Masturbation (shhhh). Does everyone do it?

[FunAndFrolics]

I have to ask. I am interested. I always thought everyone did it (I do).
I have been with dh for 10 years and am still not convinced he does. It is the only topic that we have never discussed. I am sure (ok, I know) that he doesn't think I do!
Does he?
Do you?
(It was a PART of my previous relationship, but with dh it has never 'cropped up')

I would be horrified if my husband was having an affair tbh, even if he wasnt getting his kicks at home. Masturbation is a bit different to hacving an affair, but I am terribly old fashioned

obv I dont know REB's circumstances, so wont comment

masturbation is MASSIVELY different to having sex with someone else outside of your relationship.

hhhmm yes it is, isnt it?

agree, but sometimes you can see how people end up having affairs. Note i said sometimes, not always.

My opinion.

All men masturbate, at some point or another.
(I would think that the vast majority of women do too.)
Not all men use or condone porn (although that doesn't mean that it wouldn't turn them on).
It is perfectly reasonable to imagine a monogamous lifelong relationship. If you can't imagine that then you're obviously not in a particularly good relationship.

well said, KATG

FFF, do you mean if you chose to stop having sex with your husband for any significant length of time you would expect him to remain faithful to you?

yes I would tbh
if he couldnt get a stiffy i wouldnt jump in the sack with anyone else either, but thats just us

yeah every relationship is different, and they develop over time. I am at the beginning of mine, only three years in. But who know how we will feel in 10 years, 20, 30. I am v. different now to how I was 10 years ago, I know that.

Not all men masturbate or like porn. I have spent a good part of my marriage trying to persuade DH to do both, but he just doesn't have the libido for it. I have far more of a sex drive than him. He doesn't wank because if he did, he wouldn't have enough drive left to have sex with me once a week!

I wank most days and have a vast array of toys for assistance.

I think it's rather offensive to men to suggest that they ALL have great libidos / can get erections whenever they want / wank /like porn. Lots of men don't - that doesn't make them less of a man.

My dh has a very high sex drive and I keep telling him to go in the bathroom and relieve himself, giving me some peace. He wont though.

I would personally like to recommend the Anne Summer's Clit Kit .... it's very quiet and comes with handy interchangable accessories!

(So that's a yes from me.)

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My mum tolf me oral sex was talking dirty....I think that's what she truly thought it was though

WEll when you think about the mechanics of it I spose it is a bit.

My mum always said, never put anything in your wotsit you wouldn't put in your mouth. So thats a yes to oral then.

Happyrabbitowner, I agree with you that not all men necessarily masturbate at this point in their lives, if they are in a fulfilling sexual realtionship. But, surely you can't believe that there exists a man who has never masturbated? All teenage boys do it, don't they?

I do he does - we do it as part of our love making - only now (i say now it was 3 weeks ago ds appeared recently) we seem to do more of it than the love making.......something went wrong there.

Will have to fix that

I know I'm new here but I dislike threads like this quite intensely .. the very nature of the title and first post screams 'titillation posting' to me

I do not believe they belong on a 'grown-up' discussion site (although I enjoy many of the posts of a number of posters on here). There are a number of so-called parenting sites where this kind of innuendo posting is the norm

I really thought mumsnet was above such adolescent drivel and seeing this constantly appearing in the conversation list makes me sad.

Don't like it ? Don't read it or post on it ! Those are the rules the majority of us live by on MN.

P.S. What's soooooooooo bad about a bit of tittilation ? We are all (assumed to be) consenting adults, after all.

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I would tend to avoid this thread then mud, or others you feel uncomfortable with. Sometimes netters like to post on less serious subjects as a way of unwinding. Parenting sites are not just used as a source of information on how to raise your family. Yes we are parents but we also have other things we want to discuss, serious or not. It's up to you if you choose to read it or not really. Threads like this are always going on, and as long as they dont start making personal attacks, become racist or inflammatory then mn will not intervene.