The Happy Singleton - All welcome!

[SirChing]

Hello, following a thread where I discussed how happy and excited I was to have consciously decided to be single for 2020, it seems there are loads of us out there: People who are single through choice and happy about it.

Some plan on being single forever, some for a shorter time, but none of us are dating or want to date at the moment. We are too busy focusing on the important things in life: us!

This is a thread for anyone who wants to join it, to support and encourage each other, to discuss what we have or hope to learn by being single, and to discuss random practical stuff, like which companies don't charge single supplements for holidays.

Come on in and pull up a chair if you fancy a chat.

Happy 2020 all

@SilverySurfer hahaha Fuck wit Buddy!!! Good one, now that’s what I see too!!
@mildlymiffed now tell it straight, didn’t it energise you, that run? Speaking of which, come do a 5k race with me. You like inflatables? It’ll be a laugh!
Before I got stuck into The Split I’ve been watching Border Town on Netflix. I LOVE it, so I am saving it for a bit, must be near the end now.

There is nothing in this world more cathartic than redecorating. Get some polyfilla from b&q and a filling knife, shouldn’t set you back more that a fiver or thereabouts. You’ll also need a bit of sanding paper to smooth the polyfilla once it has dried. Basically, fill the hole, smooth it with the knife, let it dry and then sand it down. It’s really easy to do.

@lifegoes where is the cruise? Sorry if I missed you saying it earlier on the thread.

@Misty9 enjoy London with the little ones! Mine’s too old for that, but I used to take her to museums in London all the time. I miss those days.

Good night ladies, it’s Friday tomorrow!!!! Yay!!

Friday and I am off today. Need to clean house. Take dog out. Seeing a friend. Doing some O U course work and going for a run. Not the thought of a man in sight!

Oooh @lifegoes I gave a house full of plaster cracks that need doing... when you’re is finished. I have grouted in the past and sanded my hall - it does feel good when you fix something yourself.

Glad people are running, dog walking, enjoying London. Sounds most productive.

I’m working my last shift today but I have a finderal to attend on Monday and as it’s a weird shift, I’ve tajen the day off. I don’t have much annual leave left so I’m working tomorrow. I only have 2 weekends a month to myself and one of thosd I work. So this is my precious day off... and no one to spend it with. I would prob have just pottered/cooked/changed all the beds anyway. So work it is. Feeling flat and invisible. But i know things will improve.

Sad that Mr Jewish hasn’t been in touch to say how much he misses my scintillating company and devastatingly gorgeous sexual prowess. But then he’s had a fiancé situation that ended and his wife’s illness/death so I suppose I’m mere small fry in his life. Everyone always moves onto better things. I don’t quite seem to be enough. 🧐

Shocking typos - apologies

@Upyerbum70 I do the same, I work weekends, extra shifts. Most weekends I organise something, but sometimes I’m at a loose end, so I prefer to go to work. Yesterday I was unexpectedly off and I felt a bit...dunno. But, I binged on The Split 😂.
Go into town for a coffee and a newspaper!

Just ignore me - I’m Moaning out loud, just need someone to give me a dead arm. I’ll be fine. Working tomorrow but I’ll be have the evening and most of Sunday to do my bits.

I’m the only person left in the universe without Netflix it seems - I don’t watch much tv. Those that have it-any hints tips/is it worth it/hard to set up?

😂😂😂 you’re in healthcare, aren’t you?
Netflix is dead easy and cheap, £5.99 a month. You either get the app or go on website. You put in your email and card details for direct debit. And then you’re good to go. It is that easy. And then say good bye to the world because that’s all you’ll be doing for a while 😂

Oh, you can cancel at any time. I think the first month is free anyway!

Emergency service - yes. Could there be a discount?????

I had a really good day yesterday, after my solo cinema trip last week I went to the theatre this time. I’d got the afternoon off work and managed to get a £10 ticket to see the matinee performance of Wuthering Heights. It was brilliant and I think I preferred going on my own rather than with someone else. It was nice just people watching and looking at the set before it started.
I’ll definitely be looking out for something else I fancy seeing.

Hi, can I join? I've added the fb group.

I decided to leave EA H, who's the father of my youngest, at the start of Feb and things snowballed and now he's already out the house (thank god) and Ive applied for my decree nisi after going down the unreasonable behaviour route.

Definitely staying single until I'm sure I'd see it coming next time. If I even ever want there to be a next time!

