Man niggles.

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What niggles would make you end a new relationship?

There's something going on there mentally; but I'm not qualified to even begin to unravel it.

That's not a niggle, OP, that's really bizarre behaviour. If I dated a man who got his dick out without a second thought, that date would be the last time I ever saw him. He's an exhibitionist. Possibly a sex offender if he's ever been caught in public.

Have you checked of he has any record for indecent exposure.

God, why do you need to ask whether that's a problem? It would be a problem in a 13 year old, never mind a man his age. He sounds like he can't control himself.

@GilbertMarkham asking the police? No but I think I'll bin him anyway!

He's also clingy and I suppose does a bit of love bombing.

I used to have one that would like to say,,,,"I,m not bragging but I do have a big penis" he did actually. But the way he said I'm not bragging meant he really was bragging.

Sounds like a pervert op.
That isn't a niggle, it's flat out horrible. Like he's grooming you into thinking being a pervert is normal or a quirk...it really isn't.

How long had you been putting up with that "niggle"?

He sounds totally insane.

So he's either talking about it, touching it, getting me to touch it or getting it out (without warning or any build up).

You were worried having a problem with this was being picky?

Also, you should name his penis "Niggle".

"Oh look, wee Niggle's out again".

Or break up with him. Probably easier.

Is he a sex addict?

Oh look, wee Niggles out again"
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Woah.... yuk. Bin.

It's not funny.

The clinginess and lovebombing are incidental. The penis thing is the sort of thing my 2yo used to do. Look mummy! Usually in Asda. It's not normal behaviour for a middle-aged man. Dump him.

You're right, it's not funny. A grown man whipping his dick out at every opportunity is more than just a "niggle", its creepy and shows he has no concern for how uncomfortable this makes you (and would make anyone). You said he's love bombing you too, so many red flags!!

Pics comment however was hilarious

It’s not funny, no, and not nice for you to read people’s responses when this is someone you’ve grown fond of generally. Sorry to be a bit abrupt below.

I think Internet forums like this can be dangerous, it somehow seems unreal reading the threads and some people just fire off the first thing that enters their head...

People taking the mickey because I thought it was niggle. Thanks for the helpful comments.

Oh Lordy Lordy, nooooo! If you’re genuinely happy with this - fine. If you’re not at ease with this, tell him goodbye. It’s really not normal for a guy to behave like that.

asking the police? No but I think I'll bin him anyway!

It's not normal behaviour.

He sounds like he has some sexual issue/s, who knows what. Seems unlikely to change.

I don't think Clare's law would cover indecent exposure - it's focused on domestic abuse, isn't it .. but there may be another way of checking if he has any record at all for exposure or sexual offences ... Maybe a poster versed in this could advise.

If he does it may make you feel better about your decision to walk away. Of course even if there isn't, if doesn't mean he hasn't done anything (I know of lots of sex offences that were never reported) a d most importantly it doesn't mean you shouldn't end the relationship. It's weird behaviour.

Didn’t there used to be some theory than men thought about sex every however many seconds or something?? Seems like he has taken this to the next step. Have you told him it annoys/upsets you?