Dating thread 184! Where we don't take any nonsense !

[bangheadhere40]

The Rules: 1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating. 2. Develop a thick skin. 3. Do not invest emotionally too soon. 4. It's all BS until it actually happens. 5. Trust your gut instinct. 6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault. 7. Know your worth. 8. If it's not fun, stop. 9. Loo update is mandatory. 10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy. Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps click here ** Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Loved up with MrC! ❤️

@Clovertoast. Is he busy at work maybe ?

@KermitRulesOk I met Mr ghost in real life. I really can't face old...

Ah sorry I missed that you meat in real life! What is it that scares you about OLD? I can out of a 12 year relationship and within a couple of months I was on POF and Bumble. I went on about 10 first dates I suppose and over the course of 10 months - had a 3 month relationship and I've found MrM who's perfect for me

@Clovertoast you're not expecting too much. dont lower your expectations to meet other people's or you'll be scraping a barrel before you know it. Delete him and move on. Next!

I seem to be on good form this week - I've been chatting to some new irons over the last few days, and have got dates organised for Saturday, Monday and Tuesday!

Miss Haircut has been busy this week, so we won't be meeting again until the end of next week, but she's starting to grow on me and I'm looking forward to seeing her again.

I did have one arranged for tomorrow night too (let's call her Miss Snooty2), but really didn't like her attitude. She wanted me to meet her close to where she lived, which I didn't mind. I said I'd be happy to pick a venue, but if she wanted to suggest anywhere then I'd be happy to go with her choice, as I don't know the area that well. Her reply was that she didn't want to do my job for me and arrange the date. First warning flag went up at this point...

So I went off any looked into nice places to meet - and had a couple of good suggestions from some friends who live near where she does. I picked a posh gastro pub that looked ideal and suggested it to her - her reply was "I don't go to pubs".

At this point, I figured she and I weren't really a match made in heaven, so I said I didn't think we would get on that well, so it's best we leave it. To which she told me I was a time waster for chatting for days on end (approx. 1 message per day!) and then inviting her to a pub, and questioning whether I had any success with my approach!! Lovely!

@Jane1978xx hes definitely not busy at work. He's signed off this week because of the teeth incident!!!
I just feel an idiot.
We were texting every couple of hours through the week, then would message on and off throughout the evening. He was so lovely the last couple of days but now I feel stupid.

To make matters worse I'm fairly certain its actually me that messed it up. Although we had a lovely couple of days I was quite quiet in the evening as I was tired and also a little sad to be going home. He described me as having something on my mind and being pensive, so sex aside I was obviously so boring I've put him off.
Shit this has made me feel rubbish.

@clover you're not stupid...don't think that....this has happened a few times today hasn't it! They know what they are doing I think, I would be gutted if Mr Dumfries did this though if we do sleep together...but there's no way to tell if everything is good beforehand 😔

It's got me thinking about multi dating as well, I haven't chatted to any other irons since Mr Dumfries, or wanted to. I am presuming he hasn't either, he doesn't seem to have been on pof, and let's me know what he's upto most nights. I am presuming he isn't, don't really want to ask.

Mr P told me he wasn't talking to anyone else and that he was thinking of deleting completely. He even told me not to think of myself as single

@Clovertoast it isn't you that has messed up, so don't think you're stupid or its your fault. If he's decided to back away for a bit it won't be because you were a bit quiet.

You were obviously not boring for him to want to see you in the first place, so just focus on that! Don't jump to any conclusions - he may just be busy, or have something on his mind today. But if he has pulled back, it could be for any kind of reasons - most likely his own issues. I suspect most of us here have experienced it at some point, so you're not alone.

You called?.... Hello you lovely lot 😘

Yep, still loved up with MrC - 10 months and counting. Seems like a lifetime ago I was angsting about Beach Lady muscling in (she still tries God bless her, but I just feel sorry for her now), he only has eyes for me 🤷🏻‍♀️ sensible chap. Still get the complete fanny gallops every time I see him and DD thinks he's cool (cooler than daddy apparently 😳😂). Of course we've had the odd word over a couple of things, neither of us is perfect but nothing that we let fester or brood over.

What will happen long term I don't know. There's no talk of moving in together, engagements, babies, at 45 I'm too old anyway, but to quote the Eagles, he just gives me a peaceful, easy feeling and I'm very happy with that for the time being.

@clover how long had he been split with his ex? He went on about her a lot didn't he, wondering if something still there.

I guess some can say anything then and it means nothing.

I’m still here - mainly lurking as the conversation moves too fast for me to comment on. I am happier than ever with Mr R but mainly because I think it’s been so long - 9 months - It’s suddenly dawned on me that he must like me!

I just wanted to say to @Ant330 that the main thing i’ve learnt in the last year (we joined the threads at the same time) is to not trust the connection (or lack of one) you get from texts rather than real life. It’s possible Miss H is feeling insecure and trying to test you to see if you’re still committed. Obviously it’s not great behaviour but I can’t really blame her. So my only advice would be to talk to her face to face with an open mind.

@bangheadhere40 3 years they've been divorced. She left him.

Glad I found this thread. I split up with my ex over Xmas. Been online dating very quickly. Had many a text conversation that went nowhere - think guys like the penpal attention. Few dates
Mr posh - 2 dates, 1st one amazing 2nd weird, so didn’t see him again
Mr rugby - texted loads, he seemed interested not my typical guy, but had a good date. Arranged to meet again, disappeared
Mr paramedic - had rotten teeth. Didn’t see him again
Mr boring - as it says
Mr hippy - nice guy. Lied about his height, different lives
Mr academic - nice. Said would meet again. Didn’t hear from him
Mr IT - dated in the past and reconnected. Seeing him tomorrow
Mr design - nice guy. Seeing him in 2 weeks. Feel momentum is losing with him as so long between dates.
Mr ex - guy I dumped back in the scene

OLD is exhausting. I am great at dating multiples, but the last 3 I like. I really want to get off it, but won’t settle.

but no connection except with that lay

Wow @Ginbunny1212 that must have taken some juggling lol !
Maybe that's what I should do, multiple irons instead of all my eggs in one basket so to speak!
What I'm doing certainly isn't paying off sadly.!

Haha. I used to date one guy at a time. Now after ex thought why not. If it gets to the point of sex then I need to choose. It’s exhausting.

Evening all

I met Mr M after work for a quick dinner (was out 2 hours after work) and DD17 had a strop about it and has been horrid all evening. I know she is a teenager but is there any humanity in there at all, will it appear any time soon 😂
I’m sure the DC just see me as a member of their staff, or some evil parent who is neglecting them

@Clovertoast yes. Multi date. If you want to put your eggs in the basket after dtd and things still going well fair enough. Dont feel stupid. He led you to believe you were on the same page. Happens to us all at some point honestly. If you leave him to it he'll likely pop up again ... not that I would advocate continuing. It's not about a bit of quietness or something you did I can almost guarantee.

placemarking

@jesuisprest and @StealthNinjaMum nice to hear from you and that you are both happy. It's been 8 months with Mr B but we did have a short break. I'm not as certain as you guys but it's nice and easy. We have lots of fun.

@clovertoast it really isn't you. We are all tired sometimes. You can't pretend to be someone you are not. That would be exhausting.

Checking in from the hospital, just waiting around until I get called down to the theatre. Trying to resist re-downloading bumble and doing more swiping.

Hope it all goes well @dancerinthemoonlight

@jane1978xx thank you. Wish it would hurry up so I can eat