@olive122 I think you’re in my town!!!! Was it a good performance - I’ve been looking online for tickets

Hello @Lhia29. Welcome. Well done on your steps so far. 👍🏻

Good morning ladies! Sorry I forgot to bookmark and have been a bit lax on all the socials this week!

Just wanted to say I find you all super inspiring and it's lovely to have "met" such positive and fabulous women 🥰 it's also very reassuring as I am often the only single person around!

I can't remember who said it upthread but yes, I feel lighter, brighter and better at life when I'm single. Bella de Paulo is a single life researcher and she calls it single at heart which I love!

I have the day off today because it's my birthday, am off for lunch and antiques hunting with my Mum, and the new Jojo Moyes book is waiting for me this evening!

Well up for the commune - already planning co-living with one of my besties when we're older, so we can open a small animal sanctuary together 🥰

And you've now made me think I might fancy a cruise!

@upyerbum70 I went to the Royal Exchange in Manchester. I got one of the banquette seats right at the front, they’re released from 9:30am on the day of the performance at the box office or from 10am by phone. The seats are practically on the stage and low to the floor but that was fine for me.

It was brilliant, the scenery, music and energy of the cast were all fantastic. I’d definitely recommend it!

OMG SirChin you will have FWBs queuing out of your door

@SilverySurfer Ha, if only! Most of the approaches have been from married men, or single men who have "shagger" written all over them. Bloody hell though, the neighbour is gorgeous. His comment to me was "well there is dick here whenever you want it".......no ta! That was asked me if I was after "intercourse" which I told him had made my flaps slam shut

He is a giant, probably chlamydia ridden, no! (Just so hot and sexy, drool!) I am more than happy with current FWB. Can't be arsed with any more. Especially one who put a photo of, and poem to, his love on Facebook on Valentines Day - his hand!

*That was what he asked me

His comment to me was "well there is dick here whenever you want it

I guess he doesn't do subtle - I'm surprised you aren't drowning in dick picks

Jesus - you must be one hot chic @SirChing! Though I can’t inagine a quality response to that offer. I’d probably think I’d misheard ....

He definitely doesn't do subtle Nah, I am not a hot chick wt all, he just doesn't have a type other than amazing sex (so he says). I told him I am picky which I think he took as an insult

This was all via Facebook messenger so luckily I didn't have to think of a response there and then.

Oh I'm trying to catch up. Everyone is so busy - love it

@BuddhaAtSea I haven't booked it yet. I've been looking though, going to do it on my own I'm really excited.

Love that @Accidentalaccountant sounds like my weekend.

Hahaha @Upyerbum70 I've just got my motivation back to do my own. Once it's done I'm done for the year with decorating. Oh I hope you aren't feeling to down. One thing I've learnt is, you are always enough. They just can't see your worth. I would def do Netflix I'm just binge watching the split now.

@Olive122 that sounds amazing about the theatre. I love going out for food on my own I've never done the theatre. I might take a few tips from you on that

Welcome @Lhia29

Happy birthday @undercoveraessedai 🥳🥳🥳

Oh @SirChing your response to him made me burst out laughing.

I've tried a FWB and it's always ended up complicated, they've either been too much or too less. I might try again for one in a few months, but like you said the majority are married or sticking it in everyone they can.

What's everyone's plans for the weekend? I'm decorating, gym, football and then out for dinner with friends tomorrow evening.

@Lhia29 Welcome! I didn't see your message earlier. You have definitely done the right thing!

I am doing nothing this weekend. Was meant to be going out for a drink tomorrow night but can't be arsed I don't think. Fibro is making me achey so don't feel up to getting the train into Leeds and then visit loads of different pubs. Too much like hard work.

It's Friday night! Woo-hoo!
I'm in my jimjams. Ds and me have cooked a pad-thai together, finished half term homework and watched a film. Now I've sent him off to bed. I'm going to watch my iPad in my bed, and then an early night.

Tomorrow we're going to move the final remnants out of my storage unit (and stop paying for it! Whoop!)... then I've promised him we'll get the pictures on his new bedroom wall, and go to the cinema (to see Dolittle). I love weekends with him.

Welcome to @Lhia29
Feel better @SirChing
Happy bday! @undercoveraessedai
I have theatre envy @Olive122
@Upyerbum70 hope you've worked out how to use Netflix! It is a great addition to life!

Fellow singletons, hope you all have lovely enriched, solo weekends! In whatever shape they take 🥰