Dating thread 178 - where we launch into the new year with new hopes

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@shitwithsugaron Have messaged you!

So today I have a parcel of adult products arriving 🤦‍♀️ I forgot my mum and dad were coming hopefully the 2 don’t coincide 😂😂😂

You are right Sunshine - he wasn't looking, it just happened. She died 2 years ago. He's pretty pragmatic about it and also with the adult kids, and I absolutely wouldn't expect no photos. And if the adult DC need them then I wouldn't want to argue with that. It was bordering on a shrine which is why I found it hard. He knew something was up but it really wasn't the time to have that conversation. I'm pleased I have counselling tonight though. Because of the DC it's not like I'm was ever going to spend a great deal of time there, and now I don't plan to spend any time there 😕

Aw batshit that does sound hard. I wouldn’t want to stay either. You seem to handle it all very sensitively and I’m sure you will when you are ready.

menora glad you got rid!

I have a date tomorrow with Mr Fact. Bit excited actually 😁

That sounds really tricky, Bats, but you do seem very aware and capable of handling the situation.

My date went well last night, ended up staying over, after telling myself I wouldn't! I hope I see him again...he's definitely growing on me. He lives an hour away though too and not sure when we will see each other next.

I mentioned Saturday but he has his kids, so I will leave the ball in his court I think.

Fingers crossed for both of us shitwith

Oooh sounds good bangshead

Good luck with him, @bangheadhere40! Sounds like a promising start. Can you meet halfway between sometimes, to offset the distance?

And good luck to @Marlboroandmalbec34 and @shitwithsugaron with upcoming dates!

@shitwithsugaron I had drank too much last night! We didn't have sex no, but there was some feeling ;-)

Do I mention meeting up, or leave it to him now?

@bangheadhere40 Me and Mr Ad live an hour apart AND he doesn't have a car but we manage between my car and trains. We are happy with seeing each other 1/2 times a week though due to other commitments.

What shall I wear on my date?
Nice bar in city centre on Friday night. Options:
Black pleather jeans with a green wrap blouse.
A line mini skirt, tights and jumper
A dress? Jeans? I don’t really have any sparkly tops at the mo to dress up jeans
Last time I had a weekend evening bar date with anyone other than Mr Big it was summer 🙈

@Marlboroandmalbec34 I think we need photos to give an accurate opinion

Just crop your head out.

I like the sound of the black pleather jeans and green top.

What's your colouring Malbec? I always go for green as I have green eyes

Pleather jeans, definitely @Marlboroandmalbec34

@Menora are you OK ? He sounds so controlling and needy, I could not remotely entertain the idea of someone like that. Mind you I just blocked a gorgeous man for having the audacity to check out my gym.

@BatshitCrazyWoman that does sound like a shrine... a few photos would not bother me but it sounds massively over the top

I am at a friend's about to head home... stayed an extra day to go to their friend's NYD party. They had such a lovely house and big happy family... got a bit emotional that my marriage ended and all I have to offer my kids is me. They had this huge house with Christmas decor in every room and memories and I threw up a tree last minute and didn't even send cards as am permanently stressed from work and I have a chest infection which I have had for 2 weeks now. Feel a bit rubbish. Mr Media is still messaging, he is such a nice guy ... wondering what is the most tactful way to friend zone him.

As someone said up thread (@Menora?) I am busy 90% of the time so for someone to occupy even a bit of my remaining 10% they have to be worth it. The men on OLD are not so far, but I have reconnected with an old school friend on Facebook and he is bloody gorgeous. Of course he lives 2 hours away and is a hippy/artist type... unsuitable in every way!