Dumped by text

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Bf of 2 years sent me this text in the early hours of this morning.
“Hey I’ve been thinking about us and it’s just not working out so best to end it. No need to reply. All the best”
I feel absolutely blindsided. Didn’t see this coming at all. Aside from the shock of it, I feel so dismissed that he put “no need to reply” as if he I don’t have a say in it ( well I know I don’t but the urge is to try and talk about what he feels is wrong)
Should I ignore what he said and try and contact him to find out what’s wrong and try and work it through or at least end it amicably? Or just accept it somehow and not reply.
I feel as if someone has punched me in the stomach and everything I thought was real just isn’t.
Please help me retain some dignity and tell me best way to reply or not.

What a baby. You, OP are an absolute legend

Wow. The breath taking arrogance of him. Am so happy that you are staying strong. But each text (or even waiting for the next text) is not helping you. I'm glad the power has transferred to you. But it's absolutely time to block. So the expectation of anymore texts (which have taken him all of 1 second to write. Let's not forget) is gone. As everyone says. You're a bloody legend! But it's time for that shovelling wanker to f off now. Enjoy your wine!

Well done for not texting and keeping your power. Let him stew and reflect and regret treating you like this ... he is not your problem anymore.

You go on with your life, amazing weight loss - treat yourself to something. You are an inspiration to us all.

Thank you and keep being strong, dont get swayed by apologies, crying, suicide threats, flowers, friends of his telling you how he's ill and so on ... these are things for him to deal with alone and it is what he wanted. You are moving on to new and better things. Good luck.

What a shit. I wouldn't reply....you don't ask someone who can do that to tell you where it went wrong as they will only list things that make it seem it's your fault.
Though if the temptation to have your say is too much something like: "Thank god you said it first. I didn't quite know how to tell you I just don't fancy you anymore."

Ignore my last post. It was in response to the original post and not the latest goings on!!! Absolutely DO NOT REPLY. He can't understand it. Good. Let him stew. How dare he say what he did and come swanning in thinking he can just pick up. Lucky escape. Not replying puts you well out of his league. Well done 👏

If you really must reply I would put, I am warning you now that your unwanted messaged/texts are harassment and are being reported to the police as such...Don't bother to reply, I am sure you get the message

I think not texting is the right thing... however in my head I'd send

Hi ex, I'm not sure why you're replying, perhaps it's guilt? Please don't worry about me, it had become clear you weren't long term partner material and after that disappointing sex session on Friday it became obvious we should end it. So all the best. No need to reply.

Honest to God. It sounds like the twat has no idea that you are a person with an inner life and feelings. Rather than a plaything. Entitled cock. This might be me being a bit prejudiced here, but is he a public school twat (all boys boarding school)? Have known quite a few emotionally clueless fuckwits who went to all boys boarding schools (they're not all arsehole, obvs. But there does seem to be above average percentage who are. But maybe have been unlucky)

No answer IS the answer, OP.

No need to reply

Wow, so proud of you if that's the right word!

He gave you no answers, and denied you permission to ask for any with his breezy little ''no need to reply'' and then when you didn't reply, he demands an answer to why you didn't ask. ARGH!!!!

What an idiot.

Do not text.

He's not thinking she's crying into her coffee, he's wondering why she isn't grateful to have a scrap of his attention.

It's not playing games, it's taking the lead.

Fuck him and his arrogant self.

I agree with @Lampan
If a man like this saw that you'd moved on he'd be consoling himself for not having known you were such a hussey and he could go back to feeling like the victim of a harlot. Better to reveal nothing and leave him with no clues. You don't respond. You don't block. You're not posting clues on SM.

This is how to handle it OP. Master class

You’re a legend; your self control is utterly awesome!

He's just checking to see if he could get you back if he wanted. You didn't reply so he doesn't know if you are at home sobbing or painting the town red.

Don't reply xx

The "All the best" is the worse bit for me. That's the sort of a thing an inept manager would say after not giving you a job after a half day try out! Total wanker.

Keep strong op. Seriously impressed so far!

If you reply, you’ll end up where you were three weeks ago at some point, you already know he’s a bolter, so it would just be a matter of time before he did it again. There nothing to be gained if you engage with him, and everything to be gained if you don’t.

Believe me, I’ve done this dance with two different men, and hugely regretted letting them back in my life. I kept thinking ‘I could be a year on from this!’ When they did the disappearing act for the second time.

Plus he has very questionable morals, having sex with you knowing he was going to dump you a day later. If you’d known his true intentions, I doubt you would’ve consented, and he will have known this. That’s very violating and shows a despicable cold, calculating side. You’re well rid!

Feeling good today 👍. Had lovely evening with friend, couple glasses of wine and put the world to rights🍷😀.
Phone is sorted now, in that any messages from him don’t stare me in the face, that is a huge relief. I decided to delete his last few pathetic texts. They weren’t exactly deep and meaningful anyway. I don’t want to look back on them.
Slept well and got up at 6 and went for a run in the pouring rain - it was amazing!!! Seriously should be prescribed to anyone going through a breakup - kind of cleansing ( without sounding too Hippyish 😊).
Go away on Saturday for a weekend in the country, so am looking forward to that. Less crying, more laughing from now on is the plan !

You are a total queen OP keep smiling it's good for the soul

WOW @user1471427667 !

You are an inspiration to anyone going through this. Enjoy your weekend

WellOverW**$¥#

Yeahhh! 🏃‍♀️ 🍷 🌳 💪

Amazing @user1471427667

Enjoy your weekend away ☺️

Well done you. You should be everyone's blueprint in how to deal with a break-up.
What a prat!

OP, you are utterly amazing. I wish I had your resolve and strength, you are an inspiration! 👍👍👍