Man niggles.

[loveyoutothemoon]

What niggles would make you end a new relationship?

GrannyBags yes a few times.

I mean it's obvious that kind of behaviour would make people uncomfortable. So having already told him also and for he continue doing it is really just icing on the cake. I mean I'm sure part of the sick thrill he gets doing it is because it makes you uncomfortable. Quite chilling really.

He's clearly some sort of sexual deviant.

*him to continue doing

Well you've tried to speak to.him about it (which you shouldn't have had to do) and he's apparently still doing it.

I've never been involved with a man who got his dick out at any time other than when we were having sex (or heavy foreplay). That's probably the case for most women and for you up till now .. because that's normal, his behaviour is not.

And youth shouldn't be an excuse but it can't even be blamed because he's nearly effing 50.

I'm sorry you're in this position, given the rest of his behaviour is mostly ok (though you say he is clingy etc.).

I also honestly do wonder of there aren't some exposure/sexual.offence skeletons in his cupboard. This is pretty weird behaviour to not have had an effect on his life to date.

Has he been married or in any Lt relationships? What do you know about (or can find out about) why they broke down?

He said right at the beginning that his ex wife used to get pissed off with him being silly with his penis and I said "no I wouldn't be happy about that". I was wary from then, and there have been a few other different niggles. He said she was quite materialistic and he was sensible with money. So I'm not prepared to give him a chance, he's not changed regarding his penis. It's only been a matter of a small number of weeks, I've not been stupid enough to believe he'll change.

We've not been messaging for the last few days because of an issue. I'm hoping he'll get the hint. But I need to prepare a text to bin him!

Good for you loveyoutothemoon you deserve better and he needs help!

This thread is just and I am imagining that you could be in the kitchen making a cuppa and he just comes through and whips his cock out?

How common do you think this is that anybody’s answer would be ‘talks/touches/gets you to touch his penis all the time???’

He knows it’s a problem himself and still does it!

If you have told him it annoys you, his ex wife said the same and he still does it then he won’t be surprised if you end the relationship. I think he needs help, but I’m not sure who from? I remember my DH having a chat to our then 3 year old along the lines of ‘people don’t play with that on public’ - perhaps your partner was never told that? It does seem very odd and childish.

If you’ve asked him to stop this behaviour and he hasn’t, I would apply my boundaries and end it. It’s just so childish and, frankly, bizarre!

And telly him why when you end it. Don’t let him get away with this.

Thanks everyone. I suppose I was just biding my time to see how bad it was!

It was just to in your face. No build up talk etc, it put me off. Felt like a bloody sex toy!

I bet he sends dick pics too, seems the type.

That's exactly how he views women, sex toys there for his gratification. And I bet my ass his wife wasn't 'materialistic' either. And by 'sensible with money' he meant -tight AF.

Have you thought of using a water pistol on him - as a training device?

My first thought is that it's like a irl version of a dick pic. Not pleasant for the recipient but the sender is usually thrilled about it. Some men seem to think we love penises much more that we really do. They aren't the masterpieces they make them out to be. It is rather odd OP, yes. And very disrespectful to you.

A water pistol sounds a good idea

Actually, bin him. Ridiculous and quite scary behaviour. Old times park flasher and serial dick pic sender by the sounds of it. Ugh.

No he didn't send dick pics actually, that surprised me! He did explain examples of her materialistic behaviour and it did sound likely actually, but I can't go into that as it's outing. He said he was poor, and we agreed that material things don't matter, as long as you're happy with a decent house etc, because that's just me. I don't think he was as poor as he made out though, with the things he bought and things he said.

But I do think the immaturity would have been her main issue. They married and had a child very quickly.

Body odour and bad breath and someone who refuses to communicate whever there is a problem of any kind or he doesn't get his own way. I've been there.

A water pistol would have been great if I was giving him a chance, but no it's over. We're currently not messaging at the moment. I'll not bother and see if he does, looks like it's fizzling out anyway. Or should I say my piece to let him no my main issue and for closure?

Say your piece!!

If he gets in touch again (hasn't got the hint) then say your piece. 'Yo man, you need professional help with your proclivity to get your penis out. Sorry dude but it's creepy and I'm done. I suggest you speak to someone about those issues before dating again. All the best, toodles' lol.