Dumped by text

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Bf of 2 years sent me this text in the early hours of this morning.
“Hey I’ve been thinking about us and it’s just not working out so best to end it. No need to reply. All the best”
I feel absolutely blindsided. Didn’t see this coming at all. Aside from the shock of it, I feel so dismissed that he put “no need to reply” as if he I don’t have a say in it ( well I know I don’t but the urge is to try and talk about what he feels is wrong)
Should I ignore what he said and try and contact him to find out what’s wrong and try and work it through or at least end it amicably? Or just accept it somehow and not reply.
I feel as if someone has punched me in the stomach and everything I thought was real just isn’t.
Please help me retain some dignity and tell me best way to reply or not.

Well done you for ignoring it. He is after an ego boost, imagining you sat, pining for him.

I guess he’s gradually becoming puzzled that you’ve taken him at his word and not contacted him. I’m so proud of you op.

I don’t think this is the last you hear from him (because he is that much of an egotist wanker he won’t conceive of you not wanting him) and he will prob ramp it up with ‘miss you’ or something ‘romantic’ to try to lure you back in.

Every time you feel week think back to what he did and how awful you felt.

We’re all with you!

Who knows OP?
I heard from my ExP (narc, cheater, porn addict, liar, sleaze) last weekend!
It's been 2 1/2 years!!!!
I blocked him.

You’re amazing in how you have handled his shitty treatment. Keep your incredible dignity and don’t lower yourself to respond. He was probably expecting you to send a gushing reply about how you’re so pleased to hear from him and how you’re missing him. There will probably be more messages- let’s have a sweepstake on what his ne text will be. I reckon “how are you” or “can’t stop thinking about you”. With an added “I know I’ve no right to contact you after everything I’ve put you through”. If he kept it up a simple “stop messaging me” might be appropriate.

This thread is a great reminder of all the hurt he put you through and how amazing you’ve been if you’re ever crumbling.

@SmellyBeard. Could well be true. I never found out ( didn’t really want to) if he had someone else, but if he did, or if he just wanted the single life, then maybe it’s not all he thought it was going to be.
@P1nkHeartLovesCake. I won’t reply. You are right. I don’t want to even acknowledge his pathetic attempt to engage after what he’s put me through.
I felt like he took away my power, my right to reply, to talk through any problems, even the right to say a proper goodbye to him. Choosing everyday not to contact him has actually given me that sense of power and choice back if that makes sense.
I’m not over him by any means but I know I’ll get there and deserve more .

Oh gosh OP this is awful, I really feel for you.
It was an unforgivably cowardly way to end it but seems so sudden - didn't you have any trips/holidays etc planned? Haven't you got stuff at each other's houses? I'm just amazed that after two years something could be so suddenly finished.
You can do better and perhaps it's good that he has shown his true colours now rather than later.
Sending you big hugs and love x

Just RTFT and you are a legend, OP!

Remember what a PP said about his having shown himself not to be a man of integrity and continue the silence.

"Hey". What an absolute tool he is. You are so well rid!

What an absolute arse!
Stay strong OP, we have your back through this.

@notthisshitagain. It’s true! Why doesn’t he have the courage of his convictions. He wanted rid of me and he got what he wanted, so don’t text me now!
@Bunnyfuller. Ah, bless you, thank you.
@Honeyroar. I don’t feel amazing at all. But I am glad I haven’t contacted him these past few weeks. It was hard at times, but definitely the best course of action. Even coming back onto this thread and reading my
first post, I can remember the total heartbreak and bewilderment I felt .
@hellsbellsmelons. Jeez, 2 1/2 years later! Wtf??!!

OP I said this to you on 20/1 (prev name) and I'll say it again:

Make sure you tell him to get to fuck when he comes crawling back.

Because when he realises the grass isn't greener, he'll be straight back round expecting you to be all delighted and forgiving.

He'll put it down to a little crisis. Moment of madness.

Don't reply even to tell him where to go. Just think of all those months and years ahead he's got wondering what happened to you. You are strong and you've got this!

You guys are bloody legends. I can’t thank you all enough. You picked me up when I was on the floor 3weeks ago, and you’ve done it again today.
Hopefully this is just a small hiccup on my way to recovery.
Xx

Honestly OP, it's not even a hiccup. He's done you a favour, helping you see him for the moron that so many people on here said he was. How many people told you he would be back, and how you're silence would spur that on.

No disrespect to you if this text has brought you down. I understand. But hundreds of MNer's saw through him when he thought he was so smart, so patronising and I'm control of the situation and you. He's fucking laughable.

So many typo's. Sorry!

Hey OP - I'm only just jumping on now and WOW what a woman you are!!

My only advice DO NOT REPLY DO NOT REPLY DO NOT REPLY!!!

It will be killing him. He's messing with you. He does not deserve you or your text replies. You got this girl, you are so strong! x

@FetchezLaVache. No integrity whatsoever. Why would I want a man like that?
He can shove his “Hey” up his weak, pathetic, miserable arse!!

I too had been wondering how you were getting on. Well, thank the Lord for the "Hey" because it would kill stone dead any thoughts about reconciliation, it is lame beyond belief. Definitely ignore completely (to state the bleeding obvious!)> I know it's boring and lonely on your own but you are well rid of someone like him xx

What a weak willed individual. It's a blessing in disguise. Sheer tomfoolery at its best. I wouldn't give him the pleasure of responding. I'd delete and block his number. Men like this ALWAYS crawl out from under their sad little rocks sometime in the future. Karma is bliss.

Honestly, how embarrassing for him! What a total tool he's made himself look. Fab work on your part, OP, in maintaining radio silence.

Maybe he was wanting a card from you on Friday .
Hahahahahahahahahaha.

An evil part of me is enjoying the thought of him checking his phone every 2 seconds today to see if I’ve replied to boost his fragile little ego!
Trying to enjoy that thought before the pain kicks in again.
Thanks @Beau20 x
Yes @notthisshitagain, he has done me a favour. I think if he had text me in first week or so, I may have crumbled ( although it would have had to have been more that just “Hey”). But now, I can’t think of anything he can say that would be worth my time listening to.That makes me sad to realise that, but also strong.

Jesus what an arsehole
There will be some more shit to follow of that you be sure!

My 14 year old uses the word 'hey'
Well done you on maintaining complete silence.
❤️

Ha ha! Happy to hear the wanker cracked and you're standing firm OP. You're an actual legend. He's going to be REALLY perturbed now

@AnneKipanki - I wondered what you meant at first about a card........
Noooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!

Oh yes! it's Valentine's, Friday! he could have chosen to 'Hey' you now as it's an awful day when you're newly dumped. Maybe he thinks it's the best time to get you to beg for him to come back.

Utter arsewank.