Dating thread 179 - am I doing it right?

[Chochito]

Looked for the new thread but couldn't find it...

Hi uncorrected, I will pm you

Sent you a pm, @UncorrectedDoormat

Sorry to go on, no need to reply, just ranting to myself really! Mr Straight sent me an email saying he has now unblocked me as he has tried to cut contact with me and he can't!

I'm looking forward to seeing Mr Smile at the weekend, this guy is nuts!

@UncorrectedDoormat I would, but a mans perspective may not be what you want...

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking - lol... pm me I'd love to, but there's that pesky rule 10

@PinkMonkeyBird - go you!

@bangheadhere40. Block him it’s prob not doing him any good having the option to get back in touch with you. He’s doesn’t know you he’s just using you. Hope your date goes well. I’ve got a longish time with mr gray overnight Tomorrow, I prefer the less often longer times

@jane, do you still have your date with the other guy at the weekend?

Hope it goes well with Mr Gray.

@bangheadhere I’ve not heard from him a few days but he works nights. I don’t think I’m going to do it , it just feels odd to me personally going out with someone else after being in bed with someone. That’s not to say I won’t meet him for a coffee sometime. But the dynamic with mr gray feels like it’s changed and he’s always messaging first and some of the things he’s saying so I need to see him as well . Life’s complicated 🤦‍♀️

@jane yeah I agree, that would make me uncomfortable.....

do you think Mr Gray could potentially turn into more than what he is?

Yes it’s just too odd for me. I really don’t know if it will but I wouldn’t live with another man or anything for a very long time so other than agreeing not to see other people I don’t know what more there is. We speak most days and get on well 🤷🏼‍♀️

Thanks for the DMs 😊

@Jane1978xx - I think I'm in the same sort of headspace. I would do a proper relationship again now or in the near future. Currently wondering if I'm being fair to date anyone given my lack of available time and emotional unavailability.

@PinkMonkeyBird that's so lovely 😄

@Jane1978xx I can't see myself living with another man either...at least not while my kids are at home but Mr Ad respects this and we are both fine with how things are for now. No need to think too far ahead.

@UncorrectedDoormat. We are on the same page with things but I don’t really think it’s fwb it’s more but all these modern a names are confusing anyway 🤷🏼‍♀️. Just have to live for the moment and what actually happens when you are together as not think about labels and the distant future

@Sunshineandflipflops yes defo don’t think to far ahead. I know people who dated and lived apart for 10 years or more it’s only very recent people move In together quickly

A friend of mine has been with her boyfriend for about 5 years. Both child free, in their 40's but live apart and about a 45 min drive from each other. They are probably happier together than many co-habiting couples I know!

I know someone who got together with her partner when her DC were young, and they just carried on with their separate homes even now they're all grown up. They even live in separate cities. Seems the ideal arrangement to me. Keep your house how you like it, stay settled in your area, but have lovely long weekends together and such. I guess that's what I've ended up doing anyway.

Momentous day for me - I’ve ended things with Mr Mad and will just be sleeping with Mr Greedy for the foreseeable. It was doing my head in, going round in circles, as I like them both but in different ways. It’s scary to not have a backup as it were, and I’ll miss his mad and funny ways. Think I’ll probably end up with a broken heart but at least I realise I have a heart to be broken. This is progress?

Being open to vulnerability is definitely progress.

@TigerDater you’ve got to do what feels right and best for you and sounds like you have

average guy there was some debate recently as to what that rule meant. I understood it to mean spending all your time in the thread instead of out there actually dating people. It's all academic anyway as you probably live in North Scotland and have a 20 year age gap 🤣

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking no it means no actual dating each other. It's happened before and it's weird. And upsets everyone