Dumped by text

[user1471427667]

Bf of 2 years sent me this text in the early hours of this morning.
“Hey I’ve been thinking about us and it’s just not working out so best to end it. No need to reply. All the best”
I feel absolutely blindsided. Didn’t see this coming at all. Aside from the shock of it, I feel so dismissed that he put “no need to reply” as if he I don’t have a say in it ( well I know I don’t but the urge is to try and talk about what he feels is wrong)
Should I ignore what he said and try and contact him to find out what’s wrong and try and work it through or at least end it amicably? Or just accept it somehow and not reply.
I feel as if someone has punched me in the stomach and everything I thought was real just isn’t.
Please help me retain some dignity and tell me best way to reply or not.

I know you're happy to not block his number as you're curious about what he'll say, but if he does start getting nasty then please block and delete him straight away.

As others have said you've dodged a bullet here, he's finally revealed himself for who he trusty is.

You are a rock ! I am so impressed

I know your heart still hurts but every single stupid reply he sends , your not replying gets stronger

I know
People are suggesting some amazing one liners but the NO reply is torturing him so hard
Well
Done

Your lack of response will be driving him insane. He doesn't deserve a reply or anything else from you. The way he broke up with you was disgusting and you always need to remember that especially in moments of weakness. It was totally pre-meditated too - the way he took his stuff from your home first so that he didn't have to face you after he'd finished with you. He'd got it all planned out. The only bit that didn't go to plan was that he expected you to respond and to beg him not to break up with you. I think he probably wants sex again and is chancing his arm and he is trying to goad you into replying. Don't fall for it - just keep a very tight hold of all those aces and picture him checking his phone every few minutes in vain!

I am so full of admiration for you OP - I wouldn't have been able to stop myself from texting him.

I am gobsmacked that the nasty little shit hasn't apologised! Stay strong.

Ignore him. It is all he deserves. Being ignored is the most potent disrespect. He does not deserve your respect because he is a coward. Your non response will leave him second guessing himself. If he txts or calls again IGNORE!

Words I live by, "don't let a man tell you twice that he doesn"t want you". You are the prize. Forgive him, heal your heart with vodka and vinyasa and keep it moving! You're more beautiful than the ending he gave you!

OP - I be just read the full thread and just wanted to say that you have absolute BALLS OF STEEL!!

Well done you on handling things with such decorum!!

Keep doing what you are doing - he doesn't deserve a response.....EVER!!

Also, I wouldn’t bother changing your number. It will be a load of hassle and could all be for nothing if he somehow got hold of your new number.

Watching Mabel singing “don’t call me up” on the Brits and thinking about you OP!

Ignore, do not reply now - you are doing brilliantly

His Valentine’s Day message May not have been one of love and apologies but definitely it was sent hoping to get a reaction due it being that day. He’s pathetic and does not deserve you!

I still think he is some sort of narc who ended it in such an abrupt way in order to extract some pleading and begging from you ....

He may be a narc but it seems probable he's fixed upon someone else to some extent, and perhaps it hasn't gone as he planned.

Been following this since the start - you're fab, OP, an object lesson in handling a tosser. Ignoring is the best option by far. It'll eat into his desolate little soul.

He's definitely trying to rile you just to get a reaction. Don't rise.

Every message he sends which gets ignored will feel like a mortal wound to his ego. A large ego has no place in a relationship. You are actually doing him a kindness by helping reduce it 😉

You are amazing btw. And I really want a scone with jam and cream now!

If it comes to it, I will change my phone so I can block him

@user1471427667 It's actually quite easy to block someone on most phones I think, maybe?

I just blocked a bloke, had to google how to do it on my phone, but once I found out it was easy enough. xx

Yes I had to google how to do it on my android as it wasn't obvious. Maybe you're not ready OP. It will be a brilliant sign of your healing when you are!

Wow, just read this and well done for not replying, it’s so hard not to although his texts since have probably made that easier!
I think this thread should be shown to every young woman at the start of her dating life so she knows how to handle the inevitable idiot she will no doubt encounter.
As I get older, I’ve just come to the conclusion that sometimes you’ll never know why someone did what they did, it’s nearly always their issue and not yours!

@Sexnotgender cuntpuffin

You've made my day.

@OP you are just awesome!

Hey op - glad you haven't replied but did he message in a different number or something? You said you'd managed to set your phone up so you didn't see his messages?

If he did that's properly shit, but well done for not giving in to temptation - stereotypical narcissistic behaviour so leave him well alone with his narc rage.

Hey op - glad you haven't replied but did he message in a different number or something? You said you'd managed to set your phone up so you didn't see his messages?

No, I believe the OP stopped the messages coming up in a banner on the home screen. She now has to go into her messages to read them.

I've just read the whole of this thread in totally disbelief. What a complete piece of shit. Just had to post to join the orchestra of your fans. You're an all round legend!

The fact that by simply not replying you've managed to turn the whole situation, and have him tying himself in knots is absolutely fab. Literally have been cheering you along as I've read the thread.

Seconding a PP I seriously feel like you need to win some kind of award!

You will look back on this in time to come and be able to truly hold your head up high, knowing you handled yourself with dignity and poise. More fool him!!!

OP I have followed you from the beginning of this and cannot believe how beautifully strong you are. Silence is your best weapon.

See how progressively more desperate his messages are becoming? Because he is throwing tantrums.

You must not ever be tempted to reply, just remember what the Wanker himself said....

"nO nEeD tO rEpLy...."

A total c*nt. And he started taking his stuff beforehand
He planned it. He let you feel safe whilst he predicated your heartbreak. He even had sex with you knowing he was leaving. Clearly his dick is more important to him than your mental health or telling you the truth. Hold onto that if you ever feel tempted.

OP you are a true hero and you stay silent. For yourself, but also for all of us who were manipulated and wish we had been anywhere near as amazing as you are being now.

I don't think his texts are necessarily about trying to provoke your anger, his ego or assuaging his guilt.
He had built a narrative in his head - no matter that he said, "No need to reply," he absolutely expected that you would and was likely ready with an excuse/reason for his defection. ("I'm not good for you user1!" etc)
By refusing to play your part you have TOTALLY destabilized him and his perception of you and your two year relationship.
This has to be the best of punishments for his dreadful behaviour to you.

Your doing great OP, the silence will be killing him.