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New man small penis

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fedupdotcomlo · 16/02/2020 20:02

Been together a couple months, only had sex recently. He has a small penis. I've slept with quite a few men over the years and none have been as small as this one. I really like him, we just click, he's so kind thoughtful literally everything I want in a man. I do fancy him, I do want to have sex with him but it's difficult, I can't feel it when it's in!! He seems to enjoy it but I don't. He's good with everything else, can please me in other ways but sometimes I just like a good seeing to if you know what I mean. Anyone had a relationship with a man like it?! Did you find ways to make it enjoyable?! How?! It's not a deal breaker for me, but I just love sex so this is a bit disappointing. I'd never tell him, he seems oblivious to it, so not sure if other women he's been with found it an issue!

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dontgobaconmyheart · 17/02/2020 03:02

Some slightly harsh and derogatory comments on here that I'm sure would go down like a ton of bricks if a man turned up and made over his DP's ugly/loose/awful vagina but hey ho.

It wouldn't massively bother me if he were otherwise a decent lover. I can't come from PIV anyway. An ex was very well endowed and all jokes aside it was physically and mentally awful. Sex hurt and often wasn't possible no matter what we tried, it was frustrating and I never felt good enough as he apparently hadn't had complaints before so tried too hard to please and ended up in constant agony and would dread sex. Took me years to get over it and the relationship suffered and ended.

I'd rather too small than too big. Everyone's different though OP, sounds like it might he a deal breaker for you, even though you wish it didn't have to be!

rainpain · 17/02/2020 03:28

@PeppyPiggy but surely it wasn't erect.

One thing that fascinates me is the difference between erect & flaccid.

momtoboys · 17/02/2020 03:33

I haven't been with someone that was incredibly small but I have been with one that was very large and the second was amazing! Hard to go back to average after that.

GrassyGreen · 17/02/2020 03:36

I've never had a micro penis, but did have a man with a really thin penis once. Having sex with him always made me think of ET trying to phone home.

rainpain · 17/02/2020 03:43

I prefer width to length personally

GrassyGreen · 17/02/2020 03:52

@QueenOfOversharing I feel your pain, or lack of. Walnut whip dick is the worst. Why so much extra skin on the end too? It's like the penis is just waiting to grow up to wear its big boy jacket.

GrassyGreen · 17/02/2020 03:58

@lots33 and @hotstepper4

Please don't take this thread as anything other than camaraderie. As pp have said, what is a dealbreaker for some, won't be for others.

I have a non existent chest and I know this put some men off me. But for others it didn't.

Thanks
Mummyoflittledragon · 17/02/2020 05:54

I have had sex with both men with small willies and one so big, he should have been in porn. One of the guys with small willies (less than 3 inches) thought he was gods gift and made no effort resulting in zero foreplay and crap sex. The second and third were tops 4 inches. The first of these had premature ejaculation, and didn’t care about my needs so ditto. I had sex with the other 13 times in one evening but he wouldn’t attend to my needs and I still never came. The one with the massive willy struggled to ejaculate and after an hour an half, I was saddle sore to say the least.... and bored.

My dh is about average and it’s all good. It possibly would be were he smaller. Idk. All that to say, guys, who don’t care about your enjoyment are crap in bed whatever their size.

If this guy genuinely cares about you and your needs, he will do whatever it takes either with foreplay or with something from the links.

Nursehorsefly · 17/02/2020 06:41

Can’t believe this! Can you imagine what we’d say if a guy said he’d break up with a girl because her vag is too big and he can’t feel anything??? Poor guy. The best sex I’ve ever had was with a small sized guy. I loved his smell, taste, intellect, voice, eyes. I self erm stimulated as he did his bit. It was awesome.

sofato5miles · 17/02/2020 06:51

I have a man with a small penis. It literally doesn't bother me as it just a part of him. He is so handsome, an amazingly attentive lover, funny, clever and, frankly, capable that if anyone let him go for being so short sighted about penis size it is very much my gain. former jet fighter pilot too, swoon

hopefulhalf · 17/02/2020 07:19

I may never have experienced a true micro penis, my best sex ever was with a lad of about 4in. It's not what you've got it's what you do with it.

lilgreen · 17/02/2020 07:21

I’ve been with my DH since I was 20, so my experience is limited to 2. No complaints about DH. First bf was bigger and I had cystitis a lot and I would be waiting for it to be over as it was really uncomfortable. I genuinely thought all willies were at least a certain size when erect, this thread is an eye opener for sure.

