Dating thread 179 - am I doing it right?

[Chochito]

Looked for the new thread but couldn't find it...

I am having a wobble. Been seeing Mr Builder for about 5 weeks, he came over xmas night and I went to his family new year thing. he came over at the weekend and commented that we were so different and although we are its thrown me wondering what he thinks of it. my rational head is saying he wouldnt come over if he thought it was an issue. I just think I'm really boring.

I’m sure you’re not boring crazycat what would be boring is if everyone was the same. Maybe it’s the differences that work.

Ok Mr Fact has asked me for drinks again this week and then to a comedy night the week after. Exciting but scary!

Just going to a date with mr Bank

Hoping for a car park snog if he's nice

Good luck @bangheadhere40

@shitwithsugaron you do your thing, and don't worry about what he's doing. If you don't feel like being on the apps then don't.

I’m not swiping shitwith I’m not over investing but I don’t want to under invest either. I don’t really have time to multi date

Really pleased for you @shitwithsugaron and @Marlboroandmalbec34 very good sign I think when you're arranging multiple dates 😉 Fingers crossed for you both 🤞

Multiple dates with same person I mean 🤣

Too fast??? Wants to book a holiday in July. It's going brilliantly but I'm worried that I'm not that lucky. Last time I started a new relationship I was 18 and carefree, so much more to worry about.

@okiedokieme if it feels like too much, just say so...

@LeaveBeforeTheLightsComeOn Wow, funeral photo, that blows the ‘line’ right out of the water.

@shitwithsugaron Does that mean you will be his birthday present

With the child/ren introductions, there isn’t a one fits all it depends on the individual child and all the adults involved. I’d known MrNN six months when MiniSJT met him properly, he had accidentally met him at the park a few weeks before. He knew who he was, when we do the daily “what have you enjoyed at school today etc” I always tell him what I’ve been upto, including who I’ve seen, so he’d been hearing about him for a few weeks. He sees him once a week now, unless it’s going to be a wobbly week, like back to school etc in which case he doesn’t.

@LeaveBeforeTheLightsComeOn he probably thought he looked smart in his black suit I have had the occasional man try to give me style advice after seeing my profile pic and they're usually the scruffiest guys from their own profile pics! Control freak alert or what! Swiftly deleted! My irons all seem to be merrily chatting away to other women on match today and not replying to my last messages ho hum I went back to work today and saw Mr pep maybe I should be focusing more on getting up the courage to ask him for a date, instead of looking for new online irons?

@Stillsexystillsingle I've made another few matches tonight but will it lead to anything? Will it fuck. I've probably made over 100 matches since deleting tinder and going back on just under a week ago. And not one single bloody date. It's awful.

I'm so bloody close to deleting the apps.

I've just ripped into one guy who clearly just wants casual but cba to make effort at all- I said I'd be happy to go for a drink- this is the following conversation:

Him: I’d rather we save the formalities and get hot n sweaty ... and I know what I fancy drinking 😏 x

Me: Fuck sake I’m fed up of men who can’t even be arsed with going for a drink or at least trying to have a conversation too. You’re 28 not 18

What is wrong with them? At 28 surely they'd have more of a clue?

Honestly believe my FWB at 22 was an anomaly. He had much more of a way with women which in turn meant he was never going without 😂

I'm starting to hate him. For leaving me alone and with nothing but the dickheads on tinder 😡😂

My experience seems to be lots of likes, I like them back. A few will message I message them back. A couple of messages are exchanged and then they're gone never to be seen again! I would love to know what I'm doing wrong! Fifteen years ago I was really successful at getting lots of dates from online dating sites but the game seems to have changed ... what are other women doing right that I'm getting wrong?! ...at least with irl there is visual feedback as to where it's leading through their facial expressions and so on!

@Stillsexystillsingle I want to know what I'm doing wrong too 😫

'oh god I've got to go on another ten dates this week and I bet I won't fancy any of them ' - me on the dating apps 15 years ago !!!!

@LeaveBeforeTheLightsComeOn have you tried Pof. I have my profile off and then I message people (or messaged as that’s how I found my fwb). Then no one messages you first and you can look local and read profiles and see who you fancy. I used it like a list rather than matching etc.

@ban

@bangheadhere40 are you back or snogging in the car park 😂.

I’ve just been talking to mr gray about our car park snog when we met. I walked off on purpose so he had to call me back 😂. I said I knew he would that’s why I did it