@shitwithsugaron - great! Always happy to help out, and also hoping to pick up some insights!
@LeaveBeforeTheLightsComeOn - thanks. I signed up initially back in July after an 8 year relationship finished earlier in the year, so it's been my first experience of OLD. I joined Tinder, Bumble, Happn and Hinge.
First time around, I went on dates with about 8 women, and only 1 I saw twice but she was Russian and didn't speak much English, so it took two dates to say the same as most people would manage in one date :D I had a nice time with all of them, but things just didn't click with any of them.
Then I met someone in August on Tinder, went on first date about 6 weeks later, and over the course of the next few months saw her about 8 times, including a couple of overnight stays, until just over a week ago. Then last weekend she told me she's worried she's not in the right headspace for dating anyone (there's a thread on here about it), so although I'm giving her some space and hoping she'll change her mind I've also re-joined Tinder and Bumble earlier this week.
So far I've had a few matches, and been chatting to a couple of women - one of whom seems interested in meeting next week, although she's going travelling on the 3rd for the rest of the month.
I've also seen the profile of the girl I was dating appear which was a bit of a shock - it's hard to know when it was last used, but the photo was taken not long before we met for the first date, so it's possible she hasn't been on there for a month or two. Plus we didn't ever have the "exclusive" chat, although I was rather hurt to think that she considered us dating, but may still have been using Tinder. Also it makes me question how she can tell me she's not in the right headspace for dating if she's back on the app. Although she did tell me that I was only her second date this year, as she hates first dates and takes a long time to get comfortable enough to meet someone, so who knows.