Dating thread 179 - am I doing it right?

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Not a fool, not at all. You listened to your instincts and he's proven himself untrustworthy. Well done.

osborne as well as blocking and deleting this guy I think you should report him to Match. You’ve had s lucky escape. My first foray was just like this and I was gutted, but actually it was a blessing in disguise - it made me face how vulnerable I was but also how much I could fancy a man again after 30 years with the same loser. Don’t beat yourself up 💐

@Osborne123 There are plenty of scammers around, so always good to be careful - but there are also lots of genuine people too so don't give up too soon.

I joined PoF a few days ago, and had a couple of women message me within the first day. They looked genuine - had reasonable profiles, and the messages initially seemed legit and responding to what I was saying. But soon enough they started following the same script and tried to get me to click on a link to enable video calling.

I also had someone I was chatting to on Tinder ask me to email them, and they sent me a lengthy reply back saying they lived in Russia and really wanted to meet an English man - I didn't respond as I suspect a request to send money for an airfare would be coming soon.

@Stillsexystillsingle We were seeing each other pretty much once a week for 5 weeks from the start of November, and last date was just over 2 weeks ago. In person they were always really good - even the last one was lovely (not withstanding the little chat at the start of the evening when she said she was worried about "us"). Lots of sweet romantic talk when we were in the restaurant, then she was happy, fun, affectionate when we went back to mine for a couple of drinks. Sitting with her legs on mine, hand holding, kissing, laughing etc...

It was the following day that she said she needed to sort her head out, as she didn't want to see me and have a lovely time, then go back to feeling miserable at home.

Real life is fine - it's just persuading her to leave her house that's the tricky bit

Yes I feel like a total bloody fool. Just been sat crying. I knew he was too good to be true. What a bloody classic, half Italian, model like man with no baggage, good job and own house. Probably easier to find a unicorn. And the rules are 100% right. I’ve reported him on match and blocked him.

@Osborne123 report him to match and they’ll remove him. I was on match and plenty of guys were removed with a message saying they were a ‘bad egg’

Cross post. I am so sorry he has made you feel like that. Bastard.

You're not a fool osbourne! You posted here because you had concerns and had already felt something was off about him. So well done, you called it. Be proud of yourself and keep searching

Klaxon 🚨 klaxon 🚨

I may have an iron! Been messaging since yesterday, on WhatsApp today, I'll call him Mr Joiner

As you were 😀

Congrats dancemom. And you’re no fool at all osborne, you did everything right. Dry your tears, get back on the horse and keep posting 💐💐💐

@Osborne123 you aren't a fool at all- you were suspicious and weren't taken in.

The good thing about this is it's an early warning and you will be able to spot catfish easier in the future. Keep your chin up, there are plenty of nice people out there

Don't let these idiots stop you from online dating @Osborne123 just block, report, delete, take a few deep breaths and then on to the next one ok my two irons from match actually both seem like really nice guys so far. I'm considering inviting one of them over to my hometown with his son to meet me and my daughter. And yes as I suspected, brown hair! For the first time in years! I wonder what Mr pep (guardiola) (at work) will make of it! Now he's the one I wish I did have the balls to ask out in real life! maybe I will in 2020. Maybe I do need to read that book!

Joining in to say you aren't a fool Osborne. Glad you reported him though. Congratulations dancer!

@shitwithsugaron do you always expect the fanny gallops first date? Just asking because I don't (it's probably never happened to me) but it grows as I get to know someone... And now I absolutely get the fanny gallops just from touching fingers 😳

@Osborne123 try to look at this as a huge success. You spotted that something was off, and dealt with it. You can move on with more experience and better equipped for next time.

I never expected to hear the phrase ‘prick tease’ again 🤮, thought that had gone out with church discos in the late 70s. You had a mutually agreed snog, it didn’t work for you, so I guess you tell him you weren’t feeling it and wish him well?

Shitwithsugaron, I would say - it was lovely to meet you and I got a bit carried away in the moment, but on reflection I don't think we are a good match and have decided not to pursue things but wish you all the best for the future

Osborne don’t let it put you off on line dating, there are a lot of scammers, when I first started out Match was one of the worst ones for it, I assumed a site that you have to pay for would be safer. I avoid anyone who looks too good to be true, anyone with a “model” looking profile photo and anyone who is vague about where they live. I had one message me on POF yesterday, his English wasn’t great and he wasn’t even living in this country, he sent me several messages telling me how attractive I am and telling me he’s looking for a relationship, I ignored.

I’m chatting to Mr Hippy and a I want to marry him 🤣🤣.
Play it cool........play it cool....

@shitwithsugaron a short message to say it was a nice date but you didn't really feel like it was right and so you won't be taking it further. Any wish him well for the future.

Phew, about the fanny gallops. I thought it was just me. It takes me quite a long time. Maybe not even the first kiss will do it.

@shitwithsugaron Do you think you'd feel differently about it today's date if you hadn't have had the date with Mr List last night? Sounds like he was going to be a lot to live up to!

I think be honest (ish) and say you think he was really nice but not really for you. It's shit for the other person however you say it I guess.

I've never had danny gallops on a first date either, which is why I've almost always had more then one date with most men I've met. I find it hard to judge after one date, unless it was awful.

The only person I ever got fanny gallops with was my exh but I was 16 and my bar was much lower!