Dating thread 184! Where we don't take any nonsense !

[bangheadhere40]

The Rules: 1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating. 2. Develop a thick skin. 3. Do not invest emotionally too soon. 4. It's all BS until it actually happens. 5. Trust your gut instinct. 6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault. 7. Know your worth. 8. If it's not fun, stop. 9. Loo update is mandatory. 10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy. Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps click here ** Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@onesmall I'd want to know what would be different. Do go back because it's
Safe. Only go back if it's right.

@BatshitCrazyWoman me too. I'm very independent and self reliant. I've had to be. And I respect that quality in others. I'd have rung 111 for advice or gone to a&e.

Haha obviously I meant DONT go back because it's safe. My typos get worse and worse!!

Morning all. Need some advice on gifts. I am the WORST at giving gifts or making a fuss of someone on birthdays, special events etc.

Last night Mr C gave me flowers and the most lovely letter telling me how he felt about me, he cooked, bought wine, chocolate etc. I gave him....nothing His birthday is coming up and I'd like to do something really nice but I have got literally NO IDEAS. Help!!

It's more that I wanted to make it clear it was 'spare room' than anything else. He replied saying that sounds a good plan and he was slightly worried about getting back with the weather situation.

Longtime lurker here also having weather challenges with dating! On 4th date with new fella (Mr Startup?) tonight. We were going to meet at a pub for a drink and then take it from there, but the weather is grim and I'm getting my hair done today, don't want to wreck it. So I've suggested I collect him from station and we go back to mine for a glass of wine/takeaway. He will stay over as we've already done it Not ideal- I don't want him to think he can just pop round for a booty call but it seems pointless to go out in the rain and get soaked just for the sake of "going out".

Bang he sounds like a good'un and that's a sensible plan-having my own weather-related dating quandary!

Glad you had a good night @unambiguousbeard.

Apparently I have plenty of time to think about teeth. 😆

I'm doing alright. I'm 18 weeks now, so it's all a bit wriggly in there. After asking for my ring size many months ago MrSG finally decided that he was going to propose last weekend. I think he wanted to make it really special - even though it would be special to ask someone to marry you even if you did it in the supermarket on a Saturday afternoon, just because of what it is.

We went to Iceland and he was so nervous and sweet. It was all very him. I wasn't expecting it at all. And he chose a very lovely ring. I have no idea why he was so nervous: what about buying a house and having a baby with someone would suggest you didn't want to be with them? 😂

Now we need to figure out when and how to get married. Obviously being pregnant is a bit of a consideration in that regard. I don't think he realises quite how relaxed and flexible I am about the format of a wedding. I genuinely have never really given any thought to what kind of wedding I want (and I'm pretty laid back about stuff generally). He said last night that he would do it next week in the registry office and have a party later, but he thinks I want a proper wedding. I said I'd do it tomorrow in the registry office but I think they need a bit more notice than that. 😆

@WooMaWang awww that's really lovely! How long have you and MrSG been together? MrM and I are going down the same route

We met in July 2018. I think I knew very quickly that this was a relationship that would work very well. He is so utterly lovely.

His long have you and MrM been together?

Ah congrats!! So lovely x

Congratulations wooma, that's great news!

Aw lovely update woo. kermit are you engaged, pregnant? Do tell!!

Wooma, congratulations.
I hope the storm today does not ruin anyones plans for later.
After binning my prospective date today for his miscalculated comment about the price of petrol I have not even been graced with any form of a reply.
I normally just say 'next' and move on, but having tried OLD on and off for years that is pointless. I really cannot be bothered with it and even on the rare occassions I do it is a waste of time and energy.

@WooMaWang lovely update!

@crimsonlake can imagine it's frustrating but he was starting as he meant to go on so you were right to get annoyed. There have been plenty of success stories, it's just a numbers game.

Thank you @TigerDater and @Notcoolmum. I think I know that probably I am missing what he represented rather than him as a person. I miss having someone special to do stuff with and turn to in times of difficulty. Ironically it was him I phoned a few months ago when my car began to play up on the motorway. ( teeth incident upthread when exwife was called upon) I spoke to him and said at the moment I was too concerned about things failing again and that maybe he should go on the date. He understands my reservations. I think as much as I am missing having one significant other I still have work to do on myself. Have lost 4 stone in the last year and still some way to go. Need to widen my social circle and not look to a relationship to fill the gaps. Well that's the theory.

Quick loo update...he turned up with flowers chocolate and a bloody valentines card. Obviously I'd got him nowt.

Aw how cute is he !

Come on people I want ideas for presents or a nice way of celebrating Mr C's birthday! Men on the thread?

Home!

What sort of things does he like?
Sports?
Hobbies?
Fragrance?
Clothing brands?
Activities?

@Peanutbuttermouth

How long you been together?
An activity or day out is a nice treat
I struggle with buying men presents as they often buy exactly what they already want themselves 😂

@SimonJT Running/cycling/cooking/games/wine/me!
That's all I know so far! He's quirky and not materialistic AT ALL so even better than gifts would be an activity or something I can do for him.

@Menora only 2 months

Sex toys
Night away
Spa day / couples massage
Show

@peanut wine tasting experience/vineyard tour for two and then you can enjoy together? Cookery class, a cookbook if he mentions someone he likes that has a new book out he won’t have or go obscure, check out his collection? Expansion pack to one of the games he likes?

@bangheadhere40 that’s lovely, have a great afternoon.

@SimonJT glad your home at last!

@woo congrats