Fussy partner with food!

[MellowMelly]

This will probably sound completely trivial but it’s seriously causing issues.
My partner is ridiculously fussy with food. The main bone of contention is dinner. He is never happy no matter what I serve up and I’m finding cooking now to be an utter chore rather than enjoyable and I’m so limited to what I can cook for him now it’s become ridiculous.
I’m fed up of serving up food and watching as he pushes his food around the plate whilst actually pulling faces and then starts critiquing it either during the meal or after. Apparently the chicken the other night was chewy and inedible (he made sure I knew this by making it obvious that he was struggling to cut it, I however had no problems) the hake I cooked was watery and had no taste (it had a lemon and dill sauce on it), the pizza was definitely not hot enough so therefore not cooked properly and might make him ill, he is ‘minced out’ from Bolognaise, he won’t eat lamb now as some minted lamb shanks have put him off it. He won’t eat anything with rice/pasta, anything covered in breadcrumbs, anything too ‘herby’.

It doesn’t stop at my door with his criticism, his Mother and the takeaways/restaurants get it too. The sauce was too thick, there was not enough chicken in the kebab, the chips were soggy, the battered cod was too greasy...it’s endless.

We tried HelloFresh. Out of the hundred recipes only 3 made it into the acceptable pile.

I’ve told my partner to cook dinner if I’m so terrible at cooking, the few occasions that he has, well, he criticised his own cooking too

Suggestions? I will even accept LTB

Be great to hear you are ok OP

Hope you are safe OP

You've been really brave!

Good Morning!! I’m currently sitting safely with a cup of tea in a Travelodge I would of updated last night but I decided it was best to turn my phone off as suggested by some of you.
He had quite a lot to drink last night and when he drinks he sleeps like a log. I waited till he was snoring his head off and sneaked out just after 2am. I was actually terrified!

Have blocked him on phone and will be making my way home soon!

I’m so pleased you’re safe! Genuinely worried for you

Bloody brilliant OP! Have someone with you when you get your things. Or have someone go for you.

I’ve just left an abusive relationship, and my god, I feel so much happier and free. Don’t look back OP, you are worth SO much more!! 💐

Well done. xxx Here's to a more relaxing future!

When you say you are making your way home, you don’t mean back to his do you?

Good for you OP - stay strong x

It’s all a bit surreal at the moment and I haven’t slept properly at all so feel quite awful!
Yesterday over the course of the day and evening I managed to sneak some of my stuff into a few bags in my wardrobe.
I was literally grabbing knickers, running up the hall and stuffing them in one of the bags whilst listening to him moaning about dinner again and whatever else he could moan about
Finally we go to bed and I’m lying there awake waiting for the right moment and he bloody thought I was asleep and started tugging at my hair!

@Buggedandconfused well done to you too! I know this bit is hard now and the whirlpool of emotions will kick off today. It’s just getting through this part next as I have no doubt he will try and get in contact somehow. Did your ex partner try and sweet talk you back?

@DearHappy

No back to my own home. I never want to step foot in his home again!

Well done Mellow. Stay safe and call the police if he harasses you.
He may send others to call you on the phone - he may threaten suicide.
If he does this call an ambulance for him or text his family.
Hope it works out for you.

So glad you are safe. I've been thinking about you and wishing you well. Thank goodness you are away from him. You're amazing. Stay strong

he is vile ..... congratulations OP

I'm glad you're out op , I'm genuinely happy to read your latest posts.

Expect to feel exhausted for a while , sleep and rest as much as you need and take extremely care of yourself. You may find that the crazy bastard has caused you to have nightmares and other unpleasant feelings , hopefully you'll be fine though.

Don't expect to see your things again , just gradually buy new stuff, it just doesn't matter.

He will probably become a 'good' guy to suck you back in , when that fails he'll get angry again...he might even threaten suicide. Just remember that he's not your problem and that he's treated you appallingly.

Just to say , I'm 11 years out myself. Don't look back op , put yourself back together and start living your life again.

Life's too short - really. If you're cooking even a simple meal, that's 10 - 20 mins prep, plus cooking time - at least an hour and a half for a "roast dinner", then serving and eating - another 20 - 30 mins. That's you spending at least 14 hours a week (just on the main meal) of you literally handing this man another opportunity to have go at you on a plate.

Sorry Mellow - I see things have moved on dramatically whilst I was typing. Glad you're out.

@OvalCanvas 11 years out! Well done to you as well! Have you healed from it all or do you still have any flashbacks/nightmares? I do from my first DV relationship and @PatellarTendonitis was right, I think I need more time to heal and find my worth again.

I’ve tried to eat now but my stomach isn’t up for it. I’m waiting for an Uber now to take me home. I think in the light of day this is slightly more terrifying than the moonlight flit last night. I know it’s all likely to be fine but can’t help worrying!

@GBroGal

That’s ok! Also a good way to think of it aswell. 14 hours of my week wasted on his whinging. Life is far too short.

I am glad you are out. Did you manage to take all your belongings or will you need to try and retrieve them at some point?

It was 5/6 years before I felt truly healed op. It was a good time though as I learned so much about my reasons for choosing an abusive man.

I'm sorry to hear that you've been here before op , and yes , it is bloody scary when you're moving on.

You're strong and you have family. You will be fine, I just know it.

Huge hugs OP...incredibly proud of your prompt action and decision making

Christ well done op.
Have you told him you’ve left him?

so glad you are out. Expect the full gamut of 'the script' but remember ultimately he cant MAKE you be in a relationship with him.

Keep him outside your home if he turns up and if he wont leave do not hesitate to call the police.

I’m home!! My daughter in all her rush to get herself, toddler and dog out yesterday has still managed to make my bed up with clean sheets for me.

@aroundtheworldyet
He must know I’ve gone by now, I’m sure he can’t still be asleep but I’ve blocked him on my phone.

@Apolloanddaphne I managed to get the necessary things but I’ve left a lot behind. It’s just clothes though so no huge loss if he bins it all.

Going to reconnect my CCTV up as only one camera on covering porch area at the moment.

Is he likely to turn up?