Dating thread 179 - am I doing it right?

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@shitwithsugaron yeah !!

@shitwithsugaron yay!!! So pleased for you
@EchoElephant that is awful behaviour; you ok? I’d be furious.

@EchoElephant what a fuckwit, good for you for ripping him a new one. You deserve so much better.

@shitwithsugaron yay! Hope you're having a fantastic evening 🍷

shitwithsugaron that sounds great. Now get a second date organised!!

Undecidedsofa no, I'm not really ok. But I will be.
I'm going to see one of his friends tomorrow, that I've met a few times. And I'll be telling him the whole story. Because I think Mr FO will try and twist it somehow.

Hi, anyone ever had a first date/meet at someone's house?
in two minds about just doing it, due to circumstances cant go out for dinner or drinks etc.
It's also around an hour drive to get there.

Am I being stupid even considering it?

@SnazzyLump Yes, that would be a very foolish thing to do. ALWAYS meet in a public place the first couple of times, definitely the first. He could be anyone and if you are an hour away from home you are even more vulnerable.

Also, why can't you go for dinner or drinks but you can go to his house?

@snazzylump I wouldn’t do it. I’ve had people offer to pick me up for a first date as well and I’ve declined. Technically thou you wouldn’t know them much better on a second date I would possibly do it if they had mutual friends. Can you meet at their local pub or cafe etc ??

Or even go in the day and go for a walk or something if the issue is money or something

My first date with MrM started out at his house! He broke his hand and couldn't drive so I parked at his and walked to pub...he wasn't quite ready so invited me in. My first words to him were 'well, this has happened a bit sooner than expected!' Broke the ice and made for a brilliant date!

@SnazzyLump
I have done that once, but we had a mutual friend..who knew postcode, full name, contact details etc..no way I’d do that without knowing them/about them though.
@EchoElephant good on you for going to tell his friend. Even if he does try to twist it, you will have told the truth. That is such a shitty thing for him to do. Can you report him for that, on apps, too?

I have been having a long discussion this evening with Mr Popcorn re distance and availability etc. He asked me to be 100% honest, so I have, in a massive message to him- it’s kill or cure time after that! I’ve basically outlined how my life looks from now until when DD leaves school in 2 years and how it is changing/ will change etc. He did ask...
I have now come to hide in a hot bath whilst he reads it (could take a while)

I've reported Mr FO on tinder.
There's something I know that hopefully will mean they take it seriously. If they actually read my reason.
But it probably won't stop him setting up another fake profile

Quick update from me - tests all negative so big phew but not due on til Tuesday so going to be an anxious wait.

@shitwithsugaron whoop whoop!

Well done @EchoElephant for ditching MrFO - what an arse he is!

We're off to an escape room tomorrow with his family 😱 it's getting very serious now but am loving every second 😁

@EchoElephant I sincerely hope you never ever entertain this bozo again

Gosh it is a minefield isn't it. Hope everybody is ok.

Yes issue is money, I know it is a stupid idea just trying to talk myself out of it 🤦‍♀️ We could go to a cafe and have one Tea/coffee I suppose I'm thinking it will be better to wait this month out and then meet

@EchoElephant had you asked him about being on the apps recently or was that @Eesha I'm sorry you found him on there but it shows you were right to trust your gut.

@shitwithsugaron that's amazing. So pleased.

@KermitRulesOK phew! How do you feel?

I have been to someone's for a second date. Probably not very wise. I also went to a European city on a third date. But I did have a mutual friend who was also there!!

Notcoolmum that was me. He claimed he thought his profile was hidden. Then he hid it in front of me.
A week later he told me he'd been banned from tinder (I can't say why on here).

But he's got round that by setting up one with a fake name and age. He just made the mistake of using a photo I took. Which means he can't claim someone else has set this up.

@EchoElephant the man is a prick and hes wasted 6 months of your precious time

@shitwithsugaron yes! Excellent!

@SnazzyLump yes go for a coffee or even a pub and have coke. My first dates have always been a coffee or one day time pub coke / half. Do that it’s better than their house then next time go out after pay days or go to their house.

Wow @EchoElephant what on earth could he have done to be banned by tinder? So sorry you have gone through this but well done for ending it and reporting it.

@shitwithsugaron excellent news!

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