Dating thread 179 - am I doing it right?

[Chochito]

Looked for the new thread but couldn't find it...

I said I wouldn’t give him my email till we met. He said he was quite a shy man and wanted to get to know me better first and didn’t want to rush. Yes it sounds worse by the minute!!. I might see if he actually phoned today to speak to me. If not, I will block.

He’s messaged me to say good morning so I’ve asked him to phone. I’m hoping he’s not too good to be true as he looks bloody gorgeous in his pics and I love a spaghetti bolognese 😂

Good luck!

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking ooh I like the sound of Mr climber! @Osborne123 I would push for a meeting face to face in person that's the fastest way to find out if he's genuine or not. If they seem totally non dodgy I will give them my mobile number and make the arrangements by text, if I have any doubts I keep it on the app and make them make arrangements with me that way and swap numbers after I've met them in person. If they don't like it tough block delete and move on! Hope everyone has a great singles Sunday!

@shitwithsugaron Mr Ad is only a bit taller than me too (think he exaggerated a little in his profile!) but works fine for me 😊

Mr G is an inch shorter than me and I DGAF.

Seeing Mr ED again at lunchtime will report back....

I need to get my mojo back. There’s a guy on POF that I have spoke to several times before but have never met, he ticks most of my boxes, is a bit hippy, artistic and looks good too but he’s quite a bit older than me (top end of my age bracket). He added me as favourite yesterday so I sent him a message (hadn’t spoken to him since before I was dating Mr Skinny), we have exchanged a couple messages.

I’m still chatting to Mr Beard but it’s tricky to arrange a 2nd date as he works a lot and then doesn’t seem keen on driving anywhere on his days off.

Was meant to be meeting Mr traveller today but he hasn’t messaged me and can’t meet until after he has taken his son home anyway, my kids come home at 5pm so this wouldn’t give us much time and he doesn’t drive.

Mr Mechanic is over keen and putting me off, really can’t be bothered to meet someone who is likely to want sex on a first date. Not really looking for a FWB situation or a cling on boyfriend.

I need to secure some dates but most of my irons are quite shy and I will have to make the first move, I always prefer the man to make the first move, not sure why, maybe this is something I need to change for the new year?

I’m pretty short so it’s rare that I date anyone shorter than me, though one of my dates turned up and was shorter than me, I didn’t like it, prefer taller men.

Tinder - it’s brutal, but amusing so far
How quickly would you swap numbers? I’m very naive about these things, I need someone to hold my hand

mylife I’m not keen on giving my number out to early as it tends to lead to dick pics - for me the beauty of Tinder v Bumble is that they can’t randomly send a picture you don’t want to see

Mr Greedy is my height and I’m finding the fact we are eye to eye more when DTD is an unexpected bonus compared to taller men (could be why the L word keeps slipping out though!)

@Marlboroandmalbec34
I think he sounds lovely
Have you started swiping again?
@Osborne123 I’m really untrusting so would be suspicious, I’d want a face to face asap

Mylife I think it depends, sometimes I give my number out pretty early on, only because I hate chatting on tinder. The dick pic thing doesn’t bother me, I can easily block if someone pisses me off. I find Tinder better than POF but not as busy. I have had more dates from POF but better dates from Tinder.

I've never had an (unsolicited ) dick pic. Considering how busy I was on Tinder last year, it's actually a surprise.

@Lovemusic33 make the first date a coffee or lunch etc then they won’t be expecting sex. I also say something like let’s meet for an hour to see if we get on or Something along those lines.

@Osborne123 in my 5 years of doing OLD, on just about every site, if someone asks for your email, seems too good to be true and has poor English, then they are fake/spammer.
I hope this one isn't but be very careful what information you give. They ask to know more about you but give limited information about themselves. Just enough to seem legitimate.

I’ve google imaged his pictures but nothing came up . He sent me a pic on WhatsApp but it could easily be off someone else’s Facebook or Instagram.

Seems obsessed with what I’m eating and going to eat ( I hardly look starved, maybe he’s a feeder 😂). Do you think it’s worth me just saying that I’m a bit worried about cat fishing because of some of the things he’s asked and ask him to send me a video clip of him talking. Or does that make me sound like a psycho bitch 😂?

I utterly failed to have the chat... I chickened out. It will have to wait until next time.

@shitwithsugaron that's fast work with the new irons! I hope one of them works out.

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking what a dramatic date. How will you make the second as exciting as the first?

@Osborne123 definitely sounds suspicious. Take are with how much information you give out before you've met up. Stay safe.

Can I join in please?

Separated two years now, and finally feel my head is in a place to ‘get out there’. Was married over 25 years and just don’t know where to start!

Most seem to say try tinder? I’m so scared of seeing someone I know on there!

Oh god, this is quite scary.....

@shitwithsugaron glad to hear you had such a good date! Fingers crossed you sort out a second date soon!

I heard back from Miss Confusing as well yesterday - she sent me a photo of something she saw that reminded her of one of our recent dates, and we had a joke about it. Ended up having a long chat about random stuff - all fun and light just like it was before things went a bit pear shaped 2 weeks ago.

Then as I was heading to bed, and said goodnight - she replied "nice to hear from you again". Which threw me a bit, as although I have backed off to give her space we have still been in touch every 2 or 3 days over the last couple of weeks. Really not sure what to make of that!

@Freefalling123 yes tinder is good to start at least. I’ve seen people I know but they can’t message you unless you match. If it’s a colleague etc and they mention it you can always said friends made the profile for you 🤷🏼‍♀️. And there’s nothing wrong with it anyway

I'm not sure she's playing games - I think she just has up and down days. Yesterday was just like we used to chat, and clearly she's still thinking of me and our dates as she took that photo to send to me. But the parting comment of "nice to hear from you again" threw me. That's like something you'd say to an old school mate you'd not spoken to in months - not someone who last messaged you a few days ago.