Dating thread 182 - keeping our irons warm by the fireplace

[saltysally]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Why do posts like that have to be at the same top of the page? 😂

Full Hollywood wax is my recommendation

“ What was that bush programme called again?“ 😂

Shaved my arse crack once, regret set in within about 30 seconds. Wax it now to prevent sandpaper regrowth!

Oh thanks @shitwithsugaron I read that. A good read. Ironically I'm probably lowering the standard from the beginning next Friday but we've talked about going out and about enough. I do want to just be with him away from the public atm. Not necessarily having sex, just together. We'll are going to do lots of walks. (no typo there!)

Mr Muddle is now very drunk (I don’t know how I feel about this level of drinking, as I don’t get trollied very often) and phoned me, which was him telling me he didn’t know why he was being so soppy but he wasn’t looking for any other women

I really hope this is not morphing into Mr Moving land where I now need to give reassurance that I am neither looking. I’m not bothering right now but I am still keeping my options open as I don’t know him that well. I have just left it alone as I just don’t want to have those convos when drunk - his wife cheated on him, this could be an issue

Better than spending the money in it like I did today @shitwithsugaron
Also bought a new epilator, a body brush, body butter, tea tree oil, checked sex toys and lube supply. Now sitting on sofa with my feet in long overdue slathered foot cream. Small Valentines present ordered too.

Yeah, I unfortunately do @shitwithsugaron It seems to be mutual though which is nice.

MM is also aware Friday night could be the heaviest day of my cycle. He's not bothered but I don't like sex on that day. He has said we can have a night of snogging.... And of course there's alternatives.

That's great advice from your therapist

MM has made a fantastic start with things like that. Obviously he needs to keep the effort up but I can't fault how much he has remembered about what I've told him.

@shitwithsugaron good advice from your therapist, I like it when they give advice not just leave you to figure it out or try and lead you there!

I think that is good advice

Blame MM for that one @shitwithsugaron
He was right to bring the question up. It did feel a bit premature but we just discussed our own future plans and he made it clear that's all he was interested in knowing. It wasn't about commitment. Just seeing if our future plans aligned.

That does sound good advice.

So i've spent the evening mainly on tinder - feel like my head's gonna explode. All the men are starting to look the same!

Been chatting with one guy - let's call him Mr Almost - in particular who's really pushing to meet up, like now! I think he's mainly after sex tbh. I'm sort of torn between thinking he's quite cute and thinking is heading nowhere i want to go. I don't really know the first thing about him. It's like messaging tennis.

Oh ick - that's twice in two messages he's called me a 'little girl' wtf that's weird, right? - i'm out. Bye Mr Almost (almost a normal human being)

Little girl???? 🤮

🤮🤢🤮

Checking back in as now I have a few irons at last!

Mr horse - set up by a mutual friend and we haven’t actually met yet, waiting for him to ask me on a date!

Mr tractor - seems nice and we seem to get on well, got a date arranged for tomorrow although I’m worried he might be short!

Mr manager - we are meant to be going out next week but we haven’t spoken for a few days as he’s been away so we’ll see on that one

Lots of chats going on tinder/bumble as well which I need to reply to!

What does everyone do when they find out something that’s a dealbreaker for them? Just stop replying? Tell them?

Example a guy tells me he’s 5’6 after chatting for a while which is a deal breaker for me, what’s the polite thing to do?!

I'm just stopping chatting but can't they still see if we're on Tinder? I don't want to say or do anything that might lead to an agressive response. I guess you can tell from that what my last relationship was like.