Dating thread 179 - am I doing it right?

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Looked for the new thread but couldn't find it...

Sound good, @Marlboroandmalbec34. Today I am wearing a very similar outfit, though more casual. T-shirt instead of nice top, chunky and scruffy doc martens instead of smart boots, etc.

With clothes I buy some decent black jeans that go with most things then cheaper tops from boohoo or new look etc

Leave where did you get your jumper dresses from? I need that sort of stuff for going out with Mr BC and his friends.

Finding nice tops is hard these days,?the fashion seems to be for high necklines which look dreadful on me. I miss East with its wrap tops/dresses which show cleavage

@BatshitCrazyWoman I got a grey one from ASOS, it was really cheap but not sure if I ruined it putting it on a hot wash 😂 actually the blue one was ASOS too.

I got a nice leopard print one from warehouse in the sale recently too. And a dark green tiger print shirt dress.

I also bought a suede mini skirt for £30 which I thought was a bargain- looking forward to wearing that on a date

leave seen any cool long sleeve band T-shirt’s? I’m obsessed at the moment 😂

@Marlboroandmalbec34 try Etsy? I got a really nice one with Alex Turner's face all over it from there he's my one true love 😂

@shitwithsugaron I think it's fine to wear another dress- especially as it's a completely different colour. It's not like wearing two black dresses in a row.

Oh no @Sunshineandflipflops you've completely thrown my mental image of you with the animal print 😁😁

I love a bit of animal print myself but somehow still have you in a denim jacket and floral dress even though it's January...

Argh first date outfit in winter. I have just bought lizard print boots but nowhere to wear them. Perhaps that should be my excuse for getting back on the apps... although my jeans are all currently way too tight.

House purchase appears to have fallen through.... lalala who said 2020 was going to be a good year? Might not be the year of my divorce after all.

@nomoreweepingandwanking hope you're ok

I agree Tiger - I've got big boobs so don't want high necks or loose and shapeless

Still speaking to that absolutely gorgeous one on tinder- I don't want to give him a name as it's bound to curse it 😂 mind you I'm cursed whatever I do.

Let's call him Mr Cheekbones. He looks like a model, honestly. Got a feeling he's no catfish though tbf- I'm cautious with all of them anyway.

Would love to meet him but I bet it won't happen.

@unambiguousbeard haha! I do like a dress and Denim jacket but not so much in winter! Can't go wrong with leopard print...it's a neutral, right?!

leavebefore thank you! Can you arrange a call? Is it too early days?

unambiguous me too re sunshine lovely long dresses, denim jacket and flip flops 😂

Mr Pilates came over today and made me forget ALL about everything for about an hour. Lovely. Think I still have handprints on my derriere.

I an greatly enjoying my casual fun but oh lordy, I do long for a relationship, especially going through this kind of shitty situation. It's just so lonely and I'm so tired of picking myself up repeatedly.

I did briefly hope that Mr long distance (formerly known as Beard) would follow through on his plea to resume contact but that was NYE and I'm guessing if he's not been in touch within a week then he's not getting in touch. I'm slowly beginning to believe in myself - and that rule - enough to know my worth. If I get into a relationship it has to be with someone who adores me and has made/will make an effort for me. I deserve nothing less than that. It's just hard and hurtful to think that there are so few men who agree that I am worth that. Including my stbx. Sigh.

I want to be adored.

Love a bit of leopard . And fake fur (strokes teddy coat)

@Marlboroandmalbec34 I don't think he'd be up for a call? I mean I've no idea but it's not something I ever really do before dates actually. Often they want to speak on Snapchat- might see if he suggests it.

I'm being quite flirty with him so we will see... 😂 he's another one in his early 20s so I think there's the older woman appeal going on

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking glad Mr Pilates was able to help out 👍

Honestly the right person will come along. I feel like that at times too so I understand it. I've often wished FWB could have just felt the same for me- My luck has been rotten for the past couple of years- at all things in life!

Ahem. I may have 8 faux fur coats. Of various hues... no make that 9!

I hear you @NoMoreWeepingAndWanking I'm going to start counselling specifically to thrash out the constant sodding difficulties my life throws up that I have no one to support me through. I knew my house sale was going too well. I bloody knew it. I'd love someone to make a decision on all this stuff for me.

I need to consider counselling myself. My DC are struggling with various things as a direct result of the split and it's really getting on top of me - to be the strong one, the support system, and the absolutely engulfing rage at my ex for hurting the DC so much and the utter brass neck of him blaming me for their hurt. I'm having a hard day. I've ordered takeaway and I'm planning on a few drinks later.

Perfect pretender - WA chat later?

Yeah sure x

Right well I've now suggested a drink with Mr Cheekbones.... just wait and see, this will be when it goes quiet....

Also have a date arranged with another iron, let's call him Mr Leather. He's very local, early 20s again. He actually seems quite nice.

Still reckon it won't happen. I've lost all confidence of ever going on a date again 😂

hello
So Mr Popcorn has said he can't commit to anything with his work, kids and distance ; I liked him...am also a bit pissed off it has taken him weeks to come to this conclusion.
I sent him a bit of a sharp message this morning - my pride was dented-and have now deleted him.
I have 3 others I am chatting to - Mr Movie (90mins away...again) Mr Local and Mr Travels...hoping one may turn into a date , although none of my clothes fit me well after Christmas, either

Happy New Year to you all, long time lurker but name changed just in case!

New to OLD, been single a good few years after 2 abusive relationships which I left etc.
Signed up to pof and got invited out for coffee, but me being me did some detective work which I found he was married!

So signed up to Match to find men blocking me despite me not having so much so clicked on their profile, swiped right or anything! Is this normal?