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The Happy Singleton - All welcome!

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SirChing · 07/01/2020 23:25

Hello, following a thread where I discussed how happy and excited I was to have consciously decided to be single for 2020, it seems there are loads of us out there: People who are single through choice and happy about it.

Some plan on being single forever, some for a shorter time, but none of us are dating or want to date at the moment. We are too busy focusing on the important things in life: us!

This is a thread for anyone who wants to join it, to support and encourage each other, to discuss what we have or hope to learn by being single, and to discuss random practical stuff, like which companies don't charge single supplements for holidays.

Come on in and pull up a chair if you fancy a chat.

Happy 2020 all Wine

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DustyMuse · 14/01/2020 17:33

Hello from France!

I'm 51 and have been single since my husband left in 2015; divorce came through one month before my father passed away in 2017. I went through the phase of going out like a born again teenager, have had a string of flings with unsuitable men and have even lost my heart (temporarily) to one or two.

Now, despite menopause kicking in I'm feeling so much more at peace with myself. I do more physical activity, look after myself and my creativity has come back with a bang! I'm a conscientious parent and professional but I insist now on making time for myself.

I do still hanker at times after the idea of meeting a man who stimulates my mind and makes my heart hop, skip, and jump but the reality of living with a man again; good God, no way!! As mentioned in a previous post someone between a FWB and a proper boyfriend would be ideal but it is SO blissful being independent. I never have qualms about going to a café, a concert, whatever, alone. Never.

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comingintomyown · 14/01/2020 17:41

Trouble is men just tend to fall short , they don’t want to put the same into relationships as I have . I do concede I may just have never been with the right bone but In my experience once you are a couple of years in the effort from them falls off. Also if I was ever in a relationship again I wouldn’t put my whole self in so maybe that would be better

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SirChing · 14/01/2020 18:00

Afternoon everyone. A Facebook group is a fab idea. I shall have a look ar how to set one up. Given that I am a technological luddite, I may be some time.......

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SirChing · 14/01/2020 18:08

Right, we have ourselves a Facebook group. It's called "The Happy Singleton For MN Singles".

Its an open group at the moment. I can close it off later when people have joined. If you see this after I have closed it, then please PM me and I will add you on.

Enjoy! Wine

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SirChing · 14/01/2020 18:14

@comingintomyown

I may just have never been with the right bone

I know it's puerile but that typo did make me snigger 😂😂

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JacquesHammer · 14/01/2020 18:30

SirChing - if you make the group closed, people can still find it but nobody will see if we join.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 14/01/2020 18:55

I'd be up for joining the facebook group if it's private!

JacquesHammer · 14/01/2020 18:58

Yep I’d prefer private too. Closed for 48 hours until people find it, and then private Smile

StarbucksQueen · 14/01/2020 19:19

@SirChing.. I'm said in a Premier Inn in Manchester for a holiday flight tomorrow Smile
Let me know how the WI goes, and a FB page would be good

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SirChing · 14/01/2020 19:28

Okey dokey. I shall close it then make it private in a couple of days. Is that best?

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SirChing · 14/01/2020 19:31

Argh it says public or private. So I have clicked private. If you do a member request I shall let you all in.

Hope some one else will be an admin too. I struggle working a calculator let alone FaceAche!

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SirChing · 14/01/2020 19:32

@StarbucksQueen Oooh where are you off to? Have a brilliant time! GinWineStar

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JacquesHammer · 14/01/2020 19:33

Private is great!

FMFL · 14/01/2020 19:36

Hi just sent a request to join! This thread is helping me so much!

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SirChing · 14/01/2020 19:37

Nipping out for a but so will add everyone else on later

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StarbucksQueen · 14/01/2020 19:51

@sirChing have sent a FB request, my initials are BB.
Flying to Thailand tomorrow. Have loaded masses of books on my kindle, and will just be relaxing...

IndieTara · 14/01/2020 19:58

Joined :-))

comingintomyown · 14/01/2020 20:32

Not on Facebook 😟

Walkacrossthesand · 14/01/2020 20:34

I've sent a join request too 👍

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 14/01/2020 20:39

I'm hopeless with Facebook but .... I've manged to find the group and join. YAAAY. I'm the ridiculous French Maid; twas Rocky Horror evening Blush

Zaphodsotherhead · 14/01/2020 21:05

I've sent my request, my header is mostly of my books with my profile pic being me leaning on a pile of my books...

Waxonwaxoff0 · 14/01/2020 21:23

I have also requested to join!

MyleneFarmer · 14/01/2020 21:35

I have requested to join :) and PM-ed you.

SPloveslife34 · 14/01/2020 22:08

Hi

I have just this min put on a request to join what is the purpose of the Facebook group please ?

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