Dating thread 177. Drinking Prosecco on our own trying to arrange a christmas snog

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@saltysally what is fab? That's one I've never heard of

@uttersocks sounds intriguing.

I came up with the perfect photo for my IG. a photo of the jewellery I bought myself for xmas taken in such a way so that it showed my legs and bare feet in a subtly suggestive way that still managed to be totally appropriate for my feed. Then I talked about how it was my fave present and I loved jewellery but didn't say I'd bought it for myself.

Mr Rigger popped up and admitted he had fancied me (knew it) and begged for a second date to see if he could win me over. Fuck it. Why not? Worst that happens is I have to tell him I still don't fancy him. So that's the 2nd.

Oh and I have a date on the 4th with new iron Mr climber. Guess what we're doing lol

And on the 12th I'm going to a... Specialist club with Mr Pilates. Which I'm excited about. Esp as he's still coming over the following weekend.
January is looking 'sociable' if not relationshippy

Congratulations TooOld

nomore is this a specialist club as in a swingers club?

I went to one for the first time a few weeks ago with a FWB, it was so much fun. We're going again in January.

Apologies if it's another specialist club

@uttersocks sounds like he is drumming up business via dating apps. It has been known...

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking whoop!! Busy busy!!

Still nothing from MrIT. I'm tempted to block him at this stage. I feel really strung along.

I'm going to try bumble later. Meeting some friends for a quick drink so afterwards. I don't know why as I hate it! It feels like I'm not really in the apps unless I'm on tinder and I'm not going back on there yet.

@unambiguousbeard yeh thought it sounded scammy but then I suspect everything

DevilsPedicure here- wanted another name change and this felt appropriate for the thread 😂

I'm fed up this weekend. This was my childfree weekend between Xmas and new year and I'm really disappointed to have no dates lined up.

Yes it is @shitwithsugaron one of my new year resolutions is to start studying with my lap top in cafes rather than at home. Also my uni is really really square but I'm moving next door to a very arty one and I can use their library so will be doing that.

That’s an excellent idea unambiguous, I’m going to try that!

sorting kink event. Similar but not quite the same.
He's never been before and I've only been a couple of times many years ago with a much more experienced D so it's a bit of an exploration thing...

Am at the panto with the kids. It's magical. My 4 year old is entranced and it's such a special experience

Ah my ex has just come round to say he had asked his girlfriend to move in Not sure how I feel apart from to think I'll get even less help with my daughter as he won't want her there as much OR will risk my daughter confiding in another woman who does not have my best interests at heart (we aren't divorced yet and worried about money) and it being even more tricky for me to date 🤨 I don't care about him at all any more but I have no family of my own and feel a bit sad that my kids can go and play happy families with her lot and I am just here working ridiculous hours, struggling to cope, paying for everything, supporting the kids, while he lives off her cash (like he did mine) and enjoys himself. Plus I hate my job and it is causing me massive stress and I have nobody to offload on, always have to be happy, smiley, coping me, when inside I am like that Scream painting 😱 Fucking great end to the year

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@TooOldForThis67 huge congratulations!!!!

@Sunshineandflipflops good luck meeting MrAds kids today

Had a lovely Boxing Day with my son and MissH came over in the evening. Was half expecting son would park himself on his PS4 but we spent the whole evening chatting and playing games together, was lovely and they get on well 👍

Son goes back to his mum's tonight and MissH and I have the weekend together. Haven't had much time to ourselves the last 2 or 3 weeks so apart from going out for dinner tonight think I know where we'll be spending most of it. Tmi I know but apparently I need to find something to tie her to the bed with tonight 🤩 Might tie her up and go out with the lads 🤣🤣

In all seriousness, it's lovely to have a GF who is happy to tell me what she enjoys or would like to try after 20 odd years with a partner who turned her nose up every time I suggested anything different to the same routine of 2 positions.

@shitwithsugaron no, I once took my laptop and worked in Spoons. Best decision ever - wine, dessert and table service with their app. Better than a cafe

UtterSocks it sounds a difficult time for you at the moment. Ex moved straight in with OW so although it was a double whammy at the time, I know if it'd have been different I would have been upset to find out they were moving in together.
Enjoy your weekend Ant I have had some sort of sexual awakening with MrY and can't get enough of it 😂 it's bloody lovely!

@JeSuisPrest. I would go mental if there was an early day girl friend with my kids

I too am trying to say yes to new places or things to do to meet more people..Am off to a date in a bit ..Really worried he sounds normal and nice ...Why do we think the worst..I call him Mr seadog.. lives bybthe sea and has a dog and no kids ... I have 2 sons aged 24and19 ..so will gently test the child free reason he is mid 40s ...... ...

Need to catch up on the thread but have had a lovely day. Met Mr Ad's kids very briefly as I had to leave soon after they arrived but it was fine. They are 15 and 17 so not the most talkative!

Left there and have been at another get together at my friends house and am now walking home where Mr Ad us going to meet me very soon.

I'm not sure what the future will hold but right now, I'm happier than I thought I would be this time last year 😊

Ladies, heeeelllp. New to OLD as was in a 10yr marriage until a yr ago. Have enjoyed OLD so far and met some interesting guys. 3 weeks ago I met a guy online and we hit it off. He messages me throughout the day to tell me about his day, we call eachother and have been on 3 fab dates (would've been more but he has been away for a week on business). In no hurry to get into a relationship but 2 more dates planned for this week and things are heating up. Have told him no sex until exclusivity which he gets but when is reasonable to expect exclusivity (as in not hooking up with others, not as in relationship) 5 dates? 10? I know he is active on Hinge as his location changes which is fair enough as I am also dating others (didn't want to put all eggs in 1 basket). But... I like this guy, a lot...and don't want to invest more time and have sex until I know its reciprocated...don't want to be played. Also, do you initiate the conversation or will that terrify a guy? I'm so clueless....