ImRealHonest · 17/02/2020 07:26

My current FWB is around 4 inches which was horribly disappointing when I first saw it - exH was around 7.

However, the things he can do with his tongue are incredible and yes, definitely leg over his shoulder.

Ahhhhhhh.... only 3 more weeks til we’re in the same country again...

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fedupdotcomlo · 17/02/2020 07:29

I've read everyone's replies, some made me laugh out loud lol. I get from all the replies that basically it doesn't have to matter if it's small, but more how we fit together. We've only tried a couple times to actually have sex, so I do feel like I should give it another go, I haven't tried me on top because I am quite self conscious but I am going to have to try that! Wish me luck lol.

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Nomorewine77 · 17/02/2020 07:34

I have never experienced a micro penis either, but I have experienced the opposite end of the scale. Guy was 6'7/8, built like a brick shithouse and Ye Gods had a penis to match never seen anything like it , not even in my limited experience of porn. Like a bloody elephants trunk, my poor cervix and as for giving him oral, nope couldn't open my mouth wide enough! To be fair to him he did say it was usually much more uncomfortable and painful for him and seemed quite embarrassed by it by all accounts. I think girth is more important than length, I too have had ET's finger ( thank you to the PP who said that, that made I laugh ) and that well and truly gave me the ick! Give me 5/6 inches anyday ( or everyday Grin ).

QueenOfOversharing · 17/02/2020 07:49

@GrassyGreen oh God, exactly! And I swear I just kept thinking "come on... you MUST be a grower" nope. He tried to shag me from the back in the shower - never even breached the flaps! Luckily I was only staying with him one night 😂

Hmpher · 17/02/2020 08:25

You can’t stay with someone if it isn’t enjoyable, but I don’t think penis size alone would determine that for me. My first boyfriend was really quite small, but I didn’t realise until I had sex with other people. It was some of the best sex I’ve ever had.

Worst I’ve ever had was a huge one. I just kind of gritted my teeth and got through it. He did warn me about having a particularly large one beforehand and I thought he was trying to impress me. I actually gasped when I saw it. Fucking awful, felt like I was being stabbed internally and made me feel sick.

Middersweekly · 17/02/2020 08:39

I think the general rule of thumb here (pun intended Grin) is that average is the best fit for almost every woman. Too big and it’s painful, too small and you feel..nada!
In the 2 experiences I’ve had with men who were 3” or less. One I couldn’t feel (and it never happened again) and the other made up for it with amaizing and out of this world oral skills! The one with the amaizing head game I could have quite happily slept with again and again because he made sure I was satisfied. On the other end of the spectrum was the biggest I’ve ever had (around 10inches) and he struggled to even get it in and had to go painfully slow! It was actually really boring to sleep with him. This was BC (before children) when I had a snatch like a fly trap mind you!
OP if your man can make-up for his shortcomings with other skills he’s worth hanging on to!

Gwenhwyfar · 17/02/2020 08:40

"Do men with a small penis not deserve love, marriage, a family?"

Does anyone deserve those things? I'm single and too old to have children now? Did I not deserve them? Of course not, I wasn't lucky enough to get them, that's all.

There's another ongoing thread arguing that being single is better than being coupled up anyway. I'm not entirely convinced by that, but the truth is that nobody has a right to a partner and/or children.

Aureum · 17/02/2020 08:44

Supposedly penis size is inherited. Are you planning to have DC? How do you feel about inflicting a micropenis on your son?

Letseatgrandma · 17/02/2020 08:52

I had sex with the other 13 times in one evening but he wouldn’t attend to my needs and I still never came

Sorry, but 13 times in one evening and no orgasm-I’m amazed you kept going after 3!

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fedupdotcomlo · 17/02/2020 08:53

@Aureum no we both already have children from previous relationships, I will never have more.

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sunshinesupermum · 17/02/2020 08:54

rainpain definitely. My DP is only about 4" flaccid but much bigger when erect. He's also winder than my XH who was about 5 - 6".

sofato5miles · 17/02/2020 08:54

Supposedly penis size is inherited. Are you planning to have DC? How do you feel about inflicting a micropenis on your son?

Or you think that millennia of evolution has proved it doesn't matter..

Aridane · 17/02/2020 08:57

It would be a dealbreaker for me as it’s the intercourse that does it for me, not foreplay and oral sex

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