Dating thread 184! Where we don't take any nonsense !

[bangheadhere40]

The Rules: 1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating. 2. Develop a thick skin. 3. Do not invest emotionally too soon. 4. It's all BS until it actually happens. 5. Trust your gut instinct. 6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault. 7. Know your worth. 8. If it's not fun, stop. 9. Loo update is mandatory. 10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy. Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps click here ** Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Thanks @shitwithsugaron I'm really nervous! Not had sex this decade...

@BatshitCrazyWoman It sounds like it's all coming to a head. I also think it'll be fine. It's got to happen sometime for him. Have an early night, see how things unfold. Remember he loves you.

Good advice from @unambiguousbeard 👍

Happy valentine's/galentines/palentines day everyone! I celebrated with my mum and daughter. I got in there first and sent Mr theatre a good morning and happy valentine's Day text he seemed really touched by that and has been sending me lots of soppy messages, we've not even been on our first date yet! But hopefully will next week, he's suggested Thursday after work

Hey all, been to the gym and am off on my girls (for that read middle aged divorcees) night out and running late cos friend's ex has turned up late to collect the dog and son for the weekend (of course he has!) Even other people's exes are annoying me l

@SimonJT hope you are home from the hospital now ... bad luck, rotten day!

@BatshitCrazyWoman have a and here are some from me. Hope he works something out tonight and you both sort it.

Have a great night @unambiguousbeard and everyone else on dates.

I had a lovely evening with my friends and the kids. Mr G didn’t send me a card or even say happy valentines 😂 I think he must hate it. But he’s sent me loads of lovely messages about places we can go on dates in the summer so I’ll let it slide.

Have a great time unambiguous. So sorry to the thread for filling it with my rubbish. I'm annoying myself now so am in bed with my book!

Well it's not really a date... I cooked and he's in the shower. I don't know how I feel. Hoping it's not a really really bad idea....

Any update from @echo as to how tall Mr Very Tall actually is?

And @cat hope it went well with Miss Haircut tonight....

Promising updates from @dancer and @sunshine too.

@sexy, not sunshine sorry

@bangheadhere40 Mr Very Tall was very tall. I felt tiny even with heels on. I had no problem recognising him.
However he was also Mr very dull & scruffy.
And kept scratching himself.
I assume it was nerves but he was making me feel itchy. So there won't be a second date

Hello all. I'm off to mr p's tomorrow for dates 5 and 6 ( I'm staying till Sunday) and sex seems to be very much on the cards.
We've been messaging like teenager's for the past week. I'm actually worried I'm going to come down with a massive crash after this inevitably goes wrong.
He says he really likes me, emphasis on REALLY, but I'm a bit scared its going fast.
Am bloody looking forward to the weekend though!!!

@Clovertoast why would you think it would go wrong when you are two people who like each other and get on ?

@shitwithsugaron I'm East anglia.
I doubt it's the same bloke as I think I'm a few years older than you.
Not sure if that's good or bad if there's more than one Mr very tall & scruffy!

Will do @shitwithsugaron haven't been doing much else tbh.
Last few bits of packing done now, up at 5am to head for 1st skiing holiday with my son, can't wait!
Just hoping Storm Dennis isn't too bad as neither of us like flying much!

Been messaging Mr Dimples since I got home. Sometimes I'm too nosey for my own good. He has been on another first date this week, is talking to a few different women (I'm not surprised). We both want a second date and I will see where things go. He acted like the perfect gentleman tonight. Opened doors for me, opened my car door for me to get in etc.

@Dancerinthemoonlight why did you ask? I would hate to know they were on other dates (but then I'm nosey too)

@eesha because when we spoke on the phone last week he said I wasn't the only woman I was talking to. I did sting a bit but I'd sooner an iron/date be honest with me than tell me what they think I want to hear. As much as I'd like to be the only one he is talking to and going on dates with I'm very much awear that it's been a handful of video calls and one date. So far so good and fingers crossed for a second date soon but I want to take things slowly as I have rushed into a relationship before and been hurt.

I have a good one after several years of online dating, so very experienced.
Met earlier last week and I might add first time I have been tempted out in over 12 months.
Physically not my type..talked too much and no not nervous, but I found him amusing.
Agreed to another meet up which usually means as soon as I set eyes on them I should have trusted my gut instinct the first time around.
Trying to arrange somewhere to meet up tomorrow, I suggest somewhere about 20 ish minutes away from him and he declares with smilies something about half way to Wales and the cost of diesel.
He has now been binned as one sniff of someone who is so controlling of his wallet even in jest is gone.

@crimsonlake really don't blame you for binning him. Previously I have done all the travelling in relationships and dating. I was feeling somewhat confident when messaging Mr Dimples tonight after our date asking if he would come to me for a date or if it would be me travelling. He replied that both people have to put in equal effort otherwise it's just not fair to expect one person doing all the travelling.

Dancer...I am very good at weeding people out.
I certainly do not mind paying my way, but the mentioning of diesel costs even injest has really put me off. I cannot abide tight people.
I would be binning yours as well if I was you :)
A person does not need to have lot of money, but a generous spirit is whats counts.
We are the prize :)

Not sure if I worded his response correctly. He would be happy to come to me if we had plans as he would expect me to do all the travelling.
I'm just going to see how it goes with him. Sa far so good but no expectations

Advice please
I was supposed to be leaving later today for first over night stay with Mr P. We've been messaging all week and last night like teenager's. Really lovely messages. We've been on 5 dates but only snogged so far so this weekend was going to be something.
He texts me at 5.30 to say hes cancelling as hes fainted and knocked his teeth out.
I call him, offer advice and concern. He decides he needs to speak to his ex wife as she'll know what to do?
He then texts 30 mins later, shes taking him to A&E and hes sorry.

I'm gutted for so many reasons. I feel for him, but I'm disappointed and the running to the ex wife alarms me massively.
Maybe its because I'm not amicable with my ex but I just cant imagine it.
She divorced him hes told me
I'm so deflated...
Wwyd next ??