Dating thread 181 - into 2020 with finesse and strong boundaries!

[Menora]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@menora sounds dodgy...likes the attention, has something to hide. If he messages again I would say just message me when you are ready to set a date up or don't bother...in a nicer way 😁

@menora also don't like the way he calls you my dear, bit patronising tone there.

Yeah I agree. Some of the messages come across more genuinely nice - he called me ‘rather charming’ and he seems to find me funny but something feels odd

Personally I'd bin that one @menora.

Do you think I should give him some constructive feedback 😂

@menora seems odd 😂 who call people my dear and talks about farts when trying to pull them.

@shitwithsugaron

Those were the worst of the bunch the others were actually ok
For some reason he was really ok during the day yesterday but then seemed to turn a bit funny on me

@shit agree...you can do better than that twaddle @menora .he seems a little odd. I would block, next!

Initially he seemed excited - we like dogs, told each other some jokes, shared what we were doing
But now I feel like it’s taken a funny turn so I am going to just not message again

My other chat I have going basically the man said to me he is very lonely and wants to be in love again and is looking for ‘the one’

I’ve got so many matches now I am doing the 1km thing I have endless matches (I’m passing on a lot) currently I have 37 matches and out of them all, only these 2 weirdos want to talk to me 😭

Just go and shag in the sex pond! 😂

Just don’t put your head under water in the hot tub 😂

I’m meant to be meeting Mr Parrot tomorrow.
I’ve been really busy with work today and have only just sat down, I haven’t messaged any of my irons today, I’ve just realised that none of them have messaged me either that includes Mr Parrot who is off work this week so hardly busy. I always seem to be the one that initiates chat. I’m not sure I can be bothered to message any of them as none of them have bothered to text me. I’m not feeling that excited about a Mr parrot anyway but was looking forward to getting out for a coffee tomorrow.

I have one new iron but he lives quite far away and has no car at the moment so that’s not really going to work.

Got rid of soulmate weirdo and a new one came along - he said he can’t have a dog because he winds them up too much . He also likes to feed his nephews sweets then walk away
I am lost for words

Why is this so hard. I've made the decision not to initiate anything with mr straight to gauge his interest. He messaged me this afternoon first,I replied etc...went on for a while.

I want to message him now but am sitting on hands instead.

What did he say about meeting up @bangheadhere40 not in another 3 months?! 😂

@shitwithsugaronooh dirty weekends away already. Sounds good.

@notcool I've not mentioned anything, I'm not instigating anything further and am leaving it to him. If nothing firm plans by the weekend I'm back to the apps.

Bloody hell its all just such hard work isn’t it??? I’m fed up. It’s my birthday. When we got up this morning my little boy got upset because he thought I would have balloons and presents!

Happy birthday Marlboro , I buy myself a present for my birthday and a cake so the kids think I’m getting the same as they get. I have my birthday soon and for the 4th year I have no one to take me out or buy me a gift, now my dc’s are older we go out for a meal together to try and make it special.

@marlborough happy birthday x x

Oh Malrbs happy birthday

Happy Birthday marlboro

I have cancelled tomorrow's date with Mr Vegetarian - the regular changing of WhatsApp pics and user name on Match was really weird.

Mr Spa who messaged loads last week has gone really quiet now - I messaged him last....I need to just wait and see I guess? He said he had friends over the weekend, but has gone v v quiet now.

Mr Popcorn hasn't messaged again, I think I need to really let that one go...

Mr Movies -no idea there, he has quietened down a bit, too

I am officially crap at this, I think!