Dumped by text

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Bf of 2 years sent me this text in the early hours of this morning.
“Hey I’ve been thinking about us and it’s just not working out so best to end it. No need to reply. All the best”
I feel absolutely blindsided. Didn’t see this coming at all. Aside from the shock of it, I feel so dismissed that he put “no need to reply” as if he I don’t have a say in it ( well I know I don’t but the urge is to try and talk about what he feels is wrong)
Should I ignore what he said and try and contact him to find out what’s wrong and try and work it through or at least end it amicably? Or just accept it somehow and not reply.
I feel as if someone has punched me in the stomach and everything I thought was real just isn’t.
Please help me retain some dignity and tell me best way to reply or not.

How arrogant to think you’d jump to respond to his pathetic non-effort.

How little he must truly think of you. Despite everything, he still doesn’t think you deserve an apology. Just a ‘?’.

I still can't believe the question mark...he really thinks you will just be hanging doesn't he, the sheer arrogance.

You will meet way better OP! A bloody question mark !!!!!

Was he good in bed OP? I’m struggling to imagine how anyone so selfish and self-absorbed could be... satisfying.

I know this is difficult for you OP but I’m really enjoying the fact that he’s obviously really bothered. He’s so arrogant he must be incredulous that you’re ignoring him. He obviously expected you to jump as soon as he deigned to contact you. What a pathetic specimen he is. Be strong!

He is also very cruel to come back...he made his decision, he would know you would be upset.

Now it's all about him again and what he wants, he is inherently selfish.

I think you are brilliant OP! I am sure he has the message now but what a loser!

'New phone, who dis?'

Or

'Please don't text me, my new BF doesn't like it'

....no seriously though, absolute radio silence is the most dignified response....well done, you're doing great!

A lot of great advice here👍👍👍. You could also... Put him back in your phone book as "no need to reply"

Ugh. Typical narc behaviour. My ex was the same. NC NC NC ALL THE WAY

You are amazing. I think if you were to get back with him it would be short lived - these text are only because he can't believe you haven't contacted him - it's killing him - stay strong x

The ? Is literally his arrogant, tiny mind unable to compute the fact you've not incredibly grateful for the crumb he's thrown you.

If I could, I would give you a standing ovation. You really are amazing, this is how every woman who has been mistreated should respond.

You're worth more and you know it. It's very inspiring.

Bloody hell. I've just read through all this. I can't believe he's text you after dumping you via text in the first place. What an arse hole! You've been incredible resilient I'm not texting back. I'd be fuming!! Haha. Good for you girl!

Protect yourself OP. He may not escalate with his messages/contact, he may disappear again and you may re-experience all the 'abandoned' feelings once again. Unfortunately his behaviour is entirely about him and saving his own skin. Try not to link any of his behaviour with your own sense of worth.

Personally I would text him back along these lines.

Hi ...... I can't thank you enough for having the courage to end our relationship. I've been struggling for months trying to find the right words to end it, so it was a huge relief you did this for me. I've felt so much happier not having you in my life, so thank you again, and have a good life.

Noooo. Ignoring him is hurting him more than words ever could.

Ignoring him might be giving him the impression OP is gutted and still in love with him.

Telling him you're glad he's gone may hurt more? I would hate for him to think I'm sitting there crying into my coffee.

He deserves to be hurt for the way he's acted.

Then ignore totally.

I would text something along the lines of, “please leave me alone now, you ended it, so we have no more to discuss. No need to reply”

Don’t text him back! Don’t do it! No good can come from it. If he want led to give you a genuine apology he would have done already. This is all about him just wanting to know you’re there on the back burner if he ever wants to reignite things.

Stay ignoring him, it's driving him crazy that you're not playing his game. Block him on everything. Any response no matter how positive or negative will be seen by him as getting to you and an invitation to continue contact. My faith in womenkind is always restored when I read threads like this, lots of strong women coming together to support each other ❤️❤️

Keep going, op. Your silence is the best, most dignified response. Serene ice queen.

I think you’re doing so well and not texting is the way forward. However if you ever do decide to tell him to stop texting you absolutely must put “no need to reply. Best wishes” on the end!

Just read entire thread!
Can’t believe how proud I am of a stranger on the internet! You have handled this perfectly! Well done you!!

Yeah kudos op
Sit in your hands

Eventually as time goes by his shitty traits will become more apparent as the memories flood back

Onwards have a nice time with your friend

Silence is power

So proud of you! I knew he'd message you and it must be driving him insane that you're ignoring him and he so deserves it. The ball is firmly in your court so keep it there and don't hit it back to him as once you do he may well lose interest again. Let him be the one checking his phone every two minutes - not you!

The only reply he deserves is for you to take a selfie with the best looking man you know and send it to him with a message saying "Oh sorry but after you text me that it wasn't working between us, I started seeing Tom who'd been asking me to go out with him for ages and it's actually going pretty well - in fact he asked me to say thank you!!"