Dating thread 184! Where we don't take any nonsense !

[bangheadhere40]

The Rules: 1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating. 2. Develop a thick skin. 3. Do not invest emotionally too soon. 4. It's all BS until it actually happens. 5. Trust your gut instinct. 6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault. 7. Know your worth. 8. If it's not fun, stop. 9. Loo update is mandatory. 10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy. Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps click here ** Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Interesting simon I hadn’t thought of that as a reason. I learn so much from this thread! For me any damage to my teeth is one of my worst nightmares. I have crowns on the top (sooooo much orthodontics/dentistry in my teens) and if they ever pop off I become a pathetic puddle of misery 😢. A sign of sexual insecurity I believe (or maybe that’s just dreaming about it).

I have very small flat teeth where I have ground them for so long but I did whiten them last year. A lot of people have a thing about teeth!

Not much to report. Work, kids, gym, love island housework. Got a bargain £7 top in the new look sale today to wear out for dinner tomorrow a long sleeved black lace body top and a mini skirt. My mum is dog and DD2 sitting for the evening tomorrow then sat night I am going to an engagement party with my Dsis but I don’t think I will be able to recycle the whole outfit and it might be a bit sexy for an engagement do.

I am really enjoying feeling sexy, it’s been such a long time and I am not feeling self conscious about my weight or what I look like. Contact wise it’s not at all stressful (yet anyway), I haven’t had the feeling of wondering if he’s going to text me or if I should text him first but when we are both busy we just touch in a couple of times a day with something silly. But I have stressed about commutation with people in the past and it is never a nice feeling - the best thing to do is keep busy I think. I don’t want to feel overwhelmed by pressure of messaging so keeping it light and fun

@TigerDater Teeth nightmares are horrible, I sometimes dream that my front bottom teeth fall out, but they bone they are attached too comes out with them 🤢 My best mate mainly has milk teeth (despite being almost 30), one day they’ll all fall out. Thank goodness for implants, imagine being young and having a full set of dentures.

Where is a smile a sign of dishonesty @SimonJT? I'm intrigued!

Hi just dipping in again to share my funny story
Messaging mr Spain for about a fortnight, met once already and plan on a second date. Today he text to say ‘I’m going to ..., fancy a drink, not as busy or expensive as tomorrow night’
I replied saying ‘oh yes that would be lovely let me know times etc as I’m working till 6pm

He replied saying. No sorry I meant I’m going for a drink with ...’

Omg I jumped into quick but did read the messages to my DC and they agreed it was worded wrongly

Now I feel like he’s thinking ffs to keen!

Hopefully when the second und date Eventually happens we will laugh about it 🤣🤣

I hate smiling I think it gives me chubby cheeks, or makes them look worse. I never show teeth, I'd love to but dunno how people do it and look natural lol.

@daisymat that was badly worded. that's a shame but yeah hopefully something to laugh about at your next date.

feeling a bit bored and lonely tonight. mr driver will be working on the date I asked him to a movie (only showing for 1 night) he suggested another day and I agreed but hasnt actually suggested or arranged anything.

dunno if I can be bothered looking on the apps.

Ive been reading this thread religiously the last couple of months. Great advice here.
Going to give Fab a go- how do I word my profile?What do I put in?
I look forward to some fun and stuff,Im open to anything but I want it to be honest,safe and respectful!
Help!Please?

@crazycatlady20 yes hopefully but it's a laboured wait!

I do like to smile, teeth not perfect but not hung up about it. X

I do wonder how many people read this without joining in and wonder what on earth 😁! Hi @daisy, no experience of fab myself but lots have 🙂

Sorry Nadia!

@bangheadhere40 I'd love fab I think but not at the moment in my life!

Last heard from Mr Dimples at 11:16. Texted him about an hour ago to check we are still meeting tomorrow as we don't have a firm time or place. Just in the afternoon. Doesn't look like it's going to happen. Waiting until the morning until making other plans for tomorrow night.

If I don't meet him I might take a break from old for a few months as I'm having another operation next Friday.

@Nadia86 first thing to do on Fab is hide your profile while you have a look around and set up your filters.
I have an tasteful cleavage photo for my profile pic and a 'normal' photo that is private which I can attach to messages if I want to.

Decide what you want. I'm clear that I'm only looking for a local FWB. Happy to PM you my profile wording if you want.

But you can look at both men and women and get an idea what they have written.
Make sure you do a photo verification.
Ignore any messages that you don't want to reply to
Block and delete as much as you need to

Otherwise I treat it as a normal dating app. If someone sends a nice message and have read my profile then I will reply. Even if it's to say thanks but no thanks

@EchoElephant omg thank you for taking the time to reply to me :) I appreciate the advice very much.

So do I @EchoElephant as I'm sidling slowly towards FAB.

I wouldn't claim to be an expert at using Fab.
I'm sure there are others on here who have more or better experience.

You might want to consider paying for membership. It doesn't cost much and makes using the site easier.

@Peanutbuttermouth Lots of places in Pakistan and India, but not everywhere, it really varies across communities. Facial expressions really are cultural, rather than natural. It’s interesting with my son, he smiles but he never smiles at me or my cousin, he’ll go for a head tilt or use his eyes instead.

Oh FFS Mr Personality who I met early December and liked (remember he asked me out again but then changed his mind as he was having an operation so was stopping dating) has just turned up on Bumble. And matched with me. The man has my phone number 🤷‍♀️. Think he and Mr Science are in league to freak me out via the medium of unexpected pop ups, both deleting me one one app as they are ‘leaving OLD’ then popping up and matching with me on another. WTAF???

@UtterSocks they are just brainless twats. Sorry I know its a mindfuck. God knows whats going on in their heads 🤦‍♀️

I'm starting to over invest slightly in Mr Dumfries, not in a bad way, just that he seems so lovely and normal.

Just for a pure laugh, today's string along text from Mr Not Straight was:

'Hey Beautiful Stranger, how are you' xxxxx

@bangheadhere40 that's a great message to receive def over invest in that for a while

@dancer has he not replied?

I got a yeah sure. I know Caribbean guys are layed back but it's taking the piss. I have told him that I need him to give me a time and a location or I will consider it cancelled (phrased slightly nicer than that)

@dancer, yep...no time, no place, no date!

I’m sat in bed eating a whole packet of jammy dodgers...this is where OLD is taking me!