Dating thread 179 - am I doing it right?

[Chochito]

Looked for the new thread but couldn't find it...

I reckon my libido is on par with a teenager after a dire sex life in my LTR, it's like being set free from prison. I've been careful in vetting them I guess but I've had a fair few first date kisses.

I have a dilemma !!! An old iron has popped back up and wants to meet me This weekend but I’m ‘seeing’ mr gray regular but casual / fwb type thing so I don’t think it would be wrong to go and meet someone for a drink would it ? I think he prob would or Maybe would and This is someone I had been trying to meet previously but it didn’t pan out with work and holidays etc etc.

So the story (condensed version) he was one of the first people I spoke to when I joined old prob in Aug now. And Althou he works near me he lives an hour away and he does crazy hours and shifts so we could never work it. Then I had to delete my acc and I couldn’t find him when I came back but his acc was hidden at that point. Then I did find him but we both went on hols at same time. I went with my ex (long story) and I didn’t go back on Pof for a while then so he assumed I was back with my ex. Then we spoke again and I gave him my number then I got hacked and my acc deleted again 😆. I assumed if he was interested he’d have text me. But now I have my acc back he found me and said he never wrote the number down and was gutted. Anyway he wants to meet me and said even an hour after work or we’ll never know 😬 . I think after all that and finding each other for the third time I really want to. So I think I will next weekend . I’ve checked him out on linked in as I know where he works and his job 🤦‍♀️ . Sorry that was long. When I first messaged him I thought he was way out of my league but he’s been doing the chasing these last few days like he did genuinely feel like he’d missed out when we kept loosing touch

So long as Mr Gray is clear it's casual, there's no issue.

@Jane1978xx Why don't you speak to Mr Grey about where he sees you relationship-wise so that you know if you are on the same page?

@shitwithsugaron Me and Mr Ad 'went exclusive' after our first date and deleted our apps...

@jane just go and meet him

@Jane1978xx I say this because I was seeing someone over the summer (Mr SAS) and while I thought we were exclusive, he was still on the apps talking to other women and assumed I knew and was doing the same (I'd took his "I'm not sleeping with anyone else") to mean he wasn't looking elsewhere...silly me.

I was pretty hurt by it.

I've been chatting to a new iron today, no idea if he is an endless chatter though. He lives 15 min from me and is really fancyable 😁

I hope he asks me out, we will call him Mr CID. I think he may be another chatter though.

Mr gray defo said casual. And something about not being in the right place to commit to one person . I know he wasn’t seeing anyone else when I met him and I don’t think he has since but who knows. And the new (old) man I would only meet for a drink or whatever and see how I feel 🤷🏼‍♀️

Hey all hope your dates are going well I will catch up with the thread shortly

I’ve kept myself very busy all weekend spending money I don’t have on buying crap for my house I don’t need, moving all the furniture around, cleaning, filling up the loft and shed. Strangely though this is very fulfilling and sorting my stress and anxiety out no end 😂
Not heard anymore from Mr Moving and I’ve not even opened a dating app.

I got my smear results back and I have HPV again. Explains some of my annoying symptoms. God knows how long I have had it but no cell changes at the moment.

@Sunshineandflipflops he said casual and no commitment.

@Jane in that case please meet the other one

@bangheadhere40 I will I can’t let the opportunity go 🤷🏼‍♀️.

@Jane1978xx go for it then!

Same @Menora I did think he’d maybe launch some get you back campaign x

Hi Menora, sorry to derail but I recently had a smear and it came back with HPV and abnormal cell changes, waiting on a letter about a colposcopy. Have the same 6 years ago and had to have treatment. What symptoms have you had with HPV?

I have like a lot of gushing clear liquid. Sometimes a burning/itching sensation but not often. I got tested for BV last year as I had like a weird discharge that was staining all my black pants!

I had HPV when I was 20 and it had turned to severe abnormal cells and I had some of my cervix removed. Then I was on yearly smears ended up for 10 years! Then had gone to 3 years - the last one 3 years ago was Normal

Thanks @Menora- some of that sounds similar to symptoms I've had. I was getting pelvic pain and had all sti tests done which came back fine, had ultrasound which was fine- burning cervix feeling occasionally myself so it's interesting you said that too. They never told me that HPV could cause any symptoms.

I had grade 2 cell changes before as well and had LLETZ treatment. The letter I had this said 'borderline cell changes' so I'm really hoping to avoid going through the same again.

I thought the liquid thing was just discharge and normal as didn't appear to have thrush or bv type symptoms. The joys of being a woman!

The liquid is really very annoying. It doesn’t smell of anything it’s just A Lot Of It and it has wrecked my underwear TMI 😂

I’ve had borderline before they just left them alone

I know how I got it originally, in horrible circumstances when I was 15.

Fingers crossed it will resolve itself. It does sometimes.

I don’t know why the liquid is relevant to this but it is a thing, it’s so much more than what I would say is normal.

Sorry to hear that @Menora 💐

I've literally no idea how I got it. Originally, it could have been several different people. If I've been reinfected with it, it's three potential people.

This is also why I wear old manky underwear most of the time and have a separate drawer full of nice stuff for sex 😂

there's always a danger that while you hanker after what you can't have, you may not recognise the real deal elsewhere! wow tigsy this is gold and should be a new rule.

osbourne you’re not a fool lovely. Most of us have had similar at some point. You worked it out quickly. Chin up.

shitwith!!! No fair I want a snog!

I had it in my twenties it was picked up on a smear I never had any symptoms. I was always really careful about using condoms but no one tells you there are still things you can catch and this is one of them. They vaccinate them against it at school now I think? But not in our day! I was on annual smears until it sorted itself out.