Dating thread 180 - Deep thoughts on attachment styles, psychology and love bombing. (Oh my!)

[PerfectPretender]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@Welsh...I know this is awful and I can't do it myself but just act completely unbothered by it and don't mention a thing.

Really wish I could practice what I preach 😁

Or just ask directly, how come I haven't heard from you with a smiley emoji

@Welsh36 that was quick. Was it a good reply ??

Thanks for the advice ladies . 👍

I wouldn’t know what to send in a pic 😂 like fanny aren’t pretty.

Pretty underwear, different angles, sequences as you undress, bubbles in the bath with a knee poking up, almost-but-not-quite topless. Etc. Never sent a gynecological pic 😂😂😂

He usually does reply quite quickly which is why I think he is just shy.

The reply was OK, not exactly sparkling though.

Lol @PerfectPretender , @Jane1978xx

Definitely no fanny pics. @PerfectPretender those are some good ideas. I should have been more creative sending pics to welsh guy. Most were just different sets of sexy underwear.

Did send him one in the bath where the bubbles were starting to disappear and you could just ever so slightly see nips 😂

A classic

Oh ffs Mr walking has just suggested we meet in the car park! I’ve said no way I’m going inside where it’s warm and I’ll meet him inside!

Is this your first date @stuckinarut79?

I'd rather meet arrange to meet outside in a first date so I could slip away if I get stood up! Too embarrassing to have to walk out of a pub after sitting on my own for ages waiting!

I need to get creative I think 🤔

@Welsh36 now I feel mean for insisting on inside! Oh I’m so over thinking this!

@Stuckinarut79 no way would I be waiting outside, I'd have done the same and gone in where it's warm 😂

@Welsh36 @Stuckinarut79 I've met dates outside a theatre, outside a restaurant, in pubs, at train stations... I've never been stood up thankfully. That would make him an absolute twat. I am normally so worried we won't recognise each other. When it has never actually happened!

@stuckinarut79 I didn't mean to make you feel mean! I just think we all have different worries and concerns which is why we would all choose something slightly different!

I've also always met outside. It feels more comfortable walking in with someone.

Ack. I was on page 24 of 28. By the time I got round to reading we're on page 35 and m going to have to pass on reading them all.

I had meeting at job centre on Monday. Am now self employed and shitting myself. If anyone needs anybody to do photos or content creation please get in touch
I specialise in headshots and getting your social media up to snuff.

In other news sex with Mr Pilates felt icky. Think the BDSM element was a bad idea when I'm feeling fragile. Spoke to him about it and he understood how I felt without me having to explain bless him.

Seeing Mr Hong Kong on Friday to discuss working together. Mr climber coming for sleepover on Saturday evening.

Heard from Mr long distance again confirming our date for early Feb. Which is good because that was the hill I chose to die on with stbx only that morning when he tried to get me to change my plans to suit his girlfriend's childcare arrangements.

Fuck him. Fuck him fuck him fuck him. He has zero boundaries. No respect. Fuck him. CUNT.

I hate him and love him equally and I wish he would just cease to exist for me

My very first OLD date stood me up. Ah well.

@perfectpretender you mean just now ?

I always get to date a little late and ask where they are sat

No, last year - I meant my first ever date post LTR.

@perfect tonight? No explanation? What a loser

We’ll see I’ll put my big girl pants on and meet him wherever I’ve not been to that pub in a while but I think the car park is a bit poorly lit hence I’d feel happier inside. But yes the whole being stood up is an issue especially if I have a drink waiting for him!

In other news it’s been a shit shit day, I’m sure the universe is trying to show me why dating is a bad idea! I told mr tai chi I was having a bad one but I wasn’t going to dump all my crap on him this soon and he’s been so amazingly lovely, not pushy just really supportive, I never got that in 10 years of marriage and here’s a guy a complete stranger offering support - it’s really shown me there are good ones out there.

No not tonight! Sorry for being confusing. I'm dating Mr G at the moment - he's back in the country on Friday, for work. He'll be around for two weeks!

Mr Straight has set a date and place to meet for Friday.

He has googled and found a car park that isn't too expensive...ffs.