key" and see what that brings up then advance it to "keylog" then "keylogger" try keyloq even anything thats in the Progame files thats very suspect!.

Whoops: WIN 7 ,8 or 120

WIN 7,8 or 10!

@TorkTorkBam I couldn't have put it better myself. I couldn't possibly have had simply enough of his sh1t.

He's again used his " I wasn't very well" speech on me. He has been off work for two years (now back for nearly a year) due to anxiety/depression/stress. Something kicked off at work and he couldn't handle it. Everything that's gone on is "well I wasn't very well" argh!! Well that's alright then isn't it.

I just asked him to apply for something for one of the dc. He's said oh I wonder if it can be done online. I said yes, you know it can you did it for dc1 a few months ago. "Oh did I. I don't remember. I've not been very well" oh F off.

Blaming it all on mental health. As woman's aid said yesterday mental health issues don't cause a person to behave badly or excuse it!!

Oh my goodness I've had enough.

I'm going to leave everything (tracker etc) as is, keys too and see what Monday/Tuesday brings. I'm not going to do anything that lets him know I'm aware.

I'll speak to DV unit and DV assist on Monday from work. Women's Aid talked about occupation orders so I hope I won't have to leave.

I'm also looking at dash cams. If I get one I'll just buy and fit without mentioning it. They record sound too, so if he's muttering or clanking at least it might give me some indication of where it is even if it doesn't capture an image. He'll be doing it in the dark I guess so might take a few days to notice the dash cam.

@Justaboy I took my phone to an independent Apple store and a phone shop yesterday. They both checked my phone and it's all clear. I only use my laptop for work stuff and only use it very rarely so hopefully I'm ok at this point from other methods. I changed my logins and have got two factor authentication now also. Fingers crossed.

if you thwart his tracking efforts he will (presumably) cast around for some other way to try and bring you under his control?

When you leave your keys, pop a hair through the keyring, unlikely he will notice it, but you'll know if it has been disturbed.

You say that for the tracker he has a perimeter set up around your workplace that notifies him if you leave. Does this perimeter include where you leave your car? As if not it would suggest he has put it in something you would carry with you, eg your wallet, bag, coat etc.

Look under the rear bumper of the car , tracker can be attached to the metal bit of the car there.
If he has put it there without your consent , it's comes under the criminal offence of stalking ....
It's how I caught my ex cheating ....

Please plan your exit v carefully. You may need to get another phone so you can safely take images of eg bank accounts so he cant fizzle away funds. Suggest having overnight bag packed and ready to go at short notice. Please contact Women's Aid and also the police so your concerns are noticed and also a website like When Georgia Smiles provides useful advice ... but if he has access to your computer you may need to look somewhere else eg the library.

Please go into logic practical mode. He is very unsafe. You have been very brave to try and keep going. But now is the time to plan freedom SAFELY

Hi OP, if you need to look under your car, you can easily buy a telescopic inspection mirror. Had a quick Google, only a few quid and looks like you can buy them in a lot of shops like screwfix or sainsburys - I definitely saw one in the diy/car section in B&M bargains last week. If you do, keep it in your drawer at work. Wish you well x

@UYscuti yes, he must be very insecure at the same time as this massive ego.

@smellmysmellbow yes it's a virtual fence around the place so if the tracker was in my bag it would go off. Its a place I drive too and from there's nothing local. I've been through everything and I'm convinced it's something to pop into the car. As we live separately in the same house it'd be much harder to put something in my stuff I think.

@thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter one of those would make life a lot easier, especially with all this wet weather!

@Hepsibar thank you. I've found the website. I contacted Womens Aid on Friday and they gave me numbers for a region dv unit and dv assist which is not heard of before. Plus a stalking helpline.

Good on you. Sounds like Women's Aid know all about this kind of thing.

I also agree to leave him be with his tracker. It will keep him occupied. Would be good to locate it, just for peace of mind and to show he is stalking you if need be (for occupation/non-mol order). Obviously be aware of it and don't use your car to visit anywhere unusual.

With regard to your finances, do you have access to your own current account and savings account that he is unable to access? Do you have access to any family savings?

How do you pay for food shopping? With your own money?

Do you have any colleagues that you trust?

If so and you find the tracker if you need to leave at short notice ask them to put the tracker on their car!

Park for the day at work and take a cab or lift from a friend to wherever you need to go.

Hope youre ok today op and you got some legal advice

@presstochange hope you are ok. Did you manage to locate the tracker? Hope you've managed to get some decent advice!

Try inside the roof of your car

Right , just a thought ...
hubby has trackers on the works vans they show where in the car park the vans are

he says if you can park the car a little way away from the house you may be able to ascertain from the app if it IS in the car or on your person.

@PressToChange Any update? Are you ok????