Dating thread 179 - am I doing it right?

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Looked for the new thread but couldn't find it...

@shitwithsugaron I've not thought of fan, seemed a bit scary but from what you say it's ok..

@Jane1978xx I tried POF and found it mixed- anyone I liked on POF was also on tinder.....

And then you get the other end of the spectrum, someone who lives an hour away has asked if I want to meet tonight

leavebefore just agreeing with shitwith If you are looking for casual Fab is worth a shot. The couple of guys I met off there were really great and the usual set up is a “social” meet (date) to see if you like each other. It’s not for me at the moment as I cannot do casual but it works for lots on here and batshit met her boyf on there.

An iron I liked before Xmas, I think I named him Mr Coolname is messaging me. It’s so weird I feel bad messaging him back when also messaging Mr Fact.

@Jane1978xx you can do that on match too it's called incognito mode I might try that and see if it works any better for me if that's what works for you. I've read advice before about if the man messages first that's better as it shows he's picked you to pursue as it were, but maybe not if he's also picked to pursue and messaged several hundred other women that same day too!

I'm think of trying fab then...

Well the eager one has mentioned a drink this week I'm just not 100% sure I'll like him. If anything I've actually raised my standards since It ended with FWB because I'm well aware it will do me no good going on dates where I don't fancy them 😂

I've matched and am messaging with a completely gorgeous guy on tinder atm. He's like FWB but waaaaay more handsome. I'm not 100% sure he's not a catfish but I'm always really careful and sceptical anyway so let's see

@LeaveBeforeTheLightsComeOn yeah it’s mostly the same people but tinder doesn’t always show everyone and I like the quickness of just picking 😂.

@Stillsexystillsingle I’ve always messaged first then hang back a little and If they are interested they’ll message. I think it almost works like this woman approached me and I need to keep showing I’m as special
As she thinks I am. You can always add that you don’t normally message first to make them feel extra special 😂. A little game
Playing but I think that fine early on 🤷🏼‍♀️

Mr Hong Kong is adorable. Shame I can't see myself in a relationship with him. I got fired today and he's been lovely. Most of my irons have tbh. I'm hoping Mr Pilates will make the most of my newly free daytimes and come hurt me to make me feel better. (Don't ask).

My life is a fucking joke atm. I pick myself up and get kicked back down over and over.

I am so drunk and pathetic right now.

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking. Sorry to hear about your job ! I hope something comes up for you x

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking oh you poor thing, it's something else you don't need 💐

It will get better for you, honestly it will. You'll find a better job. And if I were you I'd lean on Mr Pilates for plenty of uncomplicated, filthy sex tbh.

Keep posting, we're all here

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking sorry to hear about your job. If it's any consolation it happened to me towards the end of last year, and 2 months later I got an even better one!

I'm hoping the same happens with dating too - I've been daft and messaged Miss Confusing again tonight, hoping she'd be chatty like she was on Saturday - but now feeling anxious and sad as she's not said much and left me on read. One of these days I'll listen to all the advice I've been given here... :( It's even more depressing as I've not seen anyone yet on Tinder or Bumble yet who I fancy as much as her. But I keep telling myself she's out there somewhere just hoping to meet someone like me...

My two potential dates seem to have gone quiet, although Miss Runner is still on for tomorrow - but not sure there's much connection there, so not really expecting fireworks. However I may be pleasantly surprised. I had someone else who looks really nice message me yesterday on Bumble, but no reply back yet although she did say she was travelling back from holiday so I'll just be patient.

What do you all think of Superlikes on Tinder? Do they ever work?

Super likes are nearly always from the supercreepy

Oh god, NoMore, I'm so sorry to hear this.

@jane went well, no snogging. He's wanting to see me again asap but I'm not sure! I have another lined up for tomorrow anyway and then mr smile at the weekend.

@jane I love your tips too...especially about messaging first etc 😅

@bangheadhere40. Glad it went well you can leave commiting to meeting him again until you’ve seen the others then weigh up what seems best for you.

I’m impatient 😂 I like Quick results now after getting strung along before 🤦‍♀️.

He seems so genuine though, a really nice guy so don't want to mess him around if I'm not sure. 😔

@bangheadhere40 just don’t promise him anything. He may be seeing other people too

He also told me a horrific story about his family and I've just googled it and he's been on tv lots talking about it. I think he is target sensitive so I really dont want to mess mr bank around. Just not sure 😔

Quite sensitive

Can't tell after 1 date though. You are right @shit.

nomore I’m so sorry about your job, that’s horrible timing and I’m sure completely undeserved. At least you know you will always be supported here, never kicked when you’re down.

Another vote for Fab here, it’s where I met Mr Greedy.

An old iron messaged last night (I dumped him by text, had my suspicions, turned out he’d gone back to his ex), I thought ‘yes, that’s all of them now have come back to me, they can’t keep away lol.’ But it was to tell me he’s dying 😥😥😥. I feel so, so sad, all jangled up. I have to go see him

What is fab sorry?

@ tiger, that's hard, maybe see him.