Man niggles.

[loveyoutothemoon]

What niggles would make you end a new relationship?

I would message with this:

Hi, I’m messaging you to let you know I’m ending our relationship. I have told you I feel uncomfortable with what you see as your funny side aka taking out your cock at odd times. You have not respected my boundaries with this issue which it says a lot about you as does this frankly bizarre, borderline perverted behaviour. I’m sorry, we are not compatible. Please do not contact me again.

I'm confused!

Yeah Bugged and Confused this is perfect!

Brilliant OP, glad to help. 👍

Can someone please explain the Nigel thing please?

@simone1863 are you the ex?

I think pps are misreading the 'naming it Niggle' - probably speed reading the thread with their eyes popping out.

I had one like this too. He was basically about twelve years old in his head (kids sense of humour too). No sophistication. And really did think that sex was the only real reason to be with another person, therefore I must want/be thinking about sex all the time. He wouldn't whip his penis out, but there were endless....endless....references to his erection, constant 'saucy' remarks, off colour sex jokes etc etc etc.

He'd basically got stuck at twelve, mentally.

Zapho how old was he?

Maybe I should start going for the 60 odd old men!

If they can be a perv at 48 they can be one at 58 and 68 too op.

Loveyoutothemoon - he was nearly 50 when I met him. He's heading towards 60 and still the same...and he thinks it's perfectly normal to be obsessed with his erection! Mind you, he doesn't have many friends, so no male peers to say 'you do realise, mate, that women are going to want you to talk about something other than your cock, right?'

He actually used to refuse to hug me, or sit close to me 'in case I might get an erection'. I did tell him that he could get one but just SHUT UP ABOUT IT, but he genuinely think I wanted to know about it every time he got a stiffy.

I'm just reassured, reading your post, to find out that he's not totally the only one in the world like this!

YES! He couldn't hug me without getting a stiffie which is a natural thing BUT it's what he did or say that was the annoying thing.

Yes, niggle/Nigel. I was joking

@simone1863 I'm a bit slow but I get it now!!!

Loveyoutothemoon - if I hadn't been only the second woman my ex had been out with (gee, I wonder why??) I'd assume we'd had the same bloke.

The fact that there's more than one of this type of idiot out there makes my fanny clang closed.

Haha yeah! I love sex and I'm no prude but I definitely know this isn't normal now! I think I'll put a no entry sign on mine!

I had a brief fling with someone who sounds a bit like OP's fella.
It didn't last because he was a penis.

Anyone who thinks you're precious for not wanting to be treated like a sex toy isn't someone you want in your life anyway.

This thread is a good example of why you should read the full thread before posting too.

If he was a couple of years older I would assume I had dated him too OP!

I would not message him at all because why would you do him the favour of telling him why he is getting dumped? If you do, he will consider you a prude. He is infantile, that much is clear, so he will turn it around on you either in real life or in his head. Keep quiet. Let him get dumped again and again and again and again. One day. yeat another ex will tell him it's because of the thing he does with his knob and he might remember the conversation you have had and he will have that uncomfortable itchy feeling we have all had when we realise we were being a dick.

I'm as cynical as hell though but don't put yourself in the role of his educator. Go quiet. His loss. He sounds like a fiddling five year old.

Thanks all for your messages.
Right I've done it, binned him. I had to send him a closure text as he text me as though nothing was wrong!

'Penis stuff'? And he thinks, at his advanced age, he can 'learn not to do it?' How weird... he clearly has absolutely no idea just how unattractive it is to have life revolving around his penis.

Very very much like my ex. Except he would never have called me 'darling'. Not once in eight years...

When I was in the midst of thrush (which he knew I was in the midst of) we were kissing and cuddling and he said "so how is it down there RIGHT now?!
That's one example.

Well he seems to have taken it quite well.

@Zaphodsotherhead I know, can't believe that at his age he thinks it's all a learning process

I'm feeling a bit sad that it didn't turn out the way I hoped but definitely feeling like I dodged a bullet, he would have driven me mad! I'll be fine in a few days.