Dating thread 177. Drinking Prosecco on our own trying to arrange a christmas snog

[Marlboroandmalbec34]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@shitwithsugaron 💐 no. He is the abusive one. Him saying what he said just shows exactly why you can't be with him and why you deserve so much better.

My ex used to say things like that to me, and make me second guess myself too. It was Women'a Aid who made me realise it all

Oh @shitwithsugaron 😔
No-one had the right to call you a fucking idiot, least of all someone who is supposed to love you. That's not love x

@TigerDater bodily fluids that’s hilarious 😂😂😂.

@shitwithsugaron what an abusive arsehole he is. Honestly you are well rid- you are so much better off going into Christmas and the new year without a nasty person like him. New year, fresh start.

I know things were difficult with your mum but I hope it's improved- I genuinely think she was probably terrified inside for you and just didn't know how to handle it

Oh shitwith - sorry it's come to this but counselling will help (it's not your fault

Tiger 😂😂😂😂

I'm debating a little bit of personal development. I like sex, consider myself fairly good at/in touch with it so am wondering if the OMGYes site is worth the investment....

This person thinks so - cathyreisenwitz.com/review-omgyes-website-trying-close-orgasm-gap/?fbclid=IwAR3USudDtAekSwJuCYroZt8fjAfOXL7iSPoahb98po7bjndaK2cIpl_qCfQ

Anyone here used it?

@shitwithsugaron give yourself time , you’ve been through a lot of ups and downs x

You're pretty amazing yourself shitwith - it's so hard to do what's right, sometimes, when it's not what we really want xxx

@Nomore I had a look, not worth the money in my opinion not much I hadn’t picked up over the years, I found it after Emily Watson raved about it!!

Honestly I feel just bloody amazing. How can I be this lucky? I need to pinch myself!
The best thing about it is that we already know each other. It's never been just sex, I think maybe because at first neither of us wanted or could see it going anywhere, we were relaxed enough to talk about anything and tell each other our deepest darkest secrets.

He just leaned in, cupped my chin and said "I feel like I've won the lottery" I think I melted!

I'm so glad I came back on here, I think I needed the kick up the arse to tell him how I felt.

At the pub now just hoping he won't be long 😬

It's heaving in here so nowhere to go and sit and hide til he arrives 😂

Oh god please let him turn up 😬

And let him be a decent height too 😂

@midthirtiesandsingle sounds Amazing !! @TheDevilsPedicure have fun

@midthirtiesandsingle that is so lush, I'm so glad to see what's happened for you today. Nice to have a bit of magic for once- it seems rare.

Oh god I hate waiting- it's ok if it's quieter but bloody hell I feel self conscious stood he waiting. I deliberately arrive early so I can be composed when they arrive 😂

Devils pedicure - i hope radio silence is a good thing?

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking 😩 the search goes on. He was a nice guy but no chemistry. I need someone who can give me the fanny gallops instantly and who I'm desperate to kiss. I'm just walking home from the pub now.

I hope you're doing ok today x

@TheDevilsPedicure you weren’t long 😂 but I can tell in 5 mins if I fancy them or not

@Jane1978xx it's about 30 seconds for me 😂

I think 30 seconds for a defo no 😂.

I've actually been feeling fine about the FWB thing. But then tonight going to the pub where I met him and not having the same chemistry, it just takes me back to when I first met him and I would just fucking love to go back to that night or have something like that with someone else. We just clicked from the start. Had a right laugh, fancied each other, he grabbed me and kissed me and we were probably quite indecent on the sofa 😂 those are the things I liked about him too.

I do miss him tonight. I'm ok but feeling a bit lonely I admit and just waiting for someone else to come along who makes me feel that way. It's him I miss but it doesn't have to be him- it's not going to be him, I just want someone who does the same

Wandering home singing fluorescent adolescent as that is honestly how I feel right now 😂

midthirties wow what a great ending. I have massively enjoyed this story please tell us what happens next.

devilspedicure well done for getting back out there. I haven’t seen anyone new (despite trying since August) just Mr big but hopefully arranging a few dates

I am at a mates tonight’s she is new to old, she just told me she swiped left on Mr big the other week 😂😁😁