Dating thread 180 - Deep thoughts on attachment styles, psychology and love bombing. (Oh my!)

[PerfectPretender]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@menora....maybe he is just shy! Ask him to take a guess and see what he says.......

He’s got my number now so up to him!

supercali it is hard to give up but even if he changed his tune and decided he wants a committed exclusive relationship with me there are still many reasons it wouldn’t work. He wants us to stay friends. We will see. He told me he thinks I’m amazing and he loves spending time with me and it was the best sex he ever had but it’s not enough for me.

He is giving me weight loss advice it’s not very sexy I think I have lost my allure 😂

(He is losing weight)

@menora - just sext him and see what he says! copy Jane's paragraph, and insert necessary! ;-)

Is he Boris Johnson @Menora ?

I'm not a massive sexter either. I did with Mr Art over the summer (after we had stopped seeing each other but both completely horny) and now we are friends and keep each other up to date on our respective love lives (bit weird) and also with someone else but I won't go into that one.

Mr Ad was quite sexually repressed when we met I think as his ex wife didn't like doing it and when she did she'd want him to hurry up so she could get back to watching her tv program, poor love.

We're getting there with the physical side of things (as in getting a bit more adventurous) and I did send him a saucy photo once or twice but it doesn't come easy to him. I think he's just amazed that some women actually WANT to have sex 😂

Sex with Mr SAS was pretty amazing and he taught me a lot about myself and what I like. We had great chemistry but if the rest isn't there that's not much use really. Probably why I went back for more though.

Menora I seem to attract the ones that text non stop, the ones that want to discuss what they are having for dinner. Mr Parrot and I have been discussing food as he’s on a diet and I’m doing veganuary, he’s now started asking me for cooking advice 😐

He took me seriously when I asked for some diet tips. Very seriously

Oh @Menora Mr SAS was like that! He came across as a real nutrition freak and physiology expert and gave me some supplements with I thanked him for and promptly threw away. As time went on I remained he had a MASSIVE appetite, smoked bit and drank like a fish when he got going so no wonder! Made me feel a bit better about myself though!

*I realised

It’s weird as I have been flirty and we had some real laughs over the last few days. We haven’t had any deep serious chats but I prefer that as it’s more finding common ground with each other - re music and films and socialising before really opening up

I asked him to tell me all his secrets re his healthy eating and he said it was a lot to tell on messaging, so I sent my number. Now he is messaging me about clean eating so I think I have myself to blame I was just trying to find something to chat about 😂

@bangheadhere40 It definitely can, just ask MrNN! If you aren’t comfortable telling someone what is and isn’t working are you really in the right place to be having sex with them?

Public Service Announcement - if you want to send 'pics' Do it on snapchat. Not Whatsapp.

@Marlboroandmalbec34 Yes, I think I remember you mentioning something about emotional connection? Either way he got you over the 'hump' hehe

whys that supercali77 I've never really used snapchat

urgh mr builder isn't feeling great so dont feel I can ask him about exclusivity. not feeling as anxious about it now but feel that itll come in waves, like if I think hes taking a long time to reply. will see, may just ask later.

Unless they take a screenshot (which notifies you) they can't save the image on SC

Something happened supercali ?

@menora, that's funny, he seems to take everything literally doesn't he, like you wanted his number to hear about clean eating 😅

@menora think he is shy and not very used to this and is trying to impress you. You might have to ask him out if you want to see him.

I love this thread so much!! I try very hard to stay away from sexting if I think I want to meet them!! I just think it’s be weird to meet a stranger I’d had sexy chats with! But maybe I’m repressed! I was having a nice chat with someone for a few days and suddenly he asked for a picture, so I cooled it immediately! Didn’t know about snap chat, I’ve always had a new face and body parts in the same picture

@stuck if I meet mr straight we have had virtual sex 4 times so it's going to be the weirdest day of my life...I didn't think I would meet him at that point though so had no inhibitions.

I'm normally okay meeting people, if he flakes then that could be a blessing.

@stuck I wouldn't send pictures though to anyone weirdly.

I've only ever sent pictures to people I know and never with my face in, so if it came to it, no-one could prove it is me!

I am not sure how literal he is, I am probably hard to know if I am joking or not. we have a joke about Michael Bolton and I sent a photo of him with flowing hair, he then said I clearly love him, maybe I should go back on bumble to find a long haired man - he’s not sure if I am joking and I’m not sure if he is joking 😂