In this situation would you message to ask if the date is on?

[WanderingWally]

Been on about 8 dates, he went away for the week on Monday. On Sunday night we saw each other and he said oh it’s going to be a week before we see each other now... (I’m a jokey sort of way). I said we could see each other on Saturday afternoon when he flight gets in at 2pm. He said yes that would be good and I said let’s check nearer the time that it works for us.

It’s Wednesday and we’ve had one short phone call today but meeting Saturday wasn’t mentioned. We haven’t text while he’s away and I’m not about to.

I can’t assume Saturday afternoon is on as we haven’t arranged what time or where. But I’m not inclined to ask because I feel he should after I suggested it last time we met?

What would you do? If we don’t meet Saturday it will be at least another week before we can as I am working shifts from Sunday to the following Saturday!

What would you do?

Life coach. Work is with women who are looking to meet a life partner/ husband.I do profiles, their online dating correspondence and their texts between dates. Mostly American clients but I don't find American men much different in their dating behaviours.

I'm saying this as I would to my best friend

FFS STOP BEING MARD AND JUST SEND HIM A TEXT!!

"Hey XX what do you want to do about meeting Saturday, still fancy it? I know you'll be just back though so don't worry if you'll be too tired 💤 "

It would be a shame if he is keen but backs off because he thinks you’re not.

You can ask without sounding like you don’t want to go (ie pp suggestion) and still keep it light.

Oh my actual God op...! You are so overthinking this it's unbelievable!

In the nicest possible way, you shouldn't be dating if you can't deal with a simple issue like this without getting so upset.

@toomanyleggings I can tell most of your clients are American.
Are you American?

Good grief, he has made time during his holiday to stay in touch with you, and you are all worried just because he has not mentioned about the exact time and location of a possible date on Saturday.

Just relax, and back off. You are over thinking it, let the guy enjoy his holidays and do something when he is back (not on the day he is back!)

I’m losing the will here 😩

@GiveHerHellFromUs no I'm British actually

For goodness sake, all this stupid game playing. If you want to see him message him. If you want to test him to see if he really likes you enough then don't but don't whinge if he doesn't message again.

If he doesn't want to meet up he might just be tired.

I do t think if he doesn’t see you it means he isn’t keen. Jesus you’re way over thinking. He has been in touch, rang you most blokes wow iOS to have been in contact at all

That’s wouldn’t have been in touch at all

@WanderingWally "I think I would feel he wasn’t bothered or excited to see me!"

But you said, that if you were in HIS position, you wouldn't want to see him after you'd just flown home. Bizzaro woman.

Don't message him or see him again, for his sake! What an effing nightmare.

If this was him posting I'd be telling him to run for the hill! Stop gameplaying. Just stop.

Somewhere in France an hour away in January, pool, beach, boat? U sure?

That’s what he’s said...in nice?! I have text. We’ll see!

10 degrees, just don't let him book u a winter sun holiday together!

Currently 10C in Nice. Your slip is showing, OP.

He’s replied with “yes, why not?”

Ok...

So all sorted now? .....

Great. Happy days. Or are we going to criticise the fact he didn't say "omgz yassss can't wait to see you I love you so much"?

Is it why not as in why not I’ve got nothing else on or why not why wouldn’t we?

Or am I reading into this...!!

"Why not" is just him playing it cool. Like "yeah, let's do it".

He's going on a date with you on Saturday because he wants to see you.

He had sex with you and he's still interested.

It's all good.