Husband left for woman half his age.

[Apricot10]

Just that really.
He has left me for a 25 year old. He is 40 next month.
We have two children 6 and 9. My DS is Autistic. So I have been left with two children who can't understand why he has gone, especially my DS.
He has moved in with her, so I said I wasn't happy with the children visiting his place as they need more time to adjust to us being apart before he introduces anyone else.
So he is taking them to their grandparents when he has them.
He told me all of this by text. Won't give me her name said I might stalk her. (Like I have the time if I wanted to)
We were together 18 years married 11. I am totally devastated. Just been wrapping presents crying my eyes out.
I just feel so helpless and desperate.
I can't look at him, I feel sick when I do. I loved him for so many years. Why do they do this? What can he surely have in common with this girl?

@LJenn he also said I am in no rush to get divorced, we can do it in our own time. Yep, alright love! he doesn't know it's already started without him. Mwhahaha!
@Gutterton Yep, you are right again. He is setting the scene to come back and he is making sure I don't contact her telling her what he has said. He said she is a really nice girl...the "but" didn't come but it was nearly said. I almost feel sorry for her. Almost. He is using her to pay half the bills I found out she is the only one on their tenancy agreement and bills are all in her name. He has no commitment in that set up either. He really is keeping his options open. Total prat!
I really hope he comes begging I so want to go Nooooo! Then flounce off in a fabulous way! 😂 house is going well, trying to work out if I can fit a kitchen at the moment.🤔

@justilou1 soggy twat! Made my night that comment.

You're ace, OP.

I cannot BELIEVE he has the face to start trying to sow the very obvious seeds of reconciliation- I don’t think he’s had to accept emotional responsibility for ANYTHING so far and it is going to at some point hit him like a ton of bricks. And there’ll be nothing he can say - ‘oh kids, your mother just didn’t want to try’ ‘Er dad, you moved out and in with another woman, didn’t you?’

Twat. Go you!

Been following your thread op and just want to say...you go girl!

Your children are so lucky to have you for their mummy.

"I'm in no rush to get divorced.." @Apricot10

LOL 😂😂😂 oh my god. Are you not mate??? Aaaaw shame😂😂.

I can’t wait for his shocked response when he receives letters from your solicitor. He’s going to be rather horrified and is going to up his victim ante with friends and family.

Just read the whole thread OP. You are an inspiration 💐 You are a fantastic mother and person. You’ve done so well. What a woman.

You know exactly how his dad little life will play out now, the sad sack of shit he is. Karma is a bitch 😆

*sad

Thanks everyone, sorry I haven't caught up for a few days. Well, the latest (and bravo to those who called it) they are splitting up.
This whole thing is text book. It's all gone tits up, the grass isn't greener and I feel smug as hell now. Can't wait to say a big fat NO! When he asks to come back.

Well we all saw that one coming lol I bet this is such a great feeling, I’m still waiting for ex and OW to split up but the longer it goes on the less I think they will it’s been a year now.

What fabulous news! Pop out the champers and toast the unhappy couple.

Seriously though - expect him to behave really desperately, pleading, promising etc -

I wouldn’t even give him airtime - I would forgo that pleasure and block him.

Expect him to try to halt the divorce and now start messing around with access to confuse the kids. This will be v disruptive for them - so don’t let it happen.

He will also start looking v closely at money now that his brain in out of his pants.

He might also get back with her again in a few months - so don’t hitch your waggon to their psycho-drama.

Which one of them is moving out of the flat?

Expect the ILs doorstepping you.
Send them packing.

It would be distasteful of me to bask in the unhappiness of others but.. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!
😂😂

(Cough) I mean Aaaaw shame😫😂. And now we wait...⏱⏱🔎👁
Hope you have a great weekend OP, always great to hear from you. Hope the kids are well 💐💐

Oh dear, poor boy. So which address will you be using for the divorce papers? If his parents, they will definately be on your doorstep. Don't give in to the pleading etc.

I predict he will really step up trying to put ‘the family back together’ and will lay it on thick about your duty to the children to try. Do not fall for it, you have been the only person willing to put those kids first, putting their tentative stability at risk for their useless father would be to their detriment

Hi OP - just read your thread from the beginning
Go Girl ❤️ you have done amazingly #soproud

Oh how predictable, what a muppet

OP, you are AWESOME

And that is a lovely delivery of Karma!

Don't worry everyone I am more than ready for a fight. I know he will be trying to worm his way back in. He is leaving her, I don't know much info as I didn't ask him to elaborate. I just asked where was planning on living, he said he didn't know. I just said maybe you could be someone's lodger?!
I am ploughing ahead as normal. I hope she is hurting right now, I know it sounds nasty of me. But they ripped my heart out between them, so I hope it damn well hurts! Kids are doing great, they really settled and happy right now. we are all doing really well.
I will also not be allowing the ex ILs anywhere near me. They will remain blocked.

Whatever you do OP don’t take him back. You’re doing great without him

Maybe life with her just wasn't as "fun" as he imagined it would be😂😂😂😂. Imagine..... he threw everything he had away for this.. what a dickhead. Onwards and upwards💕💕🥳

@LJenn exactly. He threw away his family for a few month fling. What a knob! Don't worry I won't be taking him back. I have more self respect than that.

Moving forward just me and the kids, the future is bright. I am so glad I didn't allow him to introduce her to the kids.

This is how we all see you now!

@justilou1