Dating thread 177. Drinking Prosecco on our own trying to arrange a christmas snog

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Really happy for midthirties, I love Christmas love story.

Eesha obviously I’m not thrilled about the idea of it but I wasn’t sure about how much of it was just part and parcel of modern day dating. I don’t think he is sleeping with anyone else tbh, I know he wasn’t sleeping with/dating anyone before we had our first date and he said hadn’t slept with anyone between dates 2 and 3 and I said I hadn’t either. His work schedule is crazy anyway so I don’t know when he’d have the time but I’ll bring it up next time we see each other, i don’t think it’s the kind of conversation to have over text.

Aw lovely story @midthirtiesandsingle
Well done for fessing up to him. It certainly worked in your favour.

So I'm feeling a bit disappointed.
Mr Ad currently lives in a house share as his marriage broke down quite horribly a year ago and in order to get away and to give up alcohol he relocated to where he works and had to get something quickly and cheaply.

He felt that he could now rent a flat of his own and went to view one today to then find out that the amount of money he has to pay in backdated tax owing is going to push him into not being able to afford to move for the foreseeable. It's his fault and he openly admits this as while he was in the grips of alcoholism he buried his head in the sand with his tax and now he is having to face up to it and pay it all back.

He is really down now and I am disappointed as I have to say, the thought of not having to stay with him in a glorified student house was lovely.

He is meeting my kids this weekend so I guess he'll be able to spend a bit more time here.

Hi all - popping in after a ridiculously busy and hectic couple of weeks (both socially and at work). How lovely to have a Christmas love story with @midthirtiesandsingle Amazing!!! So happy for you @midthirties! I keep thinking I am not bothered about my irons and OLD generally and then read something like this and feel quite wistful - maybe secretly I do want someone but am not daring to admit it to myself after my awful marriage and then 2 years on my own...

Sending hugs and virtual glasses of prosecco to all of you having a hard time, esp @shitwithsugaron and @NoMoreWeepingAndWanking (sorry have not read back too far as this thread is like War and Peace)

Not much news from me - had a date or two with irons who looked OK online but were not for me. Mr Personality has gone (he had a really good reason and I"m over it but he was the only one I liked). I can't seem to get any momentum going with OLD despite 6 dates now (all with different people). Have a few irons - Mr Irish and Mr Boat (both nice enough keen but have cancelled dates with both of them as not feeling it), Mr Media (decent looking but I don't massively fancy him - but we have so much in common and get on so well I am hoping he does it for me in person although we haven't had time to meet yet), Mr FreeSpirit (handsome, nice, lives too far away) and Mr Beard who I have the most enormous crush on and am meant to be seeing on Monday but he doesn't message much and have a feeling he might let me down. Also I have stalked him on social media a little bit (!) and he is very successful and his ex-wife, who he still gets on with, is way more gorgeous than me which makes me feel a bit Ironic! I want the one that I can't have as The Smiths once said.

Hoping you all have lovely Christmasses, even if you are not spending them in the most ideal circumstances in some cases (always the case of compromise with separations). I have barely bought a present so the next 3 days will mostly be last minute rushing about (and checking my phone to see if MrBeard has texted me! Sigh)

@midthirtiesandsingle

So pleased!!!!

@Sunshineandflipflops I suppose at least he knows now and can then start saving again. My ex, also an alcoholic, was similar, head in sand, but at least Mr Ad knows he wants to get out of the shared place soon enough, plus you have yours too!

@Sleepysundown I'd say give it a chance and attraction can grow. My current FWB was someone I wasn't attracted to in the least but it certainly grew on me and we have been seeing each other for 9 months now.

I should have been working today but couldn’t concentrate due to midthirties updates so have been chatting.

I think I now have irons!
Me Giant, Mr Coolname and Mr fact. 🙌

Oh I am SO pleased and just a touch jealous of Mid it’s such a lovely story!!

Yeeessssss! midthirties fantastic update!

@midthirtiesandsingle omg omg omg in so happy for you! And a tiny little bit jealous that this couldn't have happened with my FWB but really am so happy for you, what a fantastic update 💐💐

Checking in, my coffee date didn’t happen he’s got flu!! Oh well I think I was relieved than anything else, maybe a sign I’m not ready for dating yet! We’ll see if he tries to arrange another one.

Caught up a bit so pleased for you @midthirtiesandsingle just the best

Ok going on another date tonight.

This is with a lad I matched with a couple of times before but for whatever reason we never met up. Matched again on tinder today and pretty much instantly we've arranged a drink tonight. This is how I like it, I actually want a bloody date, not endless messages 😂

Now the debate about what to wear again....

Checking in

I've uninstalled all apps. Sacked off all men and told Mr Pilates I'm offline until January.
This is what i need right now

midthirties that was supposed to be my story! Seriously, pleased as punch for you. Whooped in the silent carriage pleased.

Embarrassing incident at Mr Greedy’s rented place, encountered landlord at 7am who later proceeded to lecture Mr G about not having overnight guests. FFS. I think landlord was jealous because we both looked shagged out 😂

Jesus Tiger. Sounds like a Victorian boarding house!

Thankyou @shitwithsugaron

I hope you're doing ok, I think the freedom programme would be great for you x

@TigerDater where on earth does he live bay he's not allowed overnight guests?!

I know! It’s a serviced apartment, he was whinging about ‘bodily fluids’ 😂

nomore I think being off the apps for a bit is a good idea. Regroup and heal. I’m sorry you’ve been having such a tough time 💐