Dating thread 182 - keeping our irons warm by the fireplace

[saltysally]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

I want an inappropriate dress

Menora are you going bowling after dinner? The dress and leggings combo sounds like a good plan

bangheadhere40 if the chat starts to feel like hard work then I just leave it a day or two to see if they make more effort. If they don't then I unmatch. Life is too short.

I have a coffee date tomorrow. I've met him before then Mr FO reappeared so I had to turn down a second date. But he spotted me back on the apps and asked if I wanted to meet again.

Dress and leggings sound a good plan. I wouldn't worry about it riding up if I had leggings on. And good for bowling shoes too. Have a good date 👍

I also unmatch if conversations don't flow. It annoys me to see their name in my message box!!

I've only chatted to two so far, one last night who just spoke about himself and didn't ask me anything.

The one before the convo was going well and now he hasn't replied, hey ho!

@echo hope it goes well tomorrow, and @menora tonight.

Good luck menora

You may have misunderstood it’s a slutty dress length wise and I am good with being a bit slutty and really feel like wearing it without the leggings 😂😂😂

And I use slutty in the spirit of Amber Rose and embracing my right to wear short skirts 😂

Sounds good @EchoElephant?

Mr Music and I messaged way too much yesterday. I pulled us up on it because we have agreed to pace this. He felt the same and so hasn't messaged at all since this morning when he asked for my email address. He has more discipline than me but there is no way I'm breaking the slow down. Wtf he's asking for my email address I'm not sure but whatever. Probably as a spared way if contact. He won't find anything by searching the address.

We have a video call tomorrow night so in the meantime I'll just sit on my hands on the overinvested smitten bench.

I have a program that has been buzzing when an app can be moved so that's just been muted as it made the same sound as my WhatsApp.

@Menora go slutty & have a fabulous evening

I have mr movies coming for food then out (to watch a movie!)
I’m trying to avoid slutty as I’m not 100% sure about him

Have a fab evening @Menora

It’s grey dress I’ve worn it with 60 denier

I’m way too excited

I did!

Stuck in traffic

I have ran out of men on tinder in 100 mile radius! How....

So I'm struggling with rule 6. I know it's not my fault when men disappear in a conversation but when it happens a lot it's really hard not to take it personally.

Met up with a great man on the weekend after spending the whole week messaging, I'll call him Mr Steel. We had a really good time and were in the middle of arranging another time to meet up again when he disappeared literally mid conversation ☹️

@bangheadhere40. Me too. One I was messaging had a small child who they didn’t see so I unmatched. Another was messaging all weekend and then stopped so I unmatched. I’m now not getting any!

@Welsh that's awful...I don't understand

Could he have been in a relationship @Welsh36?

Mr M messaged. Woohoo.

@saltysally when are you guys meeting up again??

Never rest anything on messages - for those wondering about dissappearing people. I've disappeared before. Generally because I'm juggling and I'm maybe a bit further down the line with one person than the other. That said I did tend to say 'sorry, cant' eventually. It's a juggling act. Dont take it personally but equally.. ..dont let them waltz back in later

@saltysally could have been. I just really liked him and coming on the back of a few disappearances has made me wonder what's wrong with me.

@Welsh36 don't let that self-doubt creep in like that. It's horrible. For whatever reasons these guys weren't meant to be. I make sure I block them so they can't attempt to reappear in 6 months or so.

@supercali77 Friday week. Right now I'm fine with the wait. Hormones are behaving

Thanks @salty I try to tell myself that but hormones are getting the best of me at the moment. I always tend to have a sad few days in the middle of my month!