'(What sort of therapist is he?! I'm hoping for some sort of practitioner of woo not a MH specialist.)'
@category12 @Tfgjiknfr He's a Gestalt therapist, so a bit woo-y for me but a lot of people rate it relatively highly. He's highly qualified.
@Namethecat good for you! Just do what you wanna, that's what it's all about.
@ShatnersWig I'm not as hardline as you, as I like him and fancy him and think there should be hope if I just tell him what I'm not happy with (that's what he's always asking me to do--though I shouldn't have to spell it out that I don't want to be asked to do things I've made it clear I don't want to do) but I'm not offended or anything. xx
'Please tell me that you aren't thinking of becoming a counsellor.'
@DareDevil223 A lot of people who've originally been in therapy later go on to become therapists. Being human or having had mental health problems and years of therapy wouldn't make someone intrinsically a poor therapist- in fact, therapists are encouraged to have therapy as part of their training.
That''s an aside though- no, I'm not planning to become a therapist. I just thought it might be good for my interpersonal skills etc, and I want to do some volunteering with a charity- but is there some reason for you having a go at me? Or are you just bored?
@RuffleCrow You're right, I do now have my own schemes and plans. They'll be top priority. I just happen to fancy the guy.
@AnyFucker I wrote it out and it's a long story it seems. :) I needed to get out of the house, so I googled what was local on that particular night locally, and it was a Role Playing Games club! I never imagined doing it and did eventually stop it. I didn't directly say hi to him in the flesh at first, he popped up on FB chat after I'd been on the groups FB group. He said he was 'looking for a woman to help him do some research into those with alternative life styles, adult cinemas, fetish etc' or something etc yeah right rolls eyes I rolled my eyes at first lol but I started chatting to him a year or so later when I was going through a rough time and needed people to chat to. I ended up gaming on his table and gradually getting closer to him. I asked him fairly recently and he claims he gave 2 women there the 'need someone to help with research' line. The other didn't reply at all. I didn't agree to the 'research' idea or anything, he just got me into the stuff years later when I was hyper (I propositioned him to an extent, but not with going along to clubs etc, just in general.)
@BaolFan good points. I like him a little too much I suppose, and I find it hard to keep friends, (I have ADHD with autistic features) so don't like to annoy people by doing/saying things they don't want-I do that involuntarily anyway.:)
'You can get your freak on with any number of people with a few clicks but you're fixed on this weirdo? I don't think anything anyone says will convince you he's a wrong'un so I wish you the best. You're going to need it.'
@eminencegrise I find him hot.:) I know he can be a wrong'un - he landed me in hospital once due to his rejection. I do really like him though- you know how it is- we see it all the time on these boards. :) Hadn't really thought of my life in the context of all the other women we see on here posting about their pet wrong'un. I usually chip in advising them to LTB etc. I suppose that's easy when it isn't us, but we're all to an extent human. I am doing things like the Freedom Programme and stuff, due to having read about it on here, and my own interest.
@Zofloramummy(great name btw- fellow Zoflora fan :) ) Good advice. I don't really need a man for their own sake. I just have a thing for this particular guy unfortunately.
@DareDevil223 I have reported your initial post. As I've said, I don't want to be a counsellor, but even if I did, becoming a counsellor is a long process, with plenty of opportunity for therapy etc. Many therapists have issues- they are more aware of it than the average person. Someone else might have these issues and not realise. Therapists are very much human, and often constantly discussing their own issues, in therapy or whatever suitable contexts.
Your comment did come across as you think people who have or have had mental health problems or have issues (aka are human) shouldn't work in mental health. It was vindictive and insulting. If I were to decide to be a therapist now, I would have several years before I became a professional therapist, during which time I would continue to choose to work on my issues, as I do now. A lot of people don't work on their issues, or aren't even aware of them. My seeking treatment for mental health problems isn't a weakness that should disqualify me- at least not as I am receiving appropriate treatment. Have you never shagged a wrong'un? Whoopy for you.
'I'm also out, advice has fallen entirely on deaf ears anyway and responses littered with smileys and lols. '
@SetTheScene I'm listening and taking it all on board. Being amused (especially at my own mistakes) is just my personality/coping mechanism. It doesn't mean I'm not listening to people's advice.
@FlaskMaster good point. I bought a flask for going to my course and broke it on day 1 btw! I need to get one that isn't glass lined.