The Happy Singleton - All welcome!

[SirChing]

Hello, following a thread where I discussed how happy and excited I was to have consciously decided to be single for 2020, it seems there are loads of us out there: People who are single through choice and happy about it.

Some plan on being single forever, some for a shorter time, but none of us are dating or want to date at the moment. We are too busy focusing on the important things in life: us!

This is a thread for anyone who wants to join it, to support and encourage each other, to discuss what we have or hope to learn by being single, and to discuss random practical stuff, like which companies don't charge single supplements for holidays.

Come on in and pull up a chair if you fancy a chat.

Happy 2020 all

I've just sent a join requests, my profile photo is me and my cat and the gallery photo is a wintry landscape :)

Hi everyone,
Love this thread. Decided after relationship ending and Mum dying last year, I need time to myself (and two daughters) and I just can't be bothered now with the hassle / effort of a relationship. Love hearing about all those enjoying single life , I'm slowly getting there.
Will join FB page :-)

I hope everyone is keeping warm on this cold and wild evening. I celebrated singled by recently buying an electric blanket.

@Kiwiguybromley love my electric. Blanket

@IndieTara - the only thing better would be a cuddle under a warm duvet.

Thailand? Is there any spare room in your luggage @StarbucksQueen?

A holiday of just reading books, swimming, lazing, and ambling about sounds like heaven! Have a brilliant time. I am not green with jealousy, oh no

@Kiwiguybromley Cuddles are so underrated aren't they? I really miss them.

Have someone on hold. He's a nice bloke but I don't think we have much in common. I play sport every week day evening and I know he wants to sit on the sofa all evening watching tv and cuddling. I just know I can't do it.

Due to the sport I eat at 9_10 pm. My ex had to have dinner as soon as getting home from work. Drove me mad as it didn't matter what else was going on or needed doing. He had to have dinner.

Oh electric blankets! I currently live in a house with no heating, so my electric blanket is my literal life saver. I spend far more time in bed than is decent (can also work from bed, so it's great!).

Don't know that I even miss cuddles, tbh. Last XP didn't do cuddles, so it was always more in the nature of a grope.

Joining in if I may. 40 in 2 weeks and single for the last 8 years. Dated on and off but no one I wanted to get serious with. Happy on my own these days.

Love being single for a lot of the same reasons as everyone else. Have a fwb who lives in another country who I see for extended breaks or trips a few times a year. So that itch gets scratched without all the cohabiting inconvenience.

Holiday to Thailand with a bag of books sounds ideal. Enjoy.

Will take a look for the fb group.

Fb request sent. I'm on a carousel in my profile pic.

Have sent a request also. Profile pic of myself and cover photo of the beach at sunrise :)

I'm keen also - what are the details of the FB group?
Many thanks.

Does anyone have any (not very happily) married friends that come across as judgemental over your dating decisions/single life?
I cant work out if its jealousy while they plod on with an unfulfilling partnership? I struggle with how some people are only interested in being in your life if its full of drama yet when you are happy, independent and confident in yourself they are not interested anymore.
Or maybe I'm just overthinking what other people think and I really shouldn't care!

I just realised I said that it was 'me' in my profile as if you have the slightest clue who I am LOL I have my face up towards the camera and hilariously am as blonde as I sound!!! I also have flowers on my top in the pic :D

@comingintomyown you could always join just for the group?

Everyone who wants to join has been added.

But the point is to start conversations ans chat to each other - so get going !

@Rainydays yes I do. Very good friend who has been with her partner 10 years but made the same decisions as me ( broadly ) when she was single

Rainy, I struggle with a very good friend of me who has chosen to be single but who berates me often for not making the effort to find someone. Her reasons are very profound, based on multiple serious traumas and resulting health conditions. She's had an exceptionally tough life with very little support. She rightly points out that I don't have those reasons - I'm basically lazy and like my own company. She wants for me the happiness she should have had.

She's pretty much the only person who says anything to me about being single, and she is the one person I can't brush off glibly.

Not going to follow the group to Facebook as I try to avoid it - it can make me quite envious of other lives in a way that isn't necessary or helpful.

Would be great to keep the thread going on here too for those who don’t want to join a FB group.

@bibliomania You can be my FB mate if you want - my life is bound to make you feel better about yours 😂

And I agree with @JaquesHammer that we should keep.this thread going anyway. People seem to find it easier to talk freely in an anonymous way, whereas I think the FB group will end up being more practical with ideas for DIY and stuff.

Thanks, SirChing

Hi - just sent a join request. Initials SP!

How do I join the Fb group?