In this situation would you message to ask if the date is on?

[WanderingWally]

Been on about 8 dates, he went away for the week on Monday. On Sunday night we saw each other and he said oh it’s going to be a week before we see each other now... (I’m a jokey sort of way). I said we could see each other on Saturday afternoon when he flight gets in at 2pm. He said yes that would be good and I said let’s check nearer the time that it works for us.

It’s Wednesday and we’ve had one short phone call today but meeting Saturday wasn’t mentioned. We haven’t text while he’s away and I’m not about to.

I can’t assume Saturday afternoon is on as we haven’t arranged what time or where. But I’m not inclined to ask because I feel he should after I suggested it last time we met?

What would you do? If we don’t meet Saturday it will be at least another week before we can as I am working shifts from Sunday to the following Saturday!

What would you do?

Ok. Feeling better now! Glad I text.

Omg
Stop just stop

Why not means why not? As in the why the fuck are you asking me: when I already suggest it.

"Is it why not as in why not I’ve got nothing else on or why not why wouldn’t we?

"Is it why not as in why not I’ve got nothing else on or why not why wouldn’t we?"

Christ. I'd dump you quicker than a hot potato in July.

I'm not sure you're in the right place to be dating, OP - or are you incredibly hard work with everything?

Really, don't set him up with tests, or hold him to different standards or expectations than yourself. That way happiness does not lie.

OMFG! As the mum of 3DS, I'm hyperventilating here.
Do you suffer from anxiety OP? Because your thinking is very uptight.

Relax a bit OP.

Go with the flow.

He had sex with you and he's still interested.

Wow! How low are we setting the bar these days? ☹️

@AnuvvaMuvva are you dating right now or have you lately?

Dating in this day and age feels like trying to prove to a man that You're worth the bare minimum of a phone call text or date.

Ghosting is so widespread now.

The op is not setting the bar low. It's so common for people to just disappear these days.

Dating in this day and age feels like trying to prove to a man that You're worth the bare minimum of a phone call text or date.

By shagging him on the first, second or third date? And then hoping that you were so good, he'll spend some more time with you?

Yay.

It doesn’t make a difference - I once dated someone for six months without sex, and as soon as we had sex, he scarpered (and I do have it on good authority that I’m not just shit in bed).

@AnuvvaMuvva ah most the threads these days are about men shagging and ghosting and as OP is super paranoid about every comment he makes I thought that'd help ease her mind

• Dating in this day and age feels like trying to prove to a man that You're worth the bare minimum of a phone call text or date.

Ghosting is so widespread now.*

That is actually low standards and putting up with shit behaviour. Nobody needs that kind of crap.

Some really screwed attitudes to dating on this thread, including from OP.

OP, You really need to chill abit

God what a nasty bitch you are.
Enjoy your divorce and living with your mummy

That escalated quickly 😂

So....OP you are going on the date on Saturday?

What if women enjoy casual sex?

I dated in the exact same way you talk about being a thing that men do, it suited me at the time and I wasn't bullshitting anyone.

Agree men need us more though, definitely!

@AnuvvaMuvva I completely agree with you. I don't think of it as games I think of it as healthy boundaries and having some self respect. So few women have either these days and they need them desperately because I have yet to meet a woman who can treat sex in the same way men do.
Online dating these days for men is like an all you can eat buffet. You could be the most beautiful woman in the world but you will struggle on OLD unless you've got your wits about you and date very very smart. My ladies only date men who ask them out consistently every week, travel to them, never ask them to pay and are consistent. If they fail any of these they are nexted fast. Saves a lot of tears and wasted months (or years). I don't give a crap if people think I'm sexist or old fashioned. It works

Omfg

Albeit a lot of what you say resonates, @AnuvvaMuvva, it seems to have escaped ,you that your rules of the game should equally apply to women. So we should talk about good behavioural requirements applying to people, not just targetting men. Sounds like projection to me.

@toomanyleggings the 80s called, they want their dating advice back

Yay..you've got a date in Saturday. Enjoy it!

How did the date go Op?