Dating thread 181 - into 2020 with finesse and strong boundaries!

[Menora]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@MyuMe

I think I am alcohol intolerant. I’m seeing if this with none in gives me the same symptoms. I’m on lanzoprazole and got an endoscopy in Feb. My IBS has also been a literal pain in the bum too 😂

Even small amounts seems to make me ill so I have cut right back and kind of testing out what might be causing issues. Right now it seems to be bloody everything

@Menora I can empathise with what you said. When I have my kids I am grateful for the time and I try and plan nice things to do together but unless they involve going lout of the house, then they just aren't interested really. They both want to be doing their own things so I usually end up sitting in front of the tv in the evenings by myself.

We eat together mostly so we at least get that time together but I miss that company of just sitting on the sofa and watching something with someone. Although I do get to watch what I want now, so there is that.

If no alcohol wine makes me ill then I know I am having some kind of grape related reaction 😂😂

@Menora oh that's a bummer

I've been labelled IBS too. I sometimes wonder if they label you that when they cant find anything wrong.

Endoscopy is a bit scary but over before you know it's started.

I find alcohol makes me a bit dodgy in the tummy area too.

I am sick of having IBS. I really am. It is embarrassing

Survived (just about!), we’re getting ready to fly home. Will catch up with the thread in the morning, will be too ZzzZzz when we get home.

Hey gang

Haven’t read the thread but my date with Mr Fact didn’t end well. We had a nice evening but when we got to mine he couldn’t perform. Everything just felt really awkward. He spent the night but the next morning I was just desperate for him to leave. I also did some social media stalking and his ex wife very public talks about him been abusive and controlling. It’s an amber flag for me as obviously it might be lies but having left a very abusive marriage it worries me. He had told me they were very amicable but it certainly doesn’t look like she agrees!

@Marlboroandmalbec34 sounds like a red flag to me too, especially as he says it was all amicable.

This person has liked me

@Marlboroandmalbec34

I’m sorry it wasn’t a good date. I would say there is no smoke without fire... I just would be wary

That’s my thoughts menora plus I so wanted him out the next day, I just felt so uncomfortable

@marlborough go with your gut, if you didn't want to be with him that says something.

@menora...hilarious what a catch 😅😅

@shit not sure if to get swiping. I don't want t to jeopardise anything, but I don't know if anything will happen.

Thanks guys. My gut is saying no.

@marlborough how was it left?

@marlboroandmalbec34 I’m
Going to send you a pm , give me 5 mins

banghead well he kissed me on the cheek and said see you soon. He has messaged a few times and the last one was “let me know if you fancy getting together again”

What’s happening with your fellas bang

My daughters 9 so good company As she follows me around all day and we’ll do craft or go for a walk / park etc. Making the most before she’s a stroppy teen.

@marlborough mr smile is a no.

Really into the other one, but can't see him being available any time soon or being in a position to do anything. Chatting as normal, but I'm over invested so don't know if to go back on the apps.

I don't want to go on the apps as I like him, but at the same time don't want to over invest in something that can't be, so not sure.

@bangheadhere40 - can you just take a break from the apps and from chatting to Me Straight. It just sounds like that can't go anywhere, and that you need a break from it all.