Dumped by text

[user1471427667]

Bf of 2 years sent me this text in the early hours of this morning.
“Hey I’ve been thinking about us and it’s just not working out so best to end it. No need to reply. All the best”
I feel absolutely blindsided. Didn’t see this coming at all. Aside from the shock of it, I feel so dismissed that he put “no need to reply” as if he I don’t have a say in it ( well I know I don’t but the urge is to try and talk about what he feels is wrong)
Should I ignore what he said and try and contact him to find out what’s wrong and try and work it through or at least end it amicably? Or just accept it somehow and not reply.
I feel as if someone has punched me in the stomach and everything I thought was real just isn’t.
Please help me retain some dignity and tell me best way to reply or not.

You are doing really well @user1471427667.

In my experience there is generally only one reason why somebody ends a relationship like that. And that is there is somebody else involved.

Delete and block @user1471427667

You don't need a man like that in your life. His words mean nothing! Nothing, I tell you! There's nothing of substance there, which he's indicated by dumping you via text message.

What a spineless cock and you are a hero op. Keep silent and let him mull over what he's lost.

Nothing wrong with ending a relationship but he should have talked to you in person and explained his reasons. Disappearing like that after 2 years is abominable.

Well, as he told you, no need to reply... It might still feel too raw but it redressed the balance a bit. Now you have the power to decide not to respond. Well done for not caving in.

Just RTFT
OP, you are a legend! Try not txt him back. What a bastard. I hope you treat this text with the class and dignity u have shown since his last one. Or turn your phone off and have a glass of wine, you will still be as fabulous

You are a total queen and inspired me as I need to also have no contact with an ex and I’ve failed.

I will add to the Netflix recommendations - crazy ex girlfriend and jane the virgin both got me through my marriage ending . Both funny and entertaining!

Remember OP, you don't miss him, you miss the man you thought he was. But now he's shown his true colours, and you know he is not worth pursuing. What a dickhead he is! Listen to us all, and do not reply!! Stay strong, keep busy and you will recover over the forthcoming weeks xxx

Argh, I know this pain only too well! 5 years, married (that he pushed for!) children... woke up one morning for work, slept together before he left, kissed me goodbye like most mornings.

An hour later, I received this text- "I'm not coming home. Ever."

Seriously. Wouldn't speak to me or anything. No idea what had happened and zero warning.

Was so incredibly painful to deal with, almost had a breakdown. But I pulled myself through. It came out in the wash he was shagging his ex!

10 years down the line he's miserable as fuck. Has made repeated attempts to test the waters, has complained about the OW and the mistakes he's made... yadda yadda...

Me? I spent a long time learning to love myself. Teaching myself that the problem was with him, not me. Building myself up and making a happy life.

I met the love of my life on a train, just over 5 years ago. We're married with 2 children of our own. I'm happy, at peace and deeply loved.

Funny how things work out! Stay strong. Your happy ending is not with this clownshoe!!

IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE
You are being fabulously strong but in case you need another reminder
IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE
He was bound to pop back up at some point, and this is quite soon by the usual standards. But just think how much more annoying it is for him that he has NO IDEA how you are feeling and that is infinitely more annoying/stressful for him than any kind of response at all. If you responded, whatever you said, there would be a clue to your feelings and then he could rationalise when he did and make himself feel better.
You will realise in time that even if you had crumbled and got back with him if you had the chance, it would be a mistake, you would never trust him and things would never have been the same.
You are doing so well, I’m seriously impressed, and remember to IGNORE his messages. They may well become more desperate in tone too 😄

Also, he obviously wants to reopen communication, for whatever reason, maybe he wants to be back in touch, maybe just to make himself feel better. But he HASN’T EVEN GOT THE BALLS TO APOLOGISE. He has no decency. I’m so angry on your behalf!

You rock, OP! I first saw this thread today and thought, "Oooh let's get to the bit where he eventually texts back." Asshole. God, people like this... I am so sorry you wasted two years with a time bandit.
Absolutely DO NOT reply (I know you know this, but I'm just driving the point home). I mean, "Hey..." is his eventual follow-up to the absolute lamest way of breaking up with someone ever?? I can't believe this guy. Let him suffer. Silence is golden! Obviously, whatever it was he saw over yonder on the greener grass side of life isn't quite as perfect as he thought. Otherwise his ego wouldn't be popping up for the 'It's been 3-weeks' post-mortem. He is an ass wipe!!! God, I'm raging on your behalf. What did he think you'd do? Beg to be kicked while your down?
Bastard!
Be strong. Be strong. Be strong. Be strong!!! And RISE!

Just RTFT. OP you are brilliant. Was skipping through your messages waiting for you to say he had text you back, like clockwork he has, with the standard ‘hey’.

Stay strong OP, you’ve got this!

I’m home now. Went for a run, had a shower, put some pasta on to cook and checked my phone...
2 more messages.

“Are you okay (pet name)?”

“I miss you”.

I feel surprisingly calm. Maybe I half expected it after this mornings text. It’s all so bloody predictable
I won’t be replying.
I will be eating my pasta and turning my phone off.

You are so strong OP. I would 100% want to text something completely cold and scathing at this point. And then block.

“You’re a cunt. No need to reply. All the best.”

Well he knows he’s made a huge mistake

You wait he will have the temerity to turn up at your doorstep at some point.

Hide of a rhino

What a prick

I'm so proud of you stay strong and don't answer. X

Don't reply. Let him stew. He has no right to say 'I miss you' when he hasn't even apologised to you.

Enjoy your pasta, op. That saying, revenge is a dish best served cold, springs to mind.
And all without a text shot being fired.
You've got this.

You are a legend OP! I wouldn’t block, because then he would know you had noticed him. Just leave all his messages read but unanswered. Wonderful.

IME nasty people like him always come crawling back, they can’t bear to think they are unmissed and unremembered.

What a fucking cheek he has! Can’t believe the brass neck on him.

Omg what a dick! As if he has dared to say I miss you!! And are you okay well he wasn't considering your well being when he sent his original text!! Do not reply....ever !! He's a grade a wanker

And I hope it's on WhatsApp so he can see you've read it but are not replying! I am so angry on your behalf

Stay strong. He is a wanker and you are in control. Don’t reply.