Dating thread 182 - keeping our irons warm by the fireplace

[saltysally]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

I hear you.

As much as I've made jokes about hormones and stuff on here @Welsh36 since I hit mid 40s it has been incredibly useful to use a proper period tracker to work out how to my feelings may so rapidly change.

When my husband cheated and we separated I came off the pill, back on it since before Christmas but I'm still a bit up and down

I've noticed since turning 40 that my hormones are all over the place.
I was low as anything on Friday and then my period arrived a few days early on Saturday, which made sense.
Never used to affect me like this.

Toilet update

Really fun night so far, we are messing about in an arcade - I love playing games and gives you time to talk too
Still fancy him
He’s been quite tactile and touching my leg arm and back

That's great @menora I love fun dates like that

I'm late 30s so I've got all that to come @Sunshineandflipflops

Great news Menora

Snogging happened

We had great chats, he seems open but not overly serious. Quite a lot of body language flirting, he’s not touchy feely in any way bad, just light touches here and there it was nice.

Initially at dinner he was nervous and came across a bit nonchalant - hard to explain but I could tell he was nervous just by how he was, but then I could also see he watched me walk up the stairs to the toilet in the mirror in front of me

Then he seemed to relax across the night. We were sitting talking with our knees touching in the bar and I Had just smeared my lips with pink Vaseline and he leaned in for a kiss - it was slow and exactly how I would want to be kissed

Then we kissed again in the car park and he has text me he’s glad I didn’t slap him off when he put it on me 😂

Ah @shitwithsugaron so cute ♥️

Congrats, @Menora, sounds lovely. @shitwithsugaron - happy for you!

Things are still going well with Mr G, although he's going home on Saturday and I haven't seen him as much as I would have liked due to family commitments and being ill. He won't be back again until late March. Trying not to dwell on the absences but enjoy our time together.

Us too @shitwithsugaron Then at the end it turned into a 🔥 scall

That's a shame you haven't been able to see him more @perfectpretender but it is life and seeing how he responds together something like that is good imo. Hope time flies for you.

Evening
Glad you had fun @menora
Mr movie has just gone..nice evening, hand holding in cinema, chat on sofa at mine & some intense snogging..
I’m still not 100% sure about him, but he’s growing on me. I’m still chatting to other irons & meeting a different one soon- is that bad?

@saltysally gahhh! That's a wait. I cant remeber .... how come you 2 cant meet sooner?

Also another one here post 40 worth notable mood swings around my cycle. Also never had this issue prior. Like you sunshine intend to dip low a couple of days before AF

Intend = I tend!

Keep options open, Undecided.

Supercali77 I think you mean me rather than salty? If so - Mr G only comes out here for work every few weeks/months but we like each other a lot so we try to keep a long distance relationship going. I'm very busy with my own life so it's more or less ok for now.

@crazycatlady20
How did you get on yesterday with the police?

@Undecidedsofa no that's not bad, keep options open as long as you haven't had an 'exclusive chat'.

I've still had no luck on Tinder, a few matches but no one seems to reply to my messages!

@shitwithsugaron I have no personal experience of the Mirena but have been toying with getting it for a while now due to not liking the mini pill and my bp being too high for the regular pill now.

I had the copper coil for about 8/9 years after I had my youngest dc and apart from having it put in (oh my God it hurt), it was fine until I started spotting and got it removed. My ex then had the snip so I didn't have to worry until he went and had an affair and we separated.

I have heard great things about it but also not so great things and i know I will be that 1 in 100 or whatever that suffers the not so good side effects! I think a lot of people's periods stop completely after a few cycles of having it but some don't. To be honest, that's the main draw for me so would be gutted if I still had periods!

Anyway, please let me know how you get on...

Re mirena it depends how you react to progesterone. I'm totally progesterone intolerant, makes me suicidal. Had a lifetime of PMDD before it was a condition and now I am risking endo cancer with my HRT as I don't take the progesterone bit as long as I should.

So if you get horrendous pms you might not get on with it

Also it can start off quite symptomatic and then calm down. Wish I could use it. I'm really worried about my womb...

That's interesting, I have just started the mini pill - can this actually make Pms worse? I suffer with that anyway!

Oh some lovely updates, so nice to hear dates going well, @Menora, @Undecidedsofa I think it’s fine to keep options open at this stage as your not sure, but also glad he’s growing on you!

I was really low last week and started my period yesterday, wouldn’t have put the two together but now I’m in my forties I’ll watch out for this, my periods have gotten really irregular in the last year, having always been like clockwork.

Just had another ah-ha moment I’m probably going to have to think about contraception at some point, I’ve not had sex in over five years, how’s weigh gain with the mirena? Any personal experience before I start researching!

Date with mr scenery tonight, nervous now, chat has dried up a lot, but from reading here I’m happy that’s normal.

I’m going to have a chat with mr taichi, Im now 95% sure he’s not for me and I need to tell him this before we meet he’s so way over invested!

Matched with a guys who’s profile I lived on tinder, he messaged me last night to say how lovely I was, but he felt the distance was too much, but could we be friends on what’s app, I think the distance is a gentle rejection as he’s not that far, drives, no kids!!

@supercali77 yep you are right it's schedules however our calls have been as long as some dates Ive had and there's no red flags at all. We are enjoying getting to know each other. Video call tonight.