Help me get over this ridiculous crush!

[Needtogetbackinthesack]

I'm newly divorced, haven't had sex since I conceived my 3 yo and I feel it's time to get back out there.

There's a guy I see every morning when dropping my kids off, he works in an office I walk by and his smile makes me weak at the knees. It's got so bad that I can't sleep at night for thinking about him but I'm generally too nervous to even make eye contact as I walk by. He does smile on the odd brave occasion, but he smiles at everyone who walks by.

His office isn't the kind where people off the street could walk in - no customers etc. I literally know nothing else about him, can't see if he's wearing a wedding ring etc. He also sees me walk by with my herd of out of control kids, hardly an attractive prospect. But I can't help but think about him.

How do people deal with such crushes when you're in your mid thirties? I think I need to get out there and meet a real life human and forget about him don't I? But that smile... 😍😆🙈

Ah this is an exciting thread - keep us posted OP!

I don't think you'd be making a fool out of yourself if you were chatting and dropped an invitation into conversation?! My problem is I don't ever really have proper conversations with him that are more than one or two sentences

As much as I'm enjoying the giddiness I also kind of just want to fast forward now. I also can't stop thinking about him and just want something to happen... ha unrequited love eh? 😍🤣🥰❤️

Oh no, I'm sure he's not giving you a dirty look but it's still disheartening!

I've had a really shit nights sleep so have been getting myself excited about seeing him in 3 hours, I'm so ridiculous 🙈

Just read the thread through. Felt like I was reading gilmore girls!! Come onnnnn just give him your number! Say something like "it would be nice to talk for more than 10 seconds" then hand it to him and scurry away before he sees you completely red!!

What's Gilmore girls?! I feel like I need this in my life...

I might see him kid free this morning, if he's outside I might say something more than hi 😱

Watching this thread with excitement!!!! Good luck OP, I sooooooo hope you get a date with this guy! 🙉

Eurgh when I went past kid free he was firmly planted at his desk so I got a couple of waves but no chat. Sigh.

It's on Netflix! You definitely need it . 10 years down the line you will laugh with each other at all these failed attempts!

@MsChatterbox that's my night tonight sorted then! Can't wait! 😆

Woohoo! Make sure you select the main one and not "a year in the life"

You gotta watch Gilmore girls from series 1!!!!

How about making some cards, like Bob Dylan does in the video subterranean home sick blues, stand in front of the window & reveal your messages to him. Or just pictures of a glass of wine ? with a question mark a hug (( )) .

Just go in!!!

Ok plot twist... he chatted to my mum earlier 😆🙈 Only the usual brief general chit chat and he joked that beer o clock had finally come around. If mum wasn't there that totally would have been a great opportunity for me to ask him for a drink, trust my mum to cramp my style haha!

However... I think he really was aiming to have a chat rather than it being a random thing 🤔 I always park in the same place, today he was parked in the next space to me and he never parks there - like literally not once in the 6 months I've been parking there. He has to move his car during the day due to parking restrictions and has literally never parked in that road, and there were loads of other spaces so he could have parked in his usual spots. And then when we walked past his office he did his usual thing of being at his desk and then as I come back after collecting my son he's there "locking up" but today he was still inside with the door ajar and came out to lock up as my kid went by on his scooter. He was definitely doing that deliberately, surely!?

I feel a bit like we are finally getting somewhere but I'm starting a new job next week so will miss half the school drop offs every week so I need to pull my finger out...

My first ever post, go for it he likes you!

Ooh welcome, how exciting to be the recipient of your first ever post haha

I am actually feeling fairly confident that he does like me... I just need to stop being a dick and speak to him properly. Roll on school drop off (not that I ever speak to him at drop off it's always on the late pick ups which isn't until Friday again 🙄)

When you next speak just ask him what his plans for the evening are. If he mentions wine or beer ask if he's drinking alone or at a local pub etc. Do some subtle digging

@keepingbees tonight would have been the perfect opportunity to say something like that, and I would have because I was feeling confident about him parking near me etc... other than my mother being there 🙈

@Needtogetbackinthesack. That's so promising and exciting. I didn't see mine today but will see him tomorrow for my boxing class. I actually do need to speak to him tomorrow as I need to punch something really really hard to let my anger out after some stupid cow went into the side of my car earlier, smashed my passenger wing mirror and scratched and dented my wheel arch and is denying all responsibility and trying to blame me. I would rather it not be my friend who gets the full force of my anger when we are sparring. It may also be a perfect excuse for a hug from him😅

Hmm maybe you could turn it into a talking point.... "Sorry about my mother the other day. She helps me with the kids sometimes now I'm on my own...Do you have any..?"

@isitreally oh god that sounds like a day from hell!! And you DEF sound like you need a cuddle... maybe someone to help you work off all that tension 😉

I just got my notification that I can apply for my decree absolute. I am a bit superstitious and I feel like this is the universes way of telling me to go for it with this guy, like I really won't have to have an awkward convo about whether I'm married or not. (Even though I need to sort finances before actually applying for DA) On the morning I got my decree nisi I saw the notification as I parked for the school run, got out the car and was smiling like a loon and looked up and saw this guy smiling back for the first time and that's how the smiling started, I'd only really half seen him in the window before then. It's a sign... 🤣🙈

@keepingbees I love this idea! She is definitely a good conversation topic!!!