Dating thread 182 - keeping our irons warm by the fireplace

[saltysally]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

I agree @crazycatlady20

@shitwithsugaron He may have been thinking you were surprised at the lack of hair!

I've always removed a fair bit of hair as it's easier for sport. I must admit I feel cleaner with less hair.

That's a fair attitude @shitwithsugaron. I wouldn't change what I do to suit MM.

Well, I had my second date this week and this one was a bit odd!

I don't think she looked directly at me all evening - she seemed rather shy, and kept looking to one side of me or the other. Conversation was really hard work too, so I was relieved when she asked if I would mind if she left after 30 minutes to catch her train home.

On the plus side, she did thank me for not being scary! I'm not sure if she was just very shy, or not at all into me but it was the shortest date I've ever had I think!

I've got another date lined up tomorrow, so fingers crossed that is a bit more successful!

@UncorrectedDoormat
Luckily our children are older so they decide what they do plus our only assets were our pensions.
His are worth very slightly more than mine but I'm not interested in any of them so we agreed to walk away and ask for nothing from each other.

I'm sorry your ex is abusive, it's hard going isnt it?
I hope you can get your divorce sorted asap.

I kind of celebrated last year when I went on an annual girls weekend away and they threw me a divorce party which was great fun.

Tonight my new chap came over to help walk my dogs and do my other animals as I'm poorly at the moment and struggle on my own and he brought a bottle of bubbly for me to open tonight but I haven't.
I might open it tomorrow when he comes over for takeaway but DD will be here and it doesnt feel right celebrating the divorce from her dad while she is in the house.

I talk about previous RS with people as I want to know how they handle things in their life. It’s a good indicator as to what kind of person they are

Mr Muddle is a bit over keen, tonight he told me I was ‘very chilled’ and I said it’s mostly jealousy and aggy drama that puts me off. He admitted he could be jealous

I worry about the bush so I do a compromise and take the underneath off

I've always tidied my Bush but I've never taken it all off but recently I've been sending a few naughty pictures and when I look at it I think it looks awful so I shaved for my last meet up a few weeks ago. It was the underneath I was most worried about @menora, last thing I wanted was a little nick down there with the razor!

I think I’m pro at getting the underneath off but I get really spotty and itchy up top on the bikini line so I don’t mess with that bit too much

I think oral is more enjoyable with a controlled amount of hair

@saltysally we had a very high level overview like I was married x years and going thru divorce. He was divorced x years ago and dated but not had a serious partner but not any detail about who they are etc. Also brief mention in relation to kids and we do talk about our kid a lot (seeing each other a few months)

It’s weird the underneath doesn’t go itchy or anything but the sides do 😂. I’ve been using aloe Vera gel with tea tree seems good

@jane that kind of detail is fine

Aww @shitwithsugaron I don't think oral is more hygienic with less hair. I just find it more comfortable. Everyone has hair though!

@saltysally yea that’s fine for me. Anything else is too much 🤷🏼‍♀️.

@shitwithsugaron how old were these men ? I never used to shave at all in my 20s and I slept with a reasonable amount of men and never had a comment or issue. So these would be men in their 40s now I wonder if the ones with issue are younger. Everyone generally seems more groomed now

@TheCatWithTheHat. 30 mins total ?i think people can tell pretty quick if they like someone or not

Mine can get so long. Like LONG. So I do trim it all up

I take mine off completely due to most of it falling out whilst pg with my DD - I have a weird bald patch so just wax the rest off! Wouldn't do it purely for a bloke though!

Just messaging with MM. He's so interested in my day and never fails to ask about the things that are important to me. And this is the way it should be! Jolly nice to have it though.

Mr Muddle does like to send me selfies of what he is doing but bless him they are literally never flattering 😂

I really cringe our hard at selfies but I did send one of me with no make up on in bed (PG rated) and he keeps sending it back to me in messages with 😍 emoji. But I still cringe

Porn has a lot to answer for

@Menora what’s he doing in the selfies ? Cooking tea and things 😂

Haven’t had that chat yet!

I recommend an epilator for bikini line. And the under bit I use veet sensitive. Leave a little triangle at